Making friends as an autistic girl is hell - /adv/ (#33257382) [Archived: 958 hours ago]

Anonymous
6/22/2025, 6:42:54 AM No.33257382
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Women hate you for being too weird, men hate you for the same reasons except some of them only befriend you to fuck you, autist women are usually LGBT and/or trannies trying to be men, autist men are really fucking mean for no reason at all and self deprecate all the time. Maybe its me, maybe I dont deserve any friends. Hell, I even browse 4chan. Its just over. I wish I knew how to make friends
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Anonymous
6/22/2025, 6:46:23 AM No.33257397
Hey, that's okay. I think that under certain circumstances this is beneficial as it will allow you to have more fruitful and open relationships with people who actually care about you. Of course there is pain, but I think that associstion with pain is closer to being an authentic human than most people will get to.
Anonymous
6/22/2025, 6:47:59 AM No.33257406
>>33257382 (OP)
It's ADHD too, difficult I mean. It's different in some ways, where you can be in a relationship. But no one wants to stay in one with you because of the difficulty of putting up with shit. I wish I could give you advice, but I'm sitting in this hell too.
Anonymous
6/22/2025, 7:27:59 AM No.33257516
>>33257382 (OP)
>autist men are really fucking mean for no reason at all
No? As an autist yourself you should spot this bluntness for what it is. Its not being mean
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Anonymous
6/22/2025, 7:32:16 AM No.33257521
>>33257382 (OP)
Meh, autism is generally a positive for me. The worst thing a woman can do is be blatantly disrespectful, or to lie.
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Anonymous
6/22/2025, 7:34:06 AM No.33257525
>>33257521
If that's not something you can hold yourself to the same standards with, you shouldn't hold anyone else to it.
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Anonymous
6/22/2025, 7:43:14 AM No.33257535
>>33257525
It is and I do.
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Anonymous
6/22/2025, 7:45:48 AM No.33257537
>>33257535
No white lies or lies to escape inconvenience? Never do something you know would be taken as disrespectful, but do it anyway?
Anonymous
6/22/2025, 7:54:41 AM No.33257553
>>33257382 (OP)
Just be friends with men and don't have sex with them.
Zach
6/22/2025, 8:14:30 AM No.33257571
Sometimes in life you got to look past a monster's behavior without the bullshit radar, and then afterwards you see the real person underneath. Unfortunately because you are consumed by fear, that is unlikely to happen. I wish people would stop living in fear sometimes.
Anonymous
6/22/2025, 8:38:49 AM No.33257627
>>33257382 (OP)
Just make friends with other autists. There's a ton on WoW.
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Anonymous
6/22/2025, 8:40:32 AM No.33257633
>>33257627
TBDesu I actually didn't read your post before I replied. After reading it, though
> are really fucking mean for no reason at all and self deprecate all the time
That's contradictory. Are you saying they're mean to you but then they're self-deprecating? If so, then it's clearly nothing personal. Or do you just mean they're TOO self-deprecating and they come across as being mean to themselves? How do you know they're autistic and not just massive faggots?
Anonymous
6/22/2025, 11:56:06 AM No.33257992
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>>33257382 (OP)
How hard "show booba" for you?
Anonymous
6/22/2025, 12:02:30 PM No.33258002
>>33257516
I feel like lots of autists are not self aware. They are blunt af and then get butthurt when someone is blunt to them too.
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Anonymous
6/22/2025, 9:07:00 PM No.33259525
>>33258002
This is hilarious but true. Total glass cannon
Anonymous
6/22/2025, 9:30:12 PM No.33259663
>>33257382 (OP)
Well I have only ever known one autistic girl - my SIL. She is a grade A fucking asshole. She was already pretty self-centered and annoying when we met, but it got 10x worse after the autism diagnosis. She has made being autistic her entire identity and personality. She insists on wearing sunglasses 24/7 because light is "too stimulating". She always requests to be allowed to set up custom lighting at work and being allowed to wear headphones so she doesn't get "overstimulated". She immediately tells everyone she meets that she is autistic and uses it to be an asshole and talk shit to everyone's face and insult people. If you call her out or get upset she complains that you have to give her allowances because she is autistic and can't help it and you're just sensitive and an ableist privileged neurotypical. She complains that it is basically impossible to make friends as an autist, but it is only because she is so hellbent on veing an autist. She was still a total asshole before the diagnosis, but despite that she was one of the most sociable people I have ever known and made friends fucking everywhere she went, it was crazy how good she was at talking to strangers.

I hope something in this story has helped you.
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Anonymous
6/22/2025, 9:54:30 PM No.33259812
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>>33259663
Thank you for your essay.
Anonymous
6/23/2025, 12:02:18 AM No.33260477
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>>33257382 (OP)
i have no friends either. i have an adhd bf though, he's my only "friend". but truthfully i haven't had a single friend after middle school. so for about 10 yeard i haven't had a friend. none, nada.
i guess being an autistic women automatically means you'll never get friends.
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Anonymous
6/23/2025, 12:16:26 AM No.33260555
>>33257382 (OP)
>autist men are really fucking mean for no reason at all and self deprecate all the time
Thats a generalisation that does not apply to any of the turbo tards I know.
Anonymous
6/23/2025, 12:21:43 AM No.33260583
>>33257382 (OP)
Single?
Anonymous
6/23/2025, 12:26:23 AM No.33260606
>>33260477
You need to be really careful. My bf of 5 years dumped me a few months ago and I didn't even realize I had zero friends other than him, until I felt so shitty I needed to talk to someone and realized I literally talked to no one else. So try to make other friends, putting everything into your bf seems romantic but he can dump you at any time and then you'll go into a suicidal downward spiral with no one to catch you. It's the only breakup I've ever had and had no idea it could hurt that bad. Friends are so important. I've managed to make one friend since then - a girl who was also going through a breakup - and we trauma bonded over our exes and it's made me feel so much better just having this one friend. Maybe even saved my life.
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Anonymous
6/23/2025, 9:04:50 AM No.33262244
>>33260477
>>33260606
you both should look into autistic communities, perhaps not to make friends right away but aquitances for a start. I've been doing that and to be fair I'm pretty much content with interacting online and everyone is so friendly to me.
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Anonymous
6/23/2025, 2:11:08 PM No.33263039
>>33257382 (OP)
You too should understand how hard it is from having an offensive slip up being autistic.
>really fucking mean for no reason
They are autistic without knowing how to mask or apologize.
>>33258002
This, It took me a really long time to relize I need to talk with more finess by avoiding stuff where I will be blunt. It took a lot less time to get used to people being blunt and rude to me.
Anonymous
6/23/2025, 2:12:16 PM No.33263044
>>33262244
Where are those except for 4chan?
Anonymous
6/23/2025, 3:07:45 PM No.33263296
>>33258002
>I feel like lots of autists are not self aware.
BECAUSE THEY'RE AUTISTIC
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Anonymous
6/23/2025, 3:08:37 PM No.33263304
>>33257382 (OP)
Cute hamster.
Anonymous
6/23/2025, 3:10:29 PM No.33263314
>>33257382 (OP)
Nobody wants to be around you fucking ugly bitch, it's why you have nobody and lead a loveless life.
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Anonymous
6/23/2025, 3:14:48 PM No.33263336
>>33263314
No need to be rude, nigger.
Anonymous
6/23/2025, 3:15:19 PM No.33263339
theres nothing wrong with the last one, plus youre probably meaner to them, idk if you ever visit r9k but its pretty much women bullying autistic men now
Anonymous
6/23/2025, 4:49:13 PM No.33263707
>>33257382 (OP)
Nobody wants to be friends with an ugly bitch like you. Skill issue, I'm handsome and I don't have this problem.
Anonymous
6/23/2025, 7:08:46 PM No.33264220
>>33263296
damn, someone should teach them to be more self aware, or are they on a down syndrome level and you can't expect anything?
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Anonymous
6/23/2025, 10:56:57 PM No.33264898
>>33264220
Thats the parents job but even so it is slower than most people to develop.