This is probably the most dogshit place to ask but I need advice from other people and I have no one impartial I can turn to on the matter.

After starting Uni last year I became really good friends with a girl and a few months ago she asked me out but I flunked it cause I was scared that I might fuck it up cause this is the first time a girl genuinely showed interest in me and i thought i wasnt good enough.

Anyway now she's dating another guy but we're still really good friends but im admittedly still into her even a few months after she started dating this guy.

I tried to get it out of my head but i dont know with my fear of ruining our friendship might have fucked it between us long time with me not going out with her kinda fucked jt because i can't really see myself without her at this point.

Apparently shit between them has been "messy" last time I spoke with her boyfriend (he's in a course adjacent to mine so I see him sometimes) but like I kinda feel like a shit person because I want it to fail so I can maybe have another chance with her.

I want to be with her but at the same time don't want to see her hurt because she's one of the kindest people I know so what do?

>>33259921 (OP)
If Reddit didn't help you I doubt any of us will

This is worded very poorly as well because im drunk

>>33259931
Going to reddit for anything relating to relationships is like committing suicide for fun

>>33259921 (OP)
>so what do?
Back the fuck off. If, *if*, she and her boyfriend actually break up, for reasons that have nothing to do with you, then you can ask her out again; but if you sabotage her relationship before that happens then subconsciously she will never forgive you. And you cannot ruin her chance at happiness just because you previously fucked up. You really shouldn't even be friends with her in this situation.

Honestly youre right in this regard, I wasnt going to sabotage her or anything but she's so cool and Im a genuine retard. Ive been thinking of breaking off my friendship with her and youre right ill just have to bite the bullet and do it, she deserves better

>>33259921 (OP)
>she asked me out
I can count the number of girls to ask me out on one hand, you gotta accept that next to no girls are this direct.

The next girl, if you want there to be a next girl, is gonna have to be flirted with asked out and romanced by you and not the other way around.
Even if you make friends with a new girl and you're also two great things with loads in common and you just get along great, so great that you get drunk together and end up sexing each other silly one night - one of you is gonna have to be one to be like "I want us to be a couple" if it's not "whoops that was a silly mistake"

Of course one of the other options is to try and bang her all like "oh no! Come over so I can listen to you complain about your boyfriend do you want something to drink haha". I never banged a close friend's gf, but I did bang girls who were dating mutual friends and it was 100% worth it.
The biggest consequence there on my end was that I had to go hang out with some other friends for a few months instead, and when things get "messy" in a relationship then if it's not you that girl cheats with it's gonna be some other guy at the right place and right time.

Overall though I recommend dating someone - anyone - just to get some experience and get those first date nervous farts and fuckups out of the way so eventually you can be mr romantic for your mrs perfect

>>33260165
>but if you sabotage her relationship
brother the only ones ruining that relationship is the girl and that other guy, whenever someone their relationship as "messy" or something along those lines it's 100% because of cheating.

>>33259921 (OP)
>but I flunked it cause I was scared
you got Fs in school because you were afraid of talking to a girl