How are you doing?

I’ll start: I'm breaking.

I do literally everything for my son, get up with him every single day. I take him to and from daycare every single day. I do all of the shopping, the cooking, the errands, yard work house work, dog stuff, doctor appts, swim classes, parks etc etc.

I know she has postpartum depression or anxiety and I’ve been really trying to tough it all out thinking it will get better and she will come around, but I just don’t know anymore. I feel like my wife is taking advantage of me, she knows that everything she doesn’t do or help with, i will just do, because it has to be done.

I almost shit my pants driving to work this week because she just didn’t have enough time to watch him for even three minutes that morning so I could take a dump. Most mornings she wouldn’t even see him if it wasn’t for me bringing him upstairs to say good bye to her. It’s been a year and a half of this now

I try to not confine this kind of stuff in the people who would listen/care because of how terrible it makes my wife look as a parent and mother. Shes has been to therapy a few times which hasn’t amounted to much help. I don’t think she’s tells them the truth, but I can’t make her do that.

>>33256683 (OP)
Doing great!
This period you are in is very short, passes quickly, and fades from memory astonishingly fast.
And since I have 6 kids I also know that you are probably faking this and LARPing since any post-partum depression usually lasts only 4-5 months even if untreated and you claim your kid is in daycare yet you claim your kid is 18 months old and you put your kid in daycare with a SAHM.

Also, the idea that she's been in therapy a few times with no result when post partum is chemical and rather easily treated is, well, a serious tell that you a fucking liar.
>18 months old
>swim classes
funny AF
>doctor appointments
you mean all three since he left the hospital?
almost more cringe than funny
>didn't have three minutes to shit
LMAO!
You stupid fuck! you can *easily* leave an 18 month old alone in a crib or such for 20-30 minutes at a time! And if you are a paranoid sort, just take him into the bathroom and let him play with toys as you take a dump!
You sound like someone that has never been around a young kid, you fucking loser

>>33256683 (OP)
>wahhh i have to take care of my own child while my wife is sick
bait + not readin all that

seems like you bit off more than you can chew choosing home ownership over a primary breadwinner situation but it's w/e if you made it to 18 months you can make it to 36 months

i've got faith in you

>>33256724
i also thought swim lessons was ?? but if you look at it as a dual income debtoid american dreammaxxing family it makes sense

>>33256683 (OP)
Well, obviously, you need to find someone who is not your wife to help you with childcare. One of you must have a friend or relative who could help out, surely? Does the kid have an uncle, an aunt, a grandparent?

Post partum depression is not something you want to mess with, btw. It's so much more powerful than regular depression it's barely comparable. It can tip over into psychosis. Take it seriously.

>>33257750
>It can tip over into psychosis. Take it seriously.

This, happened to my mom. She had to go into a psych ward for a while and she was dependent on meds her whole life, which ruined her body and she died prematurely, never making it to 60.

>>33256683 (OP)
Did you really have a kid without having the ppd discussion? Or having any support to help at all?
You're a fucking moron
Lay down the law and tell her to get her ass in gear
She'll either do it or her PPD mind will make her kill the baby then herself freeing you anyway

>>33256683 (OP)
Also in doing alright OP. My baby ain't born yet, wife is about to go into 2nd trimester. I got no clue how hard it's gonna be or not. Already the difficulty is ramping up lol. I'm taking responsibility over everything now, cooking and cleaning and working. Sleep has been tough, wife keeps rolling around and tossing and turning in her sleep and it's been waking me up every few hours each night.

I agree with this anon especially:
>>33257750

Try and find relatives or trusted confidants to help out. It takes a village to raise a kid, not just mom and dad. It's okay to ask for the help. Example: My older brother's friend is a father of two. We only know him through my bro. He often asks if we can help with his kids whenever he needs to take them to the play park, asks us to help look out for them while he naps sitting on the park bench lol. And we do it happily, cuz we understand he's busting his ass and he needs to find the rest where he can find it.

You gotta do the same. If you wanna be a strong man/strong dad, you gotta be strong enough to admit you need assistance from time to time so that you can stay strong. Rest is part of staying strong, so go find ways to get it