>dating gf three months
>birthday coming up
>planned gift, $400 (a bespoke corset from her dream fashion designer)
>found out her “main” gift for me cost around $80 but she plans to have multiple smaller parts

I should get something else, shouldn’t I?

>>33258728 (OP)
F Did you guys set a budget at all?

No, just one big gift is comparable to a bunch of smaller ones.

>>33258728 (OP)
Either you're doing really well op or you're trying too hard. Try not to set the bar so high because then you have to match it every year.

>>33258867
I agree. Stop simping, anon. She'll come to expect it.

>>33258728 (OP)
If you're comparing prices the relationship is already ovver.

A $10 gift, in some people's budgets, can be a bigger expression of love than a $400 one from someone else

>>33258923
This. OP has never heard of "It's the thought that counts". Also, I feel that the corset would be for you just as much as her.

>>33258728 (OP)
The difference isnt the money, it's the thought and effort. If you're looking for your relationship to be "equal" you'll destroy it by keeping receipts and tally and constantly comparing rather than fostering the connection. If the gift she got you is something she believes you'll genuinely like, then she's doing the same for you as you are for her. Don't get taken advantage of or accept low effort and consideration, but also don't be transactional. If you care that much about expenditures then set a dollar amount together for gifts.

>>33258741
>>33258923
>>33258973
I’m just worried about it coming off too strong. I don’t really know what to get her and I know the corset is guaranteed to be something she’ll love, so it’s basically high price somewhat low effort

spending $400 on someone 3 months in is aggressive and weird and you knew it

>>33258741
>>33258923
>>33258973
I’m just worried about it coming off too strong. I don’t really know what to get her and the corset is guaranteed to be something she’ll love, so it’s basically high price somewhat low effort

>>33259025
If she'll love it then that's all that you need to know. It's not like you're buying her a car, and fuck even if you just bought her hair and nail appointment that would cost just as much. If she's happy then be happy

>>33259013
To be fair to OP, niche women's clothing like that do be expensive.

>>33259013
The average foid spends at least $1000 on herself per week. Clothes, hair/nail appointments, food, hygine products like pads and shit are expensive.

>>33259160
You did NOT just bring in feminine hygiene products into this... that's a need, not a want.

>>33259185
>You did NOT just bring in feminine hygiene products into this
I just did sweetheart, whayada gonna do about it?

>>33259041
Thanks anon. I can definitely fuck her in it too so win-win

>>33259044
sure it is. that's why it's not a three months in purchase

>>33259160
that doesn't change anything. too much for 3 months in