I am NEVER going to befriend any girl online anymore. Met one that was perfect in every single way (great ass, great looks, great music taste, always questioned everything in terms of politics, we thought alike) and we had mutual feelings for each other. We had also never had a single argument because all of those turned into conversations. We had only known each other for about 3 months and separating from her hurt me more than any girl I've been with in real life. It's been a month now since we've separated and it doesn't hurt as much but I remind myself of how it used to be. Reason why we separated was due to living on two different continents and not wanting to leave our families. We talked through everything and there's no going back. Just had to get it off my chest, not that it would help much anyway.

Damn I’m sorry bro. That really sucks

it hurts because you only knew eachother for three months. It’s always the what if “situationships” that hurt the most. Pick yourself up and look for a new woman surely there are great ones near you

>>33260170
>It’s always the what if “situationships” that hurt the most.
Yes I agree, what hurt the most was the potential of it and having this canvas ready to see how your future could look like, it was just insane how well we got along. I'm so sad I may not find someone like her anymore. No matter how hard I try to antagonize her in my head I really can't because there's nothing to antagonize her for. I'm trying to be rational and mature about this and remember her for her good.

>Pick yourself up and look for a new woman surely there are great ones near you
Yes, touching grass is unironically the best advice I've gotten. I got more social and made some friends and despite all that I did forget for the most part. Moved from homegym to public gym (despite being afraid of doing so in the past) and it made me happier and raised my confidence.
I don't even remember what it was like to text her and it's fading but I get hit randomly with missing her when I'm not really doing anything.

First three weeks in I had no desire to have a girl because of how fucked up I was from all this, even when a girl was giving me clear signals that was quite pretty, I just had no desire to really hit her up because I was still overthinking the last thing I've had, and I am sure it will pass eventually. I am hopeful and I use every single experience to my advantage instead of contemplating suicide. Despite how bad it hurts.

Where did you meet them? Exactly how much different were they compared to past partners?

>>33260210
>Where did you meet them?
On online chatrooms. I wasn't even looking for a girlfriend and already moving on from the last relationship, she had helped me so much with getting over it. Had insanely good advice. She could easily be an amazing therapist. We both helped each other with a lot of problems and bonded heavily, we had a lot of fun together and before we noticed we were in love but didn't really admit it however we did get kinky with texting and exchanged pics.

>Exactly how much different were they compared to past partners?
Wasn't borderline leftist or a feminist, just didn't support it and had her own beliefs that were right leaning (like mine).

Compared to past partners, she was perfect in my eyes. But so is everyone until you get to fully know them, you know? Maybe it all hurts so much because I didn't really get to see her bad side or anything, although in my eyes she was literally perfect and she thought the same of me.
Not to mention that it was nearly impossible to get into an argument with her because we resolved it immediately, that's just how well we understood each other.
Another example is when I had to vent or something - I'd have to spill my guts first and sort of get angry at her and after that I'd immediately switch and get mature about it, apologizing and explaining that I need to do so and she absolutely understood everything, that it was my way of letting it all out.
No other past partner understood it and instead thought I'm attacking them.
What hurt me the most was not that she was hot but that I lost someone who understood me for the first time and I didn't have to walk on eggshells.

>>33260148 (OP)
>due to living on two different continents

how far are you two away from eachother? do planes not exist? can you not visit each other?

>>33260148 (OP)
Post pics

>>33260261
You probably didn't have to walk on eggshells in the beginning of your past relationships either. It's called the honeymoon period. Limerance. You're infatuated with one another because there isn't anything established yet for you to hold a grudge, resentment, or have pattern recognition over.

>>33260278
>how far are you two away from eachother?
About 7000 kilometers apart. She lives in UAE of all fucking places in the world. It's the last place I want to live in.

>>33260293
>You probably didn't have to walk on eggshells in the beginning of your past relationships either.
Yeah that's a nice speculation and it will make me sound stupid if I go "trust me bro she was THE ONE and she definitely understood me like no other" but that's sort of the truth. My ex's would sometimes get slightly offended if I'd say something that doesn't fit their narrative. Despite the fact we'd be both wearing rose tinted glasses.

>You're infatuated with one another because there isn't anything established yet for you to hold a grudge, resentment, or have pattern recognition over.
As I explained in my previous post, Yes. We weren't together long enough to actually test the waters and even attempt being together since it was pointless, if anything we'd grow an even bigger attachment and it would be even worse to move on from. That's why it hurts so much because I can't help but believe it would turn out great. She really was different than the other women I've known. Sorry if I sound unbelievable but trust me on this.

>>33260331
Also in case someone asks "why couldn't you just be friends?" because we couldn't hide the fact that our feelings are more than just being friends. We would be in constant pain knowing of what we cannot be and we both made this decision to simply let go and separate. Nothing personal of course, it's just the circumstances we were born in and it's better to move on from something rather than prolong the pain. When you rip the plaster out you do it quick, it will hurt either way but at least you'll take it out sooner than later.

>>33260148 (OP)
Why didn't you just stay friends, dipshit? I'm still friends even with my exes because I value having them in my life. If it's an online relationship, it's not even a relationship to begin with anyway, you can't even fuck. You fucking idiot.

LDRs are a mistake.

>>33262081
Yeah but for the reason that you can't always make it work and it takes away all the meaning out of what a relationship is. Sometimes you just need to physically be with someone to make them feel better and if a woman doesn't have her man then obviously it's a slippery slope.

>>33260148 (OP)
LDRs do not work long term. They are fun for a couple of months, but once you understand they won't evolve past a LDR, they are pretty worthless.

It sucks, because LDRs are pretty chill and less phycologically consuming, at least for me.
I feel like I need to put in 10x the work when it comes to traditional relationships.

Some of my fondest memories were the Summer vacation when I was 14 and I started a LDR with a polish girl I met on deviantart kek
We'd be on Skype almost every day just flirting, gossiping, watching youtube, playing vidya, etc.
Her English was fucked up and our timezones didn't match, but it was fun.

Then school started up, we got less free time and it collapsed (mainly because I started fucking with another girl, but still)

>>33263244
>I feel like I need to put in 10x the work when it comes to traditional relationships.
My problem is that you get to know someone much easier and the girl you're with over the internet is much more likely to have similar interests to yours. It's like tinder but without whales and you can bypass 10 girls at once without arranging an entire date and finding out that person is just plain fucking boring, in this instance however, if you don't like someone then you can just skip.

They can only work if you are willing to completely leave your family behind and genuinely like the other country. I learned the hard way and it fucking sucked.