>>33257382 (OP)Well I have only ever known one autistic girl - my SIL. She is a grade A fucking asshole. She was already pretty self-centered and annoying when we met, but it got 10x worse after the autism diagnosis. She has made being autistic her entire identity and personality. She insists on wearing sunglasses 24/7 because light is "too stimulating". She always requests to be allowed to set up custom lighting at work and being allowed to wear headphones so she doesn't get "overstimulated". She immediately tells everyone she meets that she is autistic and uses it to be an asshole and talk shit to everyone's face and insult people. If you call her out or get upset she complains that you have to give her allowances because she is autistic and can't help it and you're just sensitive and an ableist privileged neurotypical. She complains that it is basically impossible to make friends as an autist, but it is only because she is so hellbent on veing an autist. She was still a total asshole before the diagnosis, but despite that she was one of the most sociable people I have ever known and made friends fucking everywhere she went, it was crazy how good she was at talking to strangers.
I hope something in this story has helped you.