My girlfriend is dying. I won't go into details, but her time is limited.

I've asked her for a child. She refused. She says it would break her heart knowing the child would grow up without her. She loathed the thought of her child growing and calling another woman "mom"
Besides a pregnancy could shorten her life.

But from my side, this is the first and only woman I have ever loved, she is my first love. I don't think I could ever love another woman's child the way I would love hers. If I can't have her child, then I want no children at all.

I don't want to walk away from this relationship with nothing but grief after she is gone. Is it really so selfish to want something that lasts? Something of her that stays? At this point I know guiltripping her for a child is wrong. But I also feel it's necessary. I can't bear the thought of never looking at her eyes again. I need to look at them through our child at least.

Rawdog and guilt trip her later into not having an abortion

>>33258029 (OP)

>She says it would break her heart
>Besides a pregnancy could shorten her life.

What an absolutely selfish bastard you are.

>>33258029 (OP)
you have a valid point. she has a valid point. in the end, it's her choice IMO

she's the one who's dying, and has to die with the knowledge that she's dying young + missing out on so much. she's dying with the knowledge that you will mourn her forever. she's not dying happy

so yes i'd say it's ultimately her choice

i'm sorry anon, godspeed.

>>33258029 (OP)
All I'm hearing is
>Me me me me me
You are insufferable.

>>33258029 (OP)
Thank you for your effort at creative soap-opera writing.

>>33258052
>>33259324
>>33258064
Am I selfish? Maybe. But I'm in pain too. My pain matters. And after she's gone, I'll have nothing, no one. I'm drowning in stress, working 12 hour days to pay bills, and all I can think is that my girlfriend is dying. I want to scream but I can't because I live in the city and there is no place for that. People will think I'm crazy if i tried.

I know you won't get it, and I don't expect you to, but if we don't have a child, then there’s nothing left to prove she ever loved me. A child would be my proof that she chose me. That I wasn't just a placeholder to someone else.

>>33259855
Sorry idiot but things like cancer are pretty much real. Im glad it never happened to anyone close to you to the point you consider it fiction.

>>33259877
>all I can think is that my girlfriend is dying
And so you want to kill her sooner?

>>33259877
This is an extremely painful scenario but seriously? Take 30 minute to clear your head and stop bitching. Why do you need a child as "proof" of her love!?!? That makes no sense, you have photos, memories, millions of other things but you seem laser focused on having a child.

And you want a child that will never know it's mother, and also potentially kill your girlfriend quicker? You sound like your trying to collect a trophy that some chick loved you, I get your in pain and emotionally distressed but talk to a therapist about it, not online strangers because you think they'll agree with your train of thought.

>>33258029 (OP)
No, she's right and you're being highly selfish and not thinking about the kid's life at all.

>>33258029 (OP)
it is kinda selfish
I get you but it's her body ultimately.

>>33258029 (OP)

She's literally dying and you would expect her to go thru a pregnancy? That's rough on perfectly healthy women. And you might end up with a special needs kid if she's not healthy to carry it. You want to take that on by yourself?

Just be with her while you can and don't load her up more than she already is

>>33259877
nigger