Mainly talking about the relationships that either didn't last long enough or there was something that wasn't fully made clear and left you thinking. Specifically asking people who attach themselves a lot to someone or simply got along with someone greatly and it had to end for whatever reason.
Not for people who couldn't care less about who they are with and change their partners every few months.

>>33269302 (OP)
Fuck other girls if you can. Shallow? Yes, but you want to trigger the hormones that tell you getting over her is okay.
Try to cope with self improvement otherwise. Gym/career/friends.
>t.it's been 2 years, and the pain is dulling

>>33269327
>Gym/career/friends.
makes me forget, temporarily, when I'm left alone it comes back to me

>Fuck other girls if you can
Sounds reasonable but I'm not like that. I always look for long term relationships simply because I'm not a hedonist. I just have my morals.

Thanks for the advice it makes a lot of sense what you've said

>>33269341
Then option 2 and waiting it out is the only way.

I tried to do option 1, but I'm naturally inclined towards settling towards stability. Got involved with a slightly younger girl who was a virgin (I was 23/her 20). Went through the motions, but my head was out of it.
Eventually before I fucked her I realised it was unfair on both her and myself and broke it off. She even offered me her virginity towards the end since she wouldn't let me do anything but suck her tits on the first few dates but I couldn't stay in the relationship. I guess lesson I learnt from that was that if you do try option 1, try it with girls who understand it's ONS/FWB and nothing else to avoid being unfair.

Still the best pair of tits I've ever seen.

Good luck my faggot.

>>33269302 (OP)
time healed me and I did normal activities as much as I could
unfortunately the time I got over a breakup the fastest was when my father got very sick so I had no time to grieve my lost relationship before going into getting worried about more important stuff

>>33269302 (OP)
Time and support of friends and family. Analyzing the stuff that happened in relationship, and finally learning about who my ex really was. a fucking psycho with NPD/BPD.

>>33269302 (OP)
I've done all the breaking up the last few relationships and now I don't really want to date again. it's just not worth it

>>33269302 (OP)
you will always think of them but it will hurt less each time with time

nta, but what did you guys do to not obsess over their social media activity?
i became friends with a chick at work (so even more pathetic) but she randomly ghosted me like a month after she had left the job. never had closure and it's just eating me away. she was basically the only RL friend i had, everyone else is purely online.
im not on social media but nonetheless found her shit and it's public. she doesn't post shit but i can't stop myself from just checking if anything changed.

>>33269302 (OP)
I wohnt read how to get over something threads.

>>33269302 (OP)
Still haven't. Working two jobs for a big goal helps though. And as other anons have said, socializing and time helps as well. Also lots of sleep

>>33269302 (OP)
Most of them i just gave no fuck's if that makes any since. The relationship was so fucked and broken by the time it was over i just did not give a fuck and moved on with my life. Was for a long time wondering if i was the issue but it turns out no thankfully im not the issue my taste in people are. But i did have a bad brakeup and i did what most people do. Sulked around for a few days , drank some liquor and finally got my ass out there again after a few weeks. Brake ups are like life. Your gonna fall flat on your face a few times before you get it right. And your gonna just need to get up and dust your self off and keep moving.. Sorry if you had a brake up .. hope this helps ya some and best wishes..

>>33269423
Thanks bro I'll take it to consideration.

>>33269514
It makes sense that something new and more important comes up so that you can't grieve over something you no longer have control over and has been gone for a while.

>>33270405
Yeah my previous ex wasn't perfect either and it was quite easy to move on from her. This girl I've been with however was not bad at all in any way. Maybe I didn't live long enough with her to see her true side but personally we have never had an argument because we resolved it all so quickly. I still recover from her because of the deep understanding we've had for each other.

>>33270458
I feel the same way but maybe it's worth giving a shot, just search for someone that will be your friend at first and eventually build up a relationship. That's how I do it.

>>33270512
That's true I still think of all my exes even the bad ones, but they are just a distant memory that is just there and not really putting up any emotions.

>>33270942
>nta, but what did you guys do to not obsess over their social media activity?
Blocking and forbidding yourself from checking it, it's the only way. Checking her profile gave me an unironic breathing problem out of sudden stress. It's not worth it just let it be buried and forget it.

>>33271722
True socializing with other people made me forget about it completely to an extent, it's about distracting yourself. Time will heal bro.

>>33271957
I appreciate it man, I know that it will take time to heal and it sounds very lame but I suppose it really will just take time to heal. Hope it heals asap because she was perfect but we couldn't make it.

I want to live life to my fullest.
I want to love those dear to me for as long as I can.
And yet it hurts so much to do any of this.

>>33273188
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=omLvm1yAPyY&ab_channel=DrKrankeit

meet more women, move on and try again

if this is an issue of you thinking that you fucked up in the relationship you're more than likely taking it as a blow to your overall character when in reality if you're acknowledging the "simply got along with someone greatly and it had to end for whatever reason" point it's more than likely not the case with you specifically, understanding that relationships are more often than not things that just don't work out and nothing beyond that is a great step to take.

issues with addressing yourself (not the relationship) can be fixed with enough introspection / being forward while you're still in your next relationship with your partner on how she feels about you. she doesn't want to be pestered on being your "dating coach" after you've parted ways so do it if a problem arises. communication is key