There's this friend I have, they're (imma be honest/blunt here*) harder to love than any of my other friends.
They're ace, emotionally reserved, and when I usually show my way of affection, that being, gifts, touch, acts of service, they don't like it.
They told me that talking and spending time together makes them feel loved. What can I do, to better accommodate their needs?
(also is it hurtful to say to someone that they're hard to love? Is there a better way to word this?)

>>33261848 (OP)
It sounds like they're a pretty easy friend, anon. You don't need to do them favors, don't by them stuff, just hang out with them and shoot the breeze. What's so hard about that?

>>33261848 (OP)
If they aren't just chill and you are the one reading to much into it than they are attention seeking.
Based on what I see here they are just ace and you are a bit more interested.

Also fuck ace people who actually make connection difficult in the name of there sexuality. Admit you have a hard time with relationships and stop acting like every relationship people attempt to form with you is blocked by your sexuality.
Nigga asexuals can still have friends and shit.

>>33261876
I guess I just want a deeper connection with them, not romantically though. Like I want them to open up about themselves so we both can feel heard and understood, and that does happen sometimes.
>>33261898
Well not to be pedantic, they didn't say that being ace is like a disability/curse, i mostly added that as an background explanation of how they would act most of the time, like shy, quiet and reserved.

>>33261848 (OP)
>They told me that talking and spending time together makes them feel loved.
just keep doing this and you'll be fine

>>33261848 (OP)
you sound like a retarded faggot who associates with other retarded faggots. Imagine being friends with someone "ace" (not real) and wanting to have a "deeper connection" as friends to feel "heard and understood". I avoid people like you like the plague.

>>33262314
What is this zoomie slang? Ace?

>>33262322
asexual. again its not even real.

>>33261940
I mean, is that wrong? To ask for things from people they could never provide, like holding me? I want her to do that, to open up and talk about things. But if I keep wishing she were different, doesn't that mean I want a different person, and not who she is now? when's the fine line?

>>33261848 (OP)
>They're ace
You will never meet "their" expectations. It's over.

>>33261848 (OP)
bump

Calling someone “hard to love” can sting even if you don’t mean it that way. Maybe say something like, “It’s taken me some time to understand how you show and want affection, since it’s different from what I’m used to.” That sounds kinder and shows you care in a non-retarded kind of way. Since they told you they feel loved by talking and spending time together, that’s your main focus. Try things like:
>Just hang out with them, no pressure. Whether it’s chatting, watching a show, or whatever they like.
>Pay attention and ask about what’s on their mind. Listening is huge.
>Send a quick message sometimes to let them know you appreciate them or enjoyed the time together.
>Avoid gifts, touch, or favors if those don’t work for them. Respecting what they don’t like is a big way to show love.

Basically, love isn’t one-size-fits-all. You’re doing great by wanting to meet them where they’re at. Keep it simple, be patient, and keep showing up.