How do I best approach the idea of a threesome (female) with my fiancee? We are both very "kinky" in certain ways, and we have vaguely discussed the idea of hooking up with a couple we know who are swingers, which she seemed open to. However, I would prefer the ffm dynamic. We have sex often and do some role play, however my fiancee is a jealous type and may be hurt if I say I want to have sex with someone else. Is thIs reconcilable?

If you know your fiancee is gonna be hurt why would you bring it up and entertain the idea in the first place.

>>33272300
We had a chat about our friends who swing, who are also conventionally attractive, and she was open to at least discussing it with them. My insecurity is having another dude bang my fiancee, but I am open to the FFM.

good luck ruining your marriage

>>33272248 (OP)
>my fiancee is a jealous type and may be hurt if I say I want to have sex with someone else. Is thIs reconcilable?
No.

>>33272248 (OP)
Watch trio porn together to bring up the idea

>>33272337
>My insecurity is having another dude bang my fiancee, but I am open to the FFM.
(NTA) Speaking as someone who has been heavily into ethical non-monogamy my entire adult life: the one thing which is absolutely CRITICAL in making it work is it being even-handed. If you want the freedom to fuck other women, you *have* to be okay with her fucking other men too. If you're not, there is a 100% probability that it will blow up in your face.

>>33272392
I get that, however I dont think either of us want this to be a lifestyle thing. For me, I would be happy with one experience. I don't know if that changes things.

>>33272248 (OP)
>>33272432
Don't do it, especially if you two are already having doubts. Since both of you are possessive, you just know, you'll be thinking about the guy or girl who fucked her during that ONE TIME. She'll think the same thing. Don't mess this relationship up. Threesomes aren't for everyone, and I'd suggest if you really wanna do it, you do it when both of you are married and have done almost everything under the sun sexually and wanna try something new. This threesome is a one way ticket to a messy, bitter breakup.

It very rarely works
When I first got together with my missus, she banged on often about how she had her dyke phase, she still likes to smoosh cunts sometimes and was 'basically bi'.
Fast forward a few years, the opportunity arises when a really slutty (and hot) mutual friend stays after a party and asked if we wanted to fool around
My gf immediately nopes out of the room, sends me a text saying
>You can if you want
This was a trap, for any young anons reading.
I thanked my horny friend, went to bed and got no action whatsoever that whole month

>>33272248 (OP)
It's generally a terrible idea. I've tried it twice and both times it damaged the relationship, even when it was her idea.

>>33272248 (OP)
lol you're going to fuck your relationship
I hope you're not that attached to her
threesomes are for the casual relationships and old marriages who are bored of fucking each other but still love each other very much
you will seed the doubts on her mind about her attractiveness to you and your commitment to the relationship
thing is you won't listen to me and will ask anyways
as I said I hope you're not too attached to her and are looking forward to other gfs in the future.

>>33272248 (OP)
>a threesome (female) with my fiancee?
lol no

threesomes are for when relationships are just barely past the early dating phase and you're young and free and wild, not when you're about to tie the knot with someone where you pledge to be with them and them alone until death or a divorce

I mean lol lmao even
>yeah babe I love you, I love you so much that I want to spend my entire life without, but first watch me bang this other chick.

I've had threesomes, they're great, but like others have pointed out if there's a relationship involved then it's almost guaranteed to ruin it.

OP here. Not gonna do it. We talked about it and both agreed it would not be a positive thing for our relationship.