I am a 31 and not had a girlfriend or sex. But I think its mostly because my outlook on relationships and sex is very not healthy. To me, sex is just a means of injecting destruction directly into your life because introduces insane situations that can't happen if you don't have sex. One, pregnancy. I am terrified of getting a woman pregnant randomly. I am also terrified of potential drama that comes with sex. I have seen people in relationships get into arguments and fights and it legit scares me because what I found to be rational people are DEFINITELY not rational when arguing with their spouse or whatever. Something about arguing with your spouse seems to change people negatively. On the flip side. I definitely want to be in a healthy relationship and have a family of my own. I don't know why I have this outlook but still want to engage in it all. I am scared of the act of sex itself also. Its so alien to me that I am going to have to drop my pants and put my dick inside of a woman. The fear involved would make it so an erection is impossible. I don't know how people get erections in such a situation and feel comfortable enough to even engage in that situation. Where did it all go wrong for me? How did my sexual and relationship mindset get this way? What can I do to fix it?

>>33254473 (OP)
>pregnancy fear
rational. pregnancy introduces a lot of factors. health risks. financial challenges even before the baby is born.
>drama/emotional irrationality fear
understandable, but definitely a you problem. of course people are more emotionally charged/overwhelmed during relationship strife. hits a lot of chords. haven’t you had to work through any kind of emotional frustrations in friendships or with family?
>penetration fear
yeah dude you’re fucked.

just sounds like you’ve warped this idea of relationships and intimacy in your head and the best way of confronting it would literally just be to ask a girl out. have a crush, go on dates. get rejected, keep trying.

>>33254527
I see what you mean. I am just very afraid of a woman ruining my life. Or rather, I don't want who I am to change because I got a girlfriend. I have seen many of friends who through such things. Even basic shit like "Oh sorry guys, I can't play right now. girlfriend wants to go to bed now." I just don't want my own character to become compromised.

>>33254473 (OP)
>Why is my viewpoint on sex so messed up?
because you spent too much time thinking about it instead of practicing it
most things we do, breathing, shitting, eating can become messed up in our heads if we think about them long enough.

>>33254574
You seem very introspective and there's nothing wrong with giving up your identity for someone else. Still, if you would miss out on cuddling with your girl, even without sex involved, your head isn't in the right place about what you want. You're isolated to the point you don't know how deep that connection goes when it's genuine. With the right person, you'd change many aspects of yourself and your life on your own.

You're never going to have that motivation if you're too scared to consider it because of what COULD happen. Instead, understand what you don't want and build a relationship based on that. Woman didn't like what you were offering or what you wanted? Fuck her, move on, but try to compromise in a way that would make you both happy first. If you can't, go to the next one.

I'm 32 and have had sex but no serious relationships, all unhealthy things where I was used as a pressure valve for someone else going through shit. Only made me feel worse. Sex is overrated. The emotional part is why you stay.

I highly, highly recommend you see a sex therapist to help you work through your fear of penetrating. That one won't fly.

i just fucked my wife in front of the mirror so i could see her face the whole time. i creampied her and took a video of my cum dripping out of her pussy onto the floor

>>33254473 (OP)
>I am scared of the act of sex itself also. Its so alien to me that I am going to have to drop my pants and put my dick inside of a woman
whats scary about that? she wants for you do that

>>33254669
Cool. Post it.

>>33254473 (OP)
Your T has fallen off a cliff, or you’re on SSRIs for all your self-induced pathologies?

Getting hard whilst in the presence of reasonably attractive naked vagina is literally the only thing you were born to do. One fucking job, anon.

>>33255033
if he gets morning woods then it's purely psychological thing

>>33254976
i don’t want to

>>33255105
You don’t want to post your slampiggy wife’s fat cooze. Got it.

>>33254574
>im afraid of having my life ruined
Sounds like youre doing that yourself if this is such a big issue for you.

Imagine youre 70 years old alone and nearing your end.
Would you think "good thing I never got anyone pregnant or had to compromise a bit to share my life with someone, though" or what?

>>33255138
my wife isn’t fat. don’t project your shitty fucking life on to me

>>33255208
>it was real in my mind

>>33254473 (OP)
Honestly, anon, someone with your attitude is going to be much, much happier staying single and sex-free for life.

>>33255519
He doesnt sound too happy.

>>33254473 (OP)
I'm like that too. family/relationships is not an option for some of us. you learn to live with it