How do I grow up into an adult, one with some goals, ambitions and directions? I'm 26 and I feel like not much has changed since I was 16.

My whole life I just did what I thought others wanted me to do because I had no dreams or goals of my own. Or I just kept going with the inertia, like with education, but now it's over and I just keep spinning my wheels in place when left to my own devices. I often see advice to just 'find what you want then keep doing it' but that's the first part which is a problem.
I'm not some NEET, I have friends, job, education, went on trips abroad etc. Could probably move out before the end of the year to my own place. But I just don't care about any of it, even with moving out it'd be mostly because I'm 'supposed' to want to do it at my age, not because I want to.
How do I start caring? I feel like the only reason I'm not a complete loser is because of my parents, teachers etc. but it's not something that will push me forever.

why are you gay?

>>33272131 (OP)
i feel you
>I feel like the only reason I'm not a complete loser is because of my parents, teachers etc. but it's not something that will push me forever.
if you stay in academia it can SORT OF be like that

>>33272152
you are gay...

>>33272131 (OP)
Maybe you're overstimulated. Too much quick entertainment. Cut entertainment devices out of your life, allow yourself to get bored. See where your boredom leads you.

Otherwise, I think becoming a parent is the ultimate thing that forces you to unquestionably become an adult.

>>33275230
Take on responsibilities. Face your fears.

Read about male archetypes.