I feel like I’m denying myself growth because I cling to this idea of a clean valent life. I have made myself into a person that choses to help others in everyway I can, but I feel like that gives people a pass to use me and I just tolerate it because I think its inherently right. I deny myself to act negative, rude or lazy because I want to make the lives of others easier but I’m beginning to feel resentment with no healthy release. Am I retarded for projecting myself this way? Does this sound like a copying mechanism because I fear the consequences of going against whats society and my peers deem exceptable?

>>33257909 (OP)
Jesus was killed for what he did
Think about it

>>33257909 (OP)
Everything you choose to do because it feels right to do and makes you feel good to be doing (or to have done) it is A Good Thing and requires no more justification.

You can treat everyone good, even love everyone, while still putting yourself first. Learn to give your time and positive energy to those that give you time and positive energy. You can still smile with and respect people you don't fuck with, but save your 100% for those that will give you close to their 100% if that makes sense. Don't stress over people that won't stress over you. You can still be good to everyone, even if they're not all that for you. That takes strength of character on your end. You never deserve to be taken advantage of, or have people bring you down. You and everyone deserve respect at minimum and happiness if possible. But you are the only person in your life that will always 100% have your back

>>33258185
Well said

>>33257909 (OP)
> I have made myself into a person that choses to help others in everyway I can

What for? In what way does it benefit you? Do you actually feel good? Or you try to help others because you think that's "what you have to do"?

>>33258351
it benefits me because it makes me a good problem solver. I feel without my intervention things will fall apart around me and im not sure if I'm enabling them to do nothing. It feel's more like being a parent to children.

>>33258415
>it benefits me because it makes me a good problem solver
And are you respected or appreciated for being a problem solver? Not in a "how good you're here" way.

> I feel without my intervention things will fall apart around me and im not sure if I'm enabling them to do nothing. It feel's more like being a parent to children.

So your wellbeing depends on the whims and competence of others?

>>33258418
I am respected, but nothing really come from it other than more work and responsibilities

if i'm tied to them in some way, be it work or family, it's in my interest to help them because it'll cause me problems.

>>33258436
>I am respected, but nothing really come from it other than more work and responsibilities

Does that sound like they respect you anon? Or rather that they see you as useful or convenient?

>if i'm tied to them in some way, be it work or family, it's in my interest to help them because it'll cause me problems.

Fair enough. But there comes a point where you have to leave other to solve their own problems, or they'll drag you down.

>>33258465
Damn i thought being consider useful and convient by others WAS a sign of respect. Thanks for the advise anon!

>>33258185
This man knows what's up!