So imma be real and get this out the way, I'm good looking and have been told this by numerous people and get complimented by strangers daily. People genuinely give me celebrity treatment, constantly coming up and wanting to talk to me, doing nice guy/girl shit, when I'm at the gym they want to load up my weights for me (genuinely). They shower me with praise and all that shit for literally doing nothing other then my normal routine.

But then eventually... They go distant, then the praise turns to back handed compliments, then to insults. And sometimes even snakey underhanded shit
>Found out one dude told a girl who was interested in me that I was a dog and I had multiple women already
I genuinely don't and am not like that.
>Before I found out he was the reason the girl started acting coldly towards me. This same dude confessed to being jealous of me when he made a remark about my shoes and another person said he was just jealous... Which he then admitted too

The same happens with women though, I only recently lost about 40lbs of weight a year ago now and never got attention from anyone before. Now it seems like everyone wants to come up and talk to me, get to know me, ask me for life advice of all things (like bruh, I'm 26, I ain't even got my own life figured out) But it feels like they realise that I'm just a person with my own shit to deal and not some perfect being, to which they then start to despise me once I don't match the idea of me they had in there head.

This isn't meant to be some brag post. This is genuinely the shit I've started to deal with now and I don't know how to operate through it

>>33264854 (OP)
People are largely inconsistent. Maybe their initial interest wore off, but I find most people don't know how to maintain a stable relationship, casual or not.

Is this happening with everyone you meet? Or just certain types of people?

>>33264878
Pretty much most people. Wouldn't say I have any "friends".
But a lot of people project themselves onto me
>You look like a thug
>You look like a chill guy
>You look like you get bare girls
>You look like you fuck on the first night
>You look like you party a lot
I am none of those things. And when I tell people that they're usually like "yeah, yeah. Of course"
And when they realise that I'm genuinely not what they thought I was is when they become disappointed

>They go distant, then the praise turns to back handed compliments, then to insults. And sometimes even snakey underhanded shit

this is friendship as i understand

>>33264899
I get it. People project stereotypes and are let down if you don't fulfill them. Let them.

>>33264912
Similar thing also happens with their hobbies too. I mentioned to an emo woman that I went to see Linkin park before Chester died and she just assumed that I was I Goth/emo too and then became disappointed and angry when I wasn't into all the random metal bands she was into, and also that I wasn't a big drinker and that I didn't do coke

>>33264854 (OP)
People are not let down by you, they are plain envious towards you. When people shower you with compliments that never comes from a good heart, it is a way to make your ego dependent on them and once they have you booked they crush your self-esteem. They don't want to rise, the want to pull you down. When you are constantly climbing upwards it becomes lonelier. You will be surprised how pervasive and sick envy is among normalcattle. You are too innocent for your own good. Some of the compliments you got were probably backhanded from the get go, you simply didn't notice it. I experienced that more often when I glow up, but when I was down I attracted more "friends" - misery loves company.

You need a normie filter. When someone gets close to you just push them away. Dont even let people talk to you

>>33264854 (OP)
A celebrity what, that's the question. Maybe you're a celebrity memory hole.

>>33264981
i had a similar experience with a former coworker. we were just casually talking and he mentioned an anime and i said that i used to watch it as a kid.
then suddenly he starts trying to get me to watch all this anime or read some manga or talk about conventions. even after i told him i only watched as a kid and then very sparingly as an adult he still kept going.
after her left work and kept texting me i just responded with one word answers and he finally got the hint.

is your personality like a wet blanket?

if you aren't being nice to people and reciprocating their emotions, they'll naturally start to think you're a dick

>>33266343
I'd say I'm generally a cheering person for the most part. I've heard from people "you're always in a good mood". Untill eventually it becomes "why are you always in a good mood" with distain in there voice.
They're usually quick to invite me out to places then ghost me after a period of time

As I said in a previous post, people have assumed I'm a party guy. And I've genuinely heard this exact response from several people of "WHAT! You should be out here having your fun" when I've told them I don't drink or I don't do coke
>Coke seems to be the popular thing in the town I live
For those ones it's easy when they ignore me cause it's like they get annoyed that I don't do the same fucked up shit they do

>>33264854 (OP)
does it happen with mainly men, or women too when they find out you're just a normal dude. there's a thing where women will justify their attractions to you even if you're a shitty person, like with serial killers and stuff

>>33266727
nevermind I read down. yeah, can't say I full get it either. my uneducated guess is maybe they're deeply jealous (even the women) or they think being cold to you is "course correcting" for being so warm and expectant in the first place

>>33266693
it makes sense now
the reason they're so bipolar to you is because they're on drugs bro

>>33266727
>women will justify their attractions to you even if you're a shitty person, like with serial killers and stuff
Long story but I did go on 2 dates with a woman who ended stalking me for 6 months. I've wrote about it before on this board when it was happening cause it made no sense. She would hover round me at the gym before she asked me out, and I remember at one point on the 2nd date before she pulled all her bullshit of telling me she hooked up with a dude after our first date. (Fucking weird. I know) She looked at me weirdly pissed and said "I feel like I don't even know you". And I said "cause you don't..."

But I remember she would just compliment me on the most mundane shit. I remember a dude asked me for a spot and she screamed out "OH WOW! YOUR BEING ASKED TO SPOT". I just gave her a look and told her to calm down, to which she giggled to herself and blushed. Fucking weird woman
>I genuinely felt like I could have insulted her in that moment and she would have fallen head over heels

>>33266737
>or they think being cold to you is "course correcting"
I've noticed this too, some, not all women will come up to me friendly at first, then after several interactions they'll still come up to me but just be rude. And I just think why are you acting like that, then I don't want to talk to them anymore.
There's one woman I know who I can just talk to like a normal human being, because she BEHAVES like a normal human being. We can just have a normal conversation about shit. She has a man already so it's purely platonic, but it's genuinely refreshing to get to talk to her as it's like she's a normal person who just feels comfortable in herself

>>33264854 (OP)
Just ignore em. They don't matter. You don't want those people in your life
If they are trying to constantly fuck your shit up and you can't distance yourself physically with them, then you are gonna have to learn how to stick up for yourself. Those "good looks" you say you have are a double edged sword. Not only will people get jealous of you, but you can also use them to your advantage. People will take your side more often. Just don't be a scumbag, be fair, only use this power when you are in the right to

>>33266981
I think there may be another factor to this. These people might also feel rejected. They try to reach out to you and you just do your best, but you might be a sperg or something and not give the correct social gestures or you just might not be as outgoing as they expect someone that looks like you would be, and they might take it the wrong way

But I don't know you at all, so i'm only guessing

>>33267150
Too lazy to type
https://voca.ro/1iDOftAVKg8l

>>33267150
>>33267244
Some additional shit
https://voca.ro/1hzOtPug09xH

>>33267244
Did you really just record urself ranting...

>>33267244
It's ok to fancy another man. It doesn't mean you're gay. I rather enjoy a good straight bumming session myself with my mates, it's completely normal. Say sorry to him and make out with him

>>33267274
Look, women are retarded. This would happen if you were good looking or not

>>33267244
>>33267495
Sorry I mean make up with him, not make out, but that's also cool too, it's not gay

>>33264854 (OP)
> This isn't meant to be some brag post.
literally a brag post

>>33264854 (OP)
Well, to be fair, if I see a new and attractive woman (e. g. at work) I will automatically be interested and get to know her. So, I go there be like "Hi, I'm anon from lazy-department blabla..." and when not much comes out of it then I won't reach out anymore. It's just that attractive people generate interest but to sustain that there needs to be more than that. So, I can't say why exactly people become mean towards you, but maybe you're not very nice? You said noone cared for you when you were fatter (or looked different). Maybe it's you? How do you treat people?

>>33264854 (OP)
Are you black? That black hand emoji makes your black.

I'm sure handsome black guys get this treatment. Your friends and girls around you think you're a Tyrone gangster kind of guy, and you magically have a lot of your shit together surprisingly, then they all lose interest when they realize you're just a law abiding, not so smooth guy. Some guys get jealous, some women lose interest, some men and women think you're more dangerous and flirtatious than you really are. These are all my guesses. Am I right, OP?

>>33273253
Negro worship in pop culture and its consequences have been a disaster for the white American people

>>33264854 (OP)
People are fucking stupid about this. They just assume shit about you. That's just how it is.

>>33273240
I went over it in this post >>33266693

>>33273253
I'm not black. The dude is, same dude also like one of my old ass photos at 4AM. Asked him about it and he just said he was scrolling through my page.
>The dude who I mentioned in the voice note who said I was fit when he was drunk also confessed to stalking my insta.
A fair few people did tell me they were too intimidated to speak to me when I initially spoke to them.
>friends and girls around you think you're a Tyrone gangster kind of guy, and you magically have a lot of your shit together surprisingly, then they all lose interest when they realize you're just a law abiding, not so smooth guy. Some guys get jealous, some women lose interest, some men and women think you're more dangerous and flirtatious than you really are.
One dude at my gym who has sinced moved away told me "you look like a thug, but you're actually more like a golden retriever"
And yeah, I heard from 3 different women that "a guy like me" has a roster on women/girlfriends when I genuinely don't

>>33273858
Alright well all this talk, post a pic of yourself. You're an 8 or 9, who grew up ugly, and only now see how shallow people are, now that they want to befriend you and think you're the shit.

>>33273877
Unfortunately I will not be posting my face to /adv/. But here's some AI face rate thing I found and this is the result.

Sorry to disappoint anon

>>33273858
>"you look like a thug, but you're actually more like a golden retriever"
could you dress the opposite of a thug? like be well groomed but simply dressed. maybe get some fake glasses. wear a bowlcut or something (don't do this). represent da inner you.

>>33264854 (OP)
I don't care about your inane problems Chad. GTFO this is an incel board.

Well sugar, beauty might open doors, but it sure don’t guarantee what’s behind ‘em. You got folks projectin’ their fantasy onto you like you’re some walking inspiration poster—and the second you show you’re human? Poof. The illusion breaks, and they don’t know how to handle it.

Let me tell you somethin’ loud and clear: you don’t owe anybody perfection. You lost 40 pounds, but that doesn’t mean you lost your right to be messy, unsure, or still figurin’ it out at 26.

So walk proud, be real, and let folks fall in love with the whole you, not just the highlight reel.

And if you need more help keepin’ it real in a fake world, you come find me at DirtyDebi.com. I’ll be waitin’, baby

>>33273961
The AI always highly rates you cause the nerds who programmed it made it to a Yes man. Doesn't count

>>33274999
Based trips of truth, fuck Chad

>>33275051
I have no doubt about that. I certainly wouldn't say I was dropped dead gorgeous. But I get glazed enough on the daily to think that I must be consensusly handsome.
Just don't like all the stupid shit that happens now that people want to get to know me