What my asian parents told me while growing up as a young girl.

>10-15 years old "NEVER talk to boys"
>16 years old "they will distract you from study"
>17 years old "they will ruin future"
>18 years old "they will get you pregnant"
>Suddenly late 20s: why don't you have a boyfriend?
>30: Why don’t you go out on dates
>31: When are you getting married

And when I finally tried to date, I realized I was terrified of connecting with men because I was never taught how. I didn't know how to talk to them, let alone trust them. I had been raised to fear them.

When I opened up about that, they didn't try to understand, they just tried to force me into a relationship with a man they picked.

Sure, he was well educated and from a positioned family, but his personality was trash. Arrogant, shallow, obsessed with money and status. I didn't like him, so I said no.

Then, when I finally found someone who actually made me happy, a kind, genuine man but they tried to drive him away because he was Hispanic and did't meet their list of elitist "requirements."

Who's getting married here? me or them? And now they say they won't come to my wedding. Which hurts me deeply. But I don't lose the hope they will come around and understand he makes me happy and cares about my heart.

>>33253567 (OP)
I am Hispanic so I don't come from that controlling background that exists in Asia (and other countries too). You are your own boss. Be with whoever YOU choose to be with. Marriage is a government contract and isn't necessary. Be yourself. Be honest and up front. Learn martial arts and build muscle to protect yourself. Make your own fortune, don't rely on a man to provide. Talking to men with the intent to date is easy; be a friend to gain a friend.

>>33253567 (OP)
Yeah it sounds like they are controlling but it seems like there is love there. I hope they come around. It seems like you've made your choice.

>>33253567 (OP)
I have noticed that Asian parents tend to straight up not love their own children and intentionally sabotage them because they want them to fail. Unfortunately your options are to be miserable forever in hopes of pleasing your parents, who will eventually die before you do so it doesn't even matter anyway, or do whatever you want and piss them off until they die and you won't have to worry about it anymore.

>>33257049
I think it's just tunnel vision and anger and disappointment but I'm not asian

>>33257037
Nigger almost every thread in /adv/ and /pol/ gets reposted there.

>>33253567 (OP)
>18 years old
>suddenly late 20s
That's a bit of a timeskip.
They might not have gone about it the right way (they should have guided you on how and when to interact with men, not just dissuaded you), but in general, teenage boys and young men aren't reliable partners. So relationships with them are likely to be a lot of drama with little chance of lasting commitment. But once you're in your early 20s, guys that age or a little older are more likely to have their shit together.

>>33257078
It's common for Asian parents to encourage their daughters to marry older men anyways. They encouraged her to wait so that it would be harder for her to get married, because east Asians do not value marriage or family and would rather have an educated spinster daughter than a daughter who will contribute to the future of their country.