So i’m a 19 year zoomer old and trapped in a dysfunctional family which routinely degrade me and literally treated like a child. I have no friends, no car, and not much money at least I’m employed with a decent job. I feel like i’m trapped and a rut and I don’t know what to do

>>33270150 (OP)
I'm assuming you've talked with them about this, why do they do it?

>>33270150 (OP)
build up some savings then move out

>>33270150 (OP)
Provide a few detailed examples of issues you've had with them.

>>33270486
Well they really don’t seem to care about what I have to say really and they let me know as long as I live in there house I have no say.

>>33270590
that's sadly how most households with conservative parents are bro, only option is to move out
I was almost 30 when I finished college but up until then an when I finally moved out I didn't have any say in important matters, sometimes they'd hear my advice, some other times they didn't, and if I was oposed to something, though luck, it's not my home
when I say conservative I don't even mean in the political sense, my dad is a soviet era communist, but he's very old in his ways to raise a family.

>>33270167
Usually those conversations don't go very well they just will deflect questions or try to gaslight me. They just have there own mental issues I suppose.

>>33270486
>Cant leave when ever I want
>Not allowed to have anybody over
>Constantly get disrespected and ridiculed
>Barley any privacy
>Always in my personal business
>Not taken seriously

>>33270150 (OP)
Enlist in the military. Most recruiters will be willing to drive you to their office after the first meeting if travel is an issue. Don't go marines.

>>33270590
>>33270615
just fyi, your use of "there" in both of these posts is wrong. It should be their

"Their" shows possession. Use it when something belongs to people. Like "Their car is parked outside."

"There" shows a place or is used with forms of “to be” (like is, are) to point something out.

Place example: The book is over there.
Use with to be: There are five cookies left.

>>33270654
That’s what i’ve been thinking a for a while actually and I have spoke to some recruiters. I just don’t know what I would do after service. and also why not marines?

>>33270667
The marines goes the hardest in cultivating the "tough guy" macho military persona. They are the kind of people who do things the hard way over the smart way on purpose, so expect more pointless toil. Its also part of the navy, not a separate branch, and the navy sets its budget. But since the navy puts a higher priority on the fleet, the marines are underfunded so have worse equipment than the army.

Army - join if you want to be a soldier or work on huge vehicles
Navy - join if you want to travel, work on ships, or learn a technical trade
Air Force - join if you don't want to travel, like working on planes, or want to learn a computer based trade
Coast Guard - join if you actually want to help Americans and defend America

>>33270667
I cant speak about other branches, but there are some rates/jobs in the Navy that can set you up with a decent job once you get out, even without a degree. Any of the nuclear power jobs look great on resumes and can easily land you a 6 figure salary or close, however the schooling is hell and has a high dropout rate. Some aviation rates can set you up with a career working with a civilian airliner once you get out, specifically AV. You could also just make a career out of the military and retire in 20 years with a decent pension plus any disability pay, so 39 in your case.

Marines get bragging rights and nice uniforms but that's it. Terrible quality of life, doesn't set you up for after the service, just overall bad compared to other branches.

>>33270681
I understand that aspect of it but still i’d be willing to enlist into whatever has the best benefits.

>>33270150 (OP)
>>33270667
I was in a very similar situation to you OP not even two years ago and joining the Air Force fixed a lot of the problems I felt like I had, like feeling trapped and wanting to escape a dysfunctional home. Joining the military is a fine move if you have valid reasons to do it, especially since you are still young. I recommend doing research on the different branches and find out what fits you the most, there are different levels of quality of life between them and they do different shit but we all get the same pay and benefits in the end. Join only if it appeals to you or else you'll just still be miserable. And if you have any Air Force/military questions im willing to answer.

>>33270729
All of the branches have the exact same pay/housing/healthcare/education benefits. If you want pure quality of life and a 9-5 go air force. If you really wanna travel and for some reason don't care about quality of life go navy. (Deployments are awful and will be the worst times of your life.) Only go army if travel isn't important and you get denied from the air force.

spend time away from them, the more hours you have to yourself the clearer your thoughts will become to form an exit strategy, it's not going to be easy but I have found that is the best way.

>>33270150 (OP)
I w-ont read yet another obvious is obvious how to escape family thread.