Is it more likely for a person to stop seeking validation after they finally get it, or after they stop wanting it in the first place? Which one is more realistic?

>>33266700 (OP)
both

both

>>33266700 (OP)
those that grew up without validation never fully recover even in a healthy relationship
it shows easily and will always be leveraged unless you check it

>>33266714
Do you speak from experience?

>>33266735
not directly but i know others that really cant suppress that shit and i know how women are

>>33266700 (OP)
depends on the person
the only validation I've ever seeked was that of my father and he still thinks I'm a loser just because I never became a worker drone that contributes every waking hour to the glory of artotzka, everyone else's validation I actually never cared that much about, including institutions and pretty girls

Personally I have this problem with validation where I want to be liked/respected by everyone, which realistically is impossible. Even smart people with achievements have their haters, why can't I be content with people who do actually like me and pay little attention to those that don't?

>>33266700 (OP)
In my experience, the people in my life who seek validation never stop seeking it, it's like a constant need for validation with a cooldown timer. As if they're unsure they're still validated and think to do something to check it again, endlessly.

>>33266978
What do you think would be the solution for people like that?

>>33266991
For them to realize validation from others is largely useless and fleeting. In other words, good luck.

>>33266700 (OP)
Depends on the type of validation. People have a lot of different needs, and there are proper and improper ways to address them. If they address them with something that doesn't satisfy the real need, they'll keep seeking it after they've achieved what they were trying to get.

>>33266700 (OP)
they'll stop once they learn what negative attention feels like