Literally how do I just exist in public without having some kind of excuse? I always bring a book or a laptop to feel like I have the "right" to be there by occupying myself
If I just sit there looking around people will get uncomfortable

>>33259422 (OP)
Well, why ARE you in public?

>>33259427
Sitting at home consooming media is really boring. I want to put on some cool clothes , feel like a visible human being , maybe meet a girl but she has to be the right type of girl

realize that people don't really care other people and they only think and feel insecure about themselves and will forget about you 1 minute later after they leave the place

>>33259422 (OP)
Loitering.

Focusing on some activity is a form of charisma, you can play guitar in the park or read a book in the coffee shop; you can still cast looks at girls and do nonverbal flirting . Nobody cares if you aren't being 'authentic' except for your enemies , this is what autistics don't understand . The people with the capacity to like them will be open to the duplicity because it's for their benefit

>>33259463
pick up smoking unironically

>>33259463
>feel like a visible human being
you are a visible human being. that's what happens when you're visible. people see you and have reactions. you are whining about this because you want to be in public and visible but also not seen and reacted to

you have a contradictory mindset you need to resolve

Not OP but exactly my problem too how do I become invisible at work without people feeling concerned?

>>33260538
become morbidly obese

>>33259422 (OP)
>>33259463
you can't just be a guy in cool clothes just standing around motionless not doing anything, that's a a mannequin.

Of course most people just look at their phone pretending to be doing something and occasionally only look up when they're trying to look busy in public, but that's not great.

You should have a book or something with you, as a one example of a thing, so that there's at least the slightest of chances that a girl knows your book and thinks it's really cool and will spark up a conversation. Maybe wear some niche music band t-shirt or whatever if you're into that.

but other than doing that sitting down at various chairs and benches, you still need to be a bit more active about your approach.

You need to like get into some sort of dancing and go to night clubs and music festivals or something completely different like board games and renaissance fair, maybe get into gardening and left wing politics and find you a slutty girl with hairy armpits who loves to compost or something

>the right type of girl
what kind of girl is that?

>>33260538
Just grey rock everyone. Wear big headphones or earplugs. They will understand eventually. The issue arrives when you make exceptions to your policy and then envy and hatred follow

>>33259422 (OP)
Having a job is my excuse to be in public. I work for the highway department, so I don't get bothered too much either.

Outside of work though I stay home. I genuinely do not like being around other people.

I feel this, also this is kind of how I feel just in general- not really much I want to do but be present, be seen, "connect"- but there's no way to really do that directly, so you sort of have to actually DO something and not just stand around

I like to make an effort to be comfortable standing around doing nothing in public though, because the more we feel like we have to do something to justify ourselves the more we're a tool for someone else