This is insane, tell me wtf would you do in this situation.

>be me
>cuddling with a gf in my room
>she starts looking at the shelf part of the table
>her face looks like she's planning something
>ask her what is she looking at
>she gets up from the bed
>picks up a lego set that was standing there
>it's bionicle maxilos set
>says "why do you have this here"
>say nothing, confused
>stutter and ask her "what do you mean"
>she says "why do you have this? you're 22"
>look at her frozen in confusion
>picks up the box from under the bed to put it in
>tell her "put that back there"
>puts it in the box anyways
>i try getting up but she pushes me to bed so we can cuddle
>get up anyways
>she starts getting mad as i'm putting it back on the shelf
>get back to bed, she pulls away and becomes quiet
>ask her what's going on
>argument starts

How the fuck can she decide what should I do with my room and wtf should I do with her? It's not even about the set, it's about her not giving a fuck or acknowledging what it means to me, while thinking it's normal to control shit. When I was a little kid I was dreaming about that and I was constantly on YouTube looking at stuff I wanted, but couldn't have. Once I got the job I bought it and healed my inner child. She was always pushing me to open up and share my interests with her and this is what happens. I want to drop her, but I need some other voices to see if I'm wrong.

>>33260683 (OP)
Explain to her why that set means so much to you. Explain how her disregarding your wants an interests effects you. Try to do this calmly and politely. If she refuses to hear you out, that's a giant red flag.

I cannot tell you if you should stay or go, that's ultimately a decision you need to make on your own, but I'd try talking it out civilly first.

>>33260683 (OP)
>I want to drop her, but I need some other voices to see if I'm wrong.
"am i the asshole?"
this is a bad instinct, you're putting your relationship at the mercy of random people on the internet basically
it's better to use your own judgment, even if it's flawed, since atleast you know you have good intentions, whereas some fucks on the internet might just fuck with you for kicks

>>33260706
Well yeah, but it's not really just about the set. It's her disrespecting my space and dismissing something meaningful to me. I'm closer to dropping her, these patterns don't just disappear and I'm tired of dealing with dumb shit like that.

>>33260734
Agreed, but I mostly wanted to hear what would others do because this shit feels bizarre. I think I've already decided what to do with her anyways.

>>33260737
You need tell her that. Convey what she did and how it effected you. She might just not realize what she was doing.

Now if she doesn't care or just doesn't want to hear about it at all, that's a big red flag.

Ultimately you should do what feels right to you, but trying to talk about it before you make a decision is a good idea.

To be fair, you shouldn't be displaying toys if you know you're having company. Are you a manchild? She's in her right to be icked out by a 20-some year old collecting figurines and shit. Regardless of your personal attachment. Maybe get over your "inner child" and grow up. You wanna go to her room and see shirtless kpop idol posters or whatever still hanging up? You both sound immature

>>33260851
I'm not getting rid of it for someone else. It's one of my hobbies and it feels therapeutic putting some random shit together. Many people collect plushies and other random shit and I tell them nothing, why'd I give them shit for things they love.

>>33260867
Okay? That didn't address anything I wrote. Put it away when you have company. Or hold onto some childish hobby and ick your girl out. It IS your choice. I'm just telling you girls don't like that shit and if you want both you can have it, just keep them apart. The "hobby" might not be the problem but you have toys out for women to see in your room at 20+. She is not wrong in expecting better either. No woman wants to get with a man who displays childish activities, despite WHY you like it or what it means to her, she won't actually "get" it. Talking about it to her is only gonna ick her out more. Just drop it and be willing to hide it when she's over, or die on your lego hill lmao

>>33260888
I'm not putting away anything for anyone. She's also the type who collects plushies and other similar shit, so I had no idea she'd behave like that. It wasn't even about the set, it's about her disrespecting me and and you seem to not have problem with that, so it makes your input is null and void. Even if it was a piece of lint or ripped toilet paper I meant to be holding there, I don't want it moved. You certainly wouldn't feel passive if someone came in and started rearranging your shit.

>>33260929
Perhaps she didnt want a lego man watching? And no, I would never have something that gay in my room for a woman to get bothered by to begin with.

She wouldn't call out a nice painting, or tapestry, or some flowers or something conventionally decorative. It is NOT about "rearrangijg your shit." You shouldn't still have toys in your room at your age, man. Stay immature then if you want. Go dump your girl trying to make you grow up a little. It's one thing if she like spat on a family photo you had out but you're getting pissy and defensive over legos lmfao. Are you serious? Dump her then dude, if your little toy set pride is worth it. You're in your right but jfc how immature this comes off

>>33260737
>It's her disrespecting my space and dismissing something meaningful to me.
The question is whether or not she was even aware she was doing that or not.
To her, she might've been showing her man how to live like an adult instead of a child with money and responsibility. It's an issue that many men struggle with.

Of course patterns don't just disappear. They need to be communicated.
Everyone lives with certain expectations and they assume *their* expectations are normal so they don't need to be communicated. Then when those expectations aren't met, they respond assuming that the other person is doing it willfully and intentionally, usually after coming to some conclusion based on assumptions without any discussion.

>>33260742
>I think I've already decided what to do with her anyways.
Let me guess. You have no understanding of why she does what she does, have never calmly discussed it when the issue wasn't immediate or hadn't just happened, and yet you somehow feel certain you have a complete picture of all possibilities and have unilaterally decided what to do without involving the other person in the decision at all?

Good luck with that strategy throughout your life.

When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

>mfw anons on 4chan of all places hating on toy ownership

Being a manchild has nothing to do with what you hold onto from your youth or whether you still like toys or cartoons or candy or whatever. Adulthood isn't choosing to look down on your previous interests as immature.
Being a mature adult is about owning your issues and getting shit done.
Being a manchild is about wanting things your own way all the time and refusing to compromise or consider others. Trading up from LEGOs to cryptocurrency doesn't make you a man.

>mfw anons on 4chan of all places hating on toy ownership

Being a manchild has nothing to do with what you hold onto from your youth or whether you still like toys or cartoons or candy or whatever. Adulthood isn't choosing to look down on your previous interests as immature.
Being a mature adult is about owning your issues and getting shit done.
Being a manchild is about wanting things your own way all the time and refusing to compromise or consider others. Trading up from LEGOs to cryptocurrency doesn't make you a man.