my boyfriend is great, he's very kind and he is also politically similar and has a nice family, and I met him at the church we both attend at university. My religion is so important to me and I thought he was the same but I accidentally found out he has slept with many women in the past and used to do night club hook ups and other stuff. Since I found out a few weeks ago I have had so much sadness and insecurity. I have become utterly obsessed with who these women were and what they look like. I feel very deceived. I slept with him because he promised he would marry me but this is before I knew about all those women. I hate how I look and I constantly compare myself to his ex girlfriend who is more attractive than I am. I hate that he didn't tell me before, and that he would use me. I love him but he refuses to say it back. I really resent him for his sexual activities in the past and it has made me lose most of my respect for him and I no longer see him as a virtuous potential father to my kids and future husband. he says he uses this website often so I thought I would ask you people. thank you for reading.

>>33260774 (OP)
whore

>>33260817
ok sorry I didn't know who else to ask maybe this is not the right place

>>33260774 (OP)
Lol he browses 4chan and is a player?

>>33260864
player is an interesting way to put it. I don't want to be going out with a player. :(

Did OP make a fake post and then responded with the wrong amount/browser? OP be responding to their own post like a random, right before responded in the same mannerisms and grammar?!?!?!

>>33260911
Sorry I don't know how to reply as the original poster, it gives me a new number every time I click reply I've not used this website before so I apologise

>>33260774 (OP)
He shopped around and then he found what he was looking for - you.

You win.

>>33260774 (OP)
There's a chance he's going to settle down with you because he finally found a good woman with good values he can trust.

At the same time, he isn't saying that he loves you back, and he is a manwhore. AND you gave up the pussy quickly.

Not really much you can do other than ride it out if you really like the guy. If you'd like to start taking agency over you life you can tell him to fuck off for hiding his past and find a guy at church who is a virgin or low body count. Especially since you gave up your virginity, which lowers your value permanently.

>>33260774 (OP)
The key question is: did he lie about his past, or did he not say anything about it and you just made a bunch of assumptions? The first one is his fault, the second, your fault.

The fact that he has a history doesn't actually matter. Yes, he's been with other women, but it didn't work out with them, and so now he's with you. He wants to be with you; he doesn't want to be with them. That's what matters. There's no point in comparing yourself to his ex, because he doesn't want to be with her any more; he wants you.

Assuming he didn't lie to you, I suggest you talk to him about it, tell him how you're feeling, and give him a chance to reassure you.

On the other hand, if he actually lied, then that's very serious, and you need to break up with him as soon as possible.