>dating gf with BPD (don't research anything about it when she tells me, just say "okay", only just recently I have researched it more to understand her)
>she gets upset at me over run-of-the-mill relationship stuff
>says she "thinks maybe we should break up"
>I say "okay then" and leave her
>she tells me she thinks maybe she made a mistake and wanted me to try to fight for us
>say "okay then", get back with her
>a month later, same thing happens but this time I get reactive because I got worn down by her losing her temper on me
>apparently I "scared her"
>2 weeks later we both calm down and talk
>she "doesn't want to get back together or even talk about relationship stuff because I traumatized her by yelling back and I'm supposed to the calm/strong one"
>I say "okay"
>we talk superficially about video games and anime shit but she never wants to have a relationship discussion
>tell her I'm going to move on if she can't even talk to me about things
>she says "do whatever makes you happy anon"
>idk how to feel about this, wait around another month before I start going on dates with another girl
>she hears about it and calls me crying, asks if I'm dating someone
>I say "Yes" and she starts wailing and hangs up the phone
The fuck am I supposed to do, man?Is there even any way to have a relationship with BPD chicks, am I just too inexperienced or what? She loves me intensely which is nice but I just can't deal with the BS.

>dating girl with BPD
leave or accept your fate

>>33273596 (OP)
This sounds pretty typical. I've seen this exact dynamic play out multiple times.
The intensity you describe is the 'up' part of the BPD rollercoaster, and the BS is the 'down'.
Better men than us have been ruined by it. Proceed with caution.

>>33273596 (OP)
I needed to read this OP. Thank you. My BPD ex keeps wanting access to me but I don’t really see the point in staying friends seeing as for with other women it’s a huge red flag.

>>33273596 (OP)
I won't be reading your dumb BPD gf bait, should not be treated like a human, since they are neurotic animals. Common fact

>>33273596 (OP)
>Is there even any way to have a relationship with BPD chicks
There is. But it's more effort than most people would be willing to put into it. You simply have to accept that they *can't* be rational about things. Treat it as a disability. Expecting someone with BPD to be capable of being rational and calm is like expecting someone who is paralysed from the waist down to be able to be able to go mountain climbing - if someone is disabled you just have to accept there are some things they can't do, and not expect them to.

>BPD
It's over.

>>33273596 (OP)
Male who grew up BPD and solved it (replaced with OCD, don't ask for details just trust me):

>She loves me intensely
She doesn't.

She doesn't have a personality. If she doesn't have a personality, how could she love you? She doesn't know who she is.

She wants a personality.
She wants a narrative.
When she was with you, temporarily, you gave her a narrative, but because it's a fantasy in her quest for a personality, eventually the fantasy crumbles and reality catches up, and that's when she loses interest. You did not "fix her". That's when the problems begin. She'll become irritated and start pushing you away because you are not stimulating her.

If you cut her off, now she loses the closest thing to a personality that she had – you. So that's when she becomes desperate.

If she finds someone else, she will forget about you. She might not forget permanently and the cycle will eventually repeat unless you draw a definitive boundary.

Why are they like this? They weren't allowed to have a personality when they were young. No personality = no security, so they live in a state of anxiety and constant panic, and (You) are seen as their way out of it until you can't seem to relieve them of it and that's when the destruction happens.

You can't help her. She has no personality and will behave in any way she can to relieve herself from anxiety. The second she finds what *truly* relieves her from the anxiety, she will ditch you for that. And it is only then that she can know what she TRULY wants.

Tl;dr: Tell her you've moved on and that you hope she will get better, and tell her that you don't want anything to do with her anymore. It might be rough in the first couple of weeks but you will never hear from her again after that.

>>33273596 (OP)
Personally I'd ditch her because it's not worth the heartache. My last gf had undiagnosed BPD and after breaking up with her I told her in the most polite way possible that she should read about it and seek treatment; holy fuck she went ape shit at the mere suggestion that she might have BPD and took it as a personal attack.

>>33274311
When I broke up with mine she just started perma-dissociating.

>>33273596 (OP)
Leave, please. Just leave. I don't even know you but ffs, please leave. You could try DBT if you're insane.

>>33273596 (OP)
BPD women are undateable, I don't know how anyone falls for this shit it always becomes obvious that she should be locked up in a padded cell very early on.

>>33274809
They're addictive. Literally, you get addicted to the constant up-and-down emotional spikes. If you stay with them long enough, you sync with their emotional states and you become codependent. When I finally dumped mine for good after 6 years, my brain went through withdrawal, I didn't even know how to function without being her other half. And had to relearn what a real relationship with a sane person is like.
>Oh, I can tell you I don't like something you're doing and it doesn't cause you to seethe for hours on end, shaking your leg while staring at your phone with a frown, before you finally scream, cry and slam your hand on the wall and run out of the house? You just do what I asked? That's wild...
>And when you have a problem, you just tell me calmly? You don't let it stew for days/weeks/months and then blow up at me out of nowhere? Damn that's crazy...

On the other hand, like OP says, they love you intensely when not splitting. That's the beautiful part of it. They want you to be next to them, touching, 24/7. They want to be so close to you they want to be an actual part of you, or inside you. They don't want you out of their sight. They watch your face constantly and always know how you're feeling, you can't hide anything. If another woman so much as looks at you, they go apeshit with jealous rage. No other woman can make you feel so desired. But then of course she yanks it all away when she splits. It's often described as an emotional rollercoaster, which is accurate.

>>33273596 (OP)
The only thing you can do is have a high tolerance for the bullshit that comes with BPD women. I had fun with it for a while on my last girlfriend, she would have her normal episodes and I'd lean into it. My favorite was I'd tell funny jokes to her while she was mad and upset over trivial things which made her laugh hysterically all the while still being mad. I did it in public once and she was laughing and play slapping my arm and chest lightly because she couldn't muster the strength to do it hard while giggling so much. She then got mad afterwards and told me I probably made people think she was crazy.

Dating a BPD girl is like trying to navigate the sea, sometimes things are calm and you just drift through and other times they're turbulent and you have to hold on. Don't try to fight the ocean though, you have to go with the flow and steer into things while the storm passes. Be like the Matador: He doesn't get in front of the bull and wrestle him down like an immovable object, he twirls his cape and lets the bull's moment carry him into his sword. With practice, you can even cause their mood shifts into something better than panic, frustration, and worthlessness.

That said, you probably do have a limit for your patience. I know I do and that's why none of my relationships have worked. But I'm an addict and I always drift back to those kinds of women, almost seeking them out because I'm so accustomed to the behavior I can't function without it. Dating normal, non-insane girls causes me anxiety because I keep expecting problems that never come.

>>33274836
Jesus Christ, I didn't read this before I posted but this is exactly 100% what it is. That last part is what makes it such a good time, it fills a need in such a way you can't escape it.

I really think it's a fascinating disorder. I want to study it from a scientific standpoint since I really think there's probably a way to short circuit the bad parts, but it requires both an external stimulus and sheer force of will on the BPD's part. Even having all the pieces makes it tough because someone having an episode doesn't really want to try and control themselves.

>>33277196
It's not that fascinating once you figure out what's going on in the Codependent x BPD relationship dynamic. Codependents are spineless Mr Nice guys - or girls - who put everyone ahead of themselves, and they often end up dating a BPD. A BPD is an emotional wreck and abuse case who no longer trusts humans.

The Codependent wants to 'fix them' and be their hero. They offer grandiose performances of 'love' to the BPD. The BPD desperately takes the offer. The Codependent up until this point has been trying to be Mr/Mrs Perfect, pretending to be an angel to soothe the BPD.

Anyway the performance stops eventually because everyone is human and we all have bad days. The codependent eventually slips up, and shows negativity. To the PoV of the BPD their angel-hero just suddenly switched up for no reason at all. The first several months was the codependent was always nice always pleasing now not anymore suddenly.

BPD gets spooked to shit, triggers their emotional trauma of abandonment or incoming abuse, and they lash out. Then the codependent drops their nice guy/girl persona and becomes extremely self righteous and merciless and then fires back, argument ensues. Then the BPD thinks it's confirmed, their angel-hero is just like 'the rest'. So they plot to leave, usually in the form of cheating or monkeybranching.

Tldr; the only people who date BPDs are those who are also emotionally unstable.

>>33277266
That's a wonderful overview of it anon, sounds spot on based on personal experience. I still think it's an interesting disorder with some attractive qualities.

>>33277278
BPD does have attractive qualities. I think the main attractive quality they possess is their emotional hypersensitivity. Take OP for example, he said:

>She loves me intensely which is nice but I just can't deal with the BS.

It's the intensity people get hooked to. BPDs feel every emotion at 200% volume, to the point it burns them on the inside. If you're someone with numb emotions and can't feel shit, the BPD becomes a bit like a drug because their emotions are so intense you get a real kick out of second-hand experiencing them.

BPDs will do shit like happy-cry intensely after seeing a cute puppy. Or they will get super hyped up for things like Christmas, or they will be enraptured and immersed from something as simple as a piece of music. Their emotional intensity ends up hurting others whenever the emotions take a dark turn. But it also means their emotional intensity has the power to enchant others, especially those who forgot how to feel anything at all.

BPD utterly ANNIHILATED by indifference
ANON WINS

>>33277288
>Continued

So yeah the best quality of a BPD is also their worst quality at the same time, emotional intensity & it's power to enchant (or break) other humans who get too close.

Now if the BPD is smart and has above room temperature IQ, they can weaponise their disorder and make it work for them. They can make a career out of enchanting others emotionally by using themselves as the source of emotional thrill: becoming an entertainer. That's often what some of them do, too.

Acting, singing, dancing, comedy. They have the natural skill to turn on emotions at 200% intensity. That means they can perform and mystify an entire audience if they wanted, and people pay money just for that. That's why we pay for shows, movies, theatre plays. Out of any demographic, I'm pretty certain actors and entertainers are usually full of BPDs. It's fascinating

>I say "okay"
>I say "okay"
>I say "okay"
>I say "okay"
You are the single worst type of person to be dating a BPDemon. She will manipulate and control you to her blackened heart's content because you let her. There is no reason in the world to bear with people (particularly women) with BPD, they are lost causes and the best thing you can do is cut your losses and LEAVE. I have seen people in real life force themselves to bear with bpd women just to keep the illusion of happiness up, and it is not worth it in any way. The longer you bear with her, the worse it will become. It's an abyss of sunk cost fallacy.

>>33277312
Sounds more like Histrionic Personality Disorder (Histrio means Actor).

>>33273596 (OP)
You can fix her...with antipsychotics

>>33277867
Actually, if you're with a BPD person, being nonchalant is the best way to handle her. Anon is mostly doing the right things, except when he lost his temper, which is understandable, it's just the wrong move.

>>33277903
Yeah, the best option is definitely to be "nonchalant" and just put up with her whenever she decides to go off the handle on some insane shit. I personally would just love to have to "handle" some psycho bitch who does whatever the crazy voice in her head tells her to do whenever she feels like it. That sounds like a fruitful, worthwhile, happy relationship for both parties.
The truth is that she will almost certainly always be crazy and miserable. OP's best and only positive option is to cut his losses as I said before, that way at least he can be happy

>>33273596 (OP)
Bro, you've dated and broken up twice

She's clearly not the one, move on

>>33278773
I broke up with my gf/wife about 6 times before we finally stayed together. I even fucked other women when we were broken up, but in the end we ended up married for 10 years now with no issues.

5 of the breakups I dumped her for a few weeks to 2 months while she begged for me back, but the worst one was the final one where she actually dumped me for 6 months, I ended up fucking and dating one of her best friends and she finally relented and took me back and that was that. We outlined a plan with bullet points on what we both needed and mutually committed to stop being retards and it's worked well.

Just because it's messy when you're younger doesn't mean it won't work out in the end.

>>33278891
That's a valid point to be fair

But still, your situation is rare and certainly not typical - most couples who break up don't end up together in the end and instead end up wasting time

>>33273596 (OP)
BPD girls are not for dating. Now you know.

>>33273596 (OP)
>The fuck am I supposed to do, man?Is there even any way to have a relationship with BPD chicks
No, there’s not. No need to be mystified by the simplest thing in the world. Don’t date mentally ill women. Especially BPD, NPD or worse.

>>33277266
>Tldr; the only people who date BPDs are those who are also emotionally unstable.
right on the money. i loathe seeing dudes complain about bpd bitches. if they're crazy, why are you dating someone like that. just leave instead of bitching.

>>33277266
>>33279510
Can confirm as an insecure codependent who just got out of a relationship with a BPD lady. She gradually treaded all over my boundaries until I ended up a broken shell. Trying to fix myself now so it doesn't happen again.

>>33273596 (OP)
I just got out of a relationship with a girl with bpd and it was a nightmare. I'm still having emotional rollercoaster episodes when intrusive thoughts pop up. I try rationalizing my way through "what could have been if I had done this or that differently" but it's no use. I did nothing wrong and she still went nuts. She loved me, I loved her deeply. Still didn't matter.

If you are not ensnared with her and are able to easily walk away - DO IT. get out before she can do damage to you. It can be permanent damage man. I had intense depression for a while and I couldn't control my thoughts or emotions. Was walking out of my apartment to go to the store and I got outside and didn't have my keys or wallet. Sometimes I'd go to get dressed and tie my shoes up before I put on my pants. This did not happen at all before her behaviors started affecting me. Man .. ive never done hard drugs but I think this is what it's like. I remember the good times and want it back even though I know the consequences are overwhelmingly bad. I will pay dearly if I go back to her. Good thing I put enough space and time between us. I'm not checking her messages for at least 3 or 4 months, and by then hopefully I won't care.

If you ever find out someone has bpd, you need to leave them ASAP before they can do damage

>>33273783
>>33273783
>should not be treated like a human, since they are neurotic animals
Agreed. These people should be given capital punishment. They're no good for themselves or others.

>>33273873
>You simply have to accept that they *can't* be rational about things. Treat it as a disability.
Yep. They're totally fucked in the head and if you think you have a way to handle it and permanently fix them - you don't. Their mind is a crime against humanity and should be put to death.

>>33274198
>>33274198
>reality catches up,
Mmmm. I don't think bpd people ever are in tune with reality. They're living in a fantasy world though. That's for sure. Lets also remember that due to their shrunken hippocampus and overactive amygdala when their having an episode they cannot even properly store memories, short or long term, most of the time. And even if they did store a series of memories correctly and had a long period of clarity they then have to deal with all the problems they caused themselves that any normal person would have to work through except they have a huge amount of deep problems piled up because they're so dysfunctional that they should flat out be killed.

>>33274198
>then that she can know what she TRULY wants
Truly? ....wut? Are you claiming there's a pot of gold at the end of the BPD rainbow? No. No there is not. There isn't a single documented case of that. It's an incurable and potent mental disease that should warrant the electric chair.

Bpd people ruminate about their exes for the rest of their lives.

>>33274459
>she just started perma-dissociating.
Do tell.

>>33274809
>I don't know how anyone falls for this shit
I had no idea what bpd was and if it weren't for chatBPD I would have never figured it out. I cannot fucking believe this mental disease isnt in PSAs all over the internet. My girl was really quiet and behaved well for a long time except for looking depressed, and that allowed her to get in like a bomb making it's way into the control room of my HQ. goddamn it, idk why but I fell in love with that girl too, deeply. Why tf did that have to happen to me? That had to be the very worst girl of the ones I dated in 20 years..... Why god? I can't explain why I feel in love at all and it happened really fast.

>>33274836
>If you stay with them long enough, you sync with their emotional states and you become codependent
Happened to me. And I learned the term codependent. Bitch emotionally starved me too (I didn't even know that was a thing and I would have laughed at had it not actually happened to me). Withdrawn is the perfect term. It's not a good auction either folks! It's completely harmful.

>had to relearn what a real relationship with a sane person is like.

Same thing happened to me. I dated a different girl and I could immediately feel how sitting it was to conversate with a sane woman and I could tell there was an element in play I didn't even notice before where my entire emotional rollercoaster was going up and down while grinding against a very abrasive resistance. It wasn't just an up and down the up and down were painful on the way there too. I didn't even know my mind, or anyone's, could operate in such a malfunctional way.

Yup. Your stories are the same thing that happened to me and I wish she'd have said something sooner so I could have done something. She always had a way of inducing regret or making every moment seem completely uncertain. >>33274836
>they love you intensely
So everyone knows, I even tried convincing myself she was delusional but the need for emotion after being starved didn't allow me to process her delusional idealization rationally. I'm a pretty logical person but she wrecked me anyway.

>>33277266
>the only people who date BPDs are those who are also emotionally unstable.
I wouldn't say I'm emotionally unstable except when I started unknowingly mirroring her behaviors

>>33277312
Stop glorifying it you fucking faggot. You should not be trying to monetize this destructive shit. You're not doing something clever. And lay off the Adderall. You're high.

>>33277903
>being nonchalant is the best way to handle her.
This does not even approach "solving" bpd or making it tolerable in any case I've heard. Now, I am certain I had one of the most extreme bpd girls on earth; all 9 traits, high intensity, high frequency.

>>33278773
>you've dated and broken up twice
>She's clearly not the one, move on
These statements are applying too much folk wisdom, blank statements and a willingness to not understand the topic. Just shut up.

>>33279491
>NPD
And be advised everyone, there is a type of NPD called vulnerable/covert narcissism and they will screw you hard if you don't know what this is.

>>33280311
story as old as time, anon. learn from it instead of becoming a dumbass bitcher.

>>33273596 (OP)
Tell her to get actual therapy, that you can't fix her, and just move on and never look back
You lost this fight at your first sentence

>>33277312
>Acting, singing, dancing, comedy. They have the natural skill to turn on emotions at 200% intensity.
Yeah, let's put mental illness on display for all to see! Are you retarded? Do you think you're being clever and finding a use for these people to keep them alive?

Your ideas are just more reasons to guard AGAINST letting mentally ill people have any influence at all on society. Do you really believe that somehow the positive side of the mental illness isn't still causing problems? You've been repeatedly told that it causes an addiction at best. You're the same kind of person who bitches about unrealistic body image and here you are trying to pitch an unrealistic personality?

Lay off the Adderall. You're not thinking of thing others haven't already.

>>33273596 (OP)
Don't fool yourself. Women who love you intensely don't want to constantly breakup. She is an immature woman-child and will wreck your life. Cut all ties and move on and be happy

>>33282469
>story as old as time
Borderline is a NEW diagnosis and could not possibly be "as old as time".

Anons, we have gone far beyond hand waving folk wisdom here. There is legitimate science behind these mental diseases and you should ignore everything these dopamine-seeking, folk wisdom-peddling, hateful boomer.

>Tell her to get actual therapy
I didn't tell mine to get therapy because I want her to suffer. I cannot believe she hasn't killed herself. Doesn't make sense to me.

>>33282889
>Don't fool yourself. Women who love you intensely don't want to constantly breakup. She is an immature woman-child and will wreck your life. Cut all ties and move on and be happy
Why are you talking if you don't even know what bpd is?

And that part about "fooling yourself"? Explain your thinking please

>>33273596 (OP)
OPs story sounds almost exactly like a girl I dated as a junior in High School. She eventually grew up and things turned out OK.
My two theories:
1) BPD fully grown women are merely immature and incapable of ever growing up beyond HS. Why? Who knows who cares.
2) All HS girls have BPD and its a hell of a lot more curable (like maybe 99% curable) than people on 4chan imply

>>33287003
>BPD fully grown women are merely immature and incapable of ever growing up beyond HS. Why?
I was going to say you sound like you're hand waving away bpd. Then your next sentence did that

>>33287003
>Who knows who cares.
You DO NOT understand bpd. They are not merely "that immature person we know who acts like they're in highschool from time to time". Just shut up

>>33287003
>All HS girls have BPD

No they fucking don't, and if they do nowfays it's because of neglectful or abusive parents. Or having sex at a young age. But this is a new thing, not something that existed ever prior to gen z, on average. You probably don't even know what the term "subclinical traits" means. You don't belong so much as commenting on bpd. You need to be asking questions and educating yourself, not telling people how it is.

> and its a hell of a lot more curable (like maybe 99% curable)
No bpd has ever been cured and only 1-1.5% go into remission to have subclinical traits with NEWLY TESTED methods, and they're on a hair trigger to relapse. And like you retadedly pointed out, they're still going to act like undesirable highschool students, at best. So they're still a big problem for everyone around them AND THEMSELVES WHICH YOU'RE SO FAR FROM UNDERSTANDING YOU WONT EVEN UNDERSTAND THIS PART.

>than people on 4chan imply
You're so uneducated about this that the lowest knowledge anyone else could have without having no knowledge is where you're at. Faggot.

>>33281358
>if you think you have a way to handle it and permanently fix them - you don't. True.

>Their mind is a crime against humanity and should be put to death.
False.

Just because someone is mentally ill doesn't mean they don't deserve love and happiness. Most people can't handle being with someone like that and shouldn't try, but most people doesn't mean everyone.

Incidentally, in one study, 75% of people with BPD were essentially cured after 5-6 years of therapy, so people who suffer from it shouldn't be permanently written off.

>>33273596 (OP)
>>dating gf with BPD
Oh boy...

>>33288083
>were essentially cured after 5-6 years of therapy,

And it was free to do this right? no cost?

>Cured
That didn't happen

>>33279510
Men who date BPD are usually inexperienced in relationships and do not have the range of acquired knowledge necessary to distinguish between "all women are crazy bro" and the particular extremes of BPD. If you haven't had past GFs then you don't know what's normal for women and would therefore assume that trying to break up and find someone else would just lead to the same outcome so what's the point.

>>33288588
This is me. My first and only serious gf turned out to be bpd, but for the first few months I really just thought this was what people meant when they said woman behaviour. I got suckered so easy by the attention and affection and didn't have enough experience or spine to know how badly she was abusing me

Still stuck with her because we're on a trip we booked while I was still in denial about it, and now there's no easy way to cut her off without being the bad guy to our mutual friends. Trying hard to stay sane for another few weeks. I'm going with the nonchalant approach mentioned earlier and I think I'll be able to hold out.

What >>33274836 said really struck me:
>Oh, I can tell you I don't like something you're doing and it doesn't cause you to seethe for hours on end, shaking your leg while staring at your phone with a frown, before you finally scream, cry and slam your hand on the wall and run out of the house? You just do what I asked? That's wild...
>And when you have a problem, you just tell me calmly? You don't let it stew for days/weeks/months and then blow up at me out of nowhere? Damn that's crazy...
This is what I wish for every time I'm getting yelled at for making small talk with strangers. I hope it's not too late for me to find this

>>33273596 (OP)
Are you from Toronto by any chance?

>>33288987
Yes I do

>>33273596 (OP)
Let me guess, your gf is drop dead gorgeous too? I suspect BPD is an innate behavioral problem that never gets checked in real life because they always get away with it. They mellow out later in life and the outcome for male BPD is grim. Also the fact that only their best friends and boyfriends fall victim the abuse, while they know to behave themselves around others. I'd be genuinely surprised to find female BPD in someone genuinely unattractive.

>>33289242
>>33289242
I'm wondering about this myself as well.

>>33273596 (OP)
I know some people that are married with a BPD partner. I can see it being tempting at first; The intense part of the BPD can be very appealing, with the person legit interested in you and all, but it is so very stressful man, I don't think I'd be able to handle it, personally.

What sucks is that you feel bad for the person and want to help them out, specially because you feel like the person genuinely likes you, and maybe they do, but the constant fighting over nothing and all wears the mind a lot, I just don't think it is worth it.

I guess the only way it can work is if the person agrees to get some help medical and psychological help for it, otherwise it is just too stressful.

>>33289450
>partner
Spouse*

>>33273596 (OP)
I read your entire thing and it just sounds like typical BPD to me.
You did not go about the correct way to handle this, but as you said you only recently researched what BPD is like so you couldn't have known. You did nothing wrong as you took what she said seriously and didn't assume that there were multiple hidden layers to her words/behaviour (keep in mind I only have your side of the story, of course).

There is a right way to handle BPD partners but it's really, really not worth it. Even if you manage to get something stable going, there is a high likelihood she will have an episode and cheat on you or kill your cat or slash your mom's tires or some shit.
I feel bad for BPD people regarding their romantic lives and I have nothing against them, but unless they're committed to meds and therapy, they are not worth investing in as romantic partners.

>>33289242
It happens but they're usually incredibly miserable cases and often don't get to do as much damage as people don't put up with them. Also higher chance of suicide for sure.

>>33273596 (OP)
>>apparently I "scared her"
this is the word that I see so often, along with "safe". A BPD girl will often compliment her bf by calling him a "safe" person. This sounds great until the bf does something she doesn't like. Then she uses that other 's' word, "scary". Happened to me often and it was surreal, going from being a 'safe' to a 'scary' person at the drop of a hat.

>>33290353
It's because BPDs don't tolerate anyone who would dare feel a negative emotion. Makes them feel they are about to be abused like they got from their psychotic parent(s).

So they end up perceiving threats that aren't even there. It's exhausting to deal with that part is doable. If you've known or dated anyone with PTSD they do the same shit. It's hard but can be handled.

But the BPD does this fucking thing that PTSDs don't. They want to express pure vitriolic negativity whenever they want, on top of demanding you never feel negative yourself. So your job at staying nice and happy for them becomes impossible. No longer workable. They get to feel negativity whenever and (you) aren't allowed. It's fucked.

>>33290181
>Even if you manage to get something stable going, there is a high likelihood she will have an episode and cheat on you or kill your cat or slash your mom's tires or some shit.
Exactly.

And that tard earlier in the thread is trying to say that they should be used as actors or other famous positions or some shit. Yeah, have the entire public like someone who's going to dump on them later. Brilliant.

>>33290273
I hope my ex kilms herself. It pissed me off that I had to watch her innocence lost when she cheated on me. She's literally a whore now.

Don't stick your dick in crazy is not a joke
Wouldn't be surprised if BPDs were the origin of the succubus myth

>>33290918
Succubus, sirens, harpies, banshees, take your pick. From Ancient Greece to the Hebrew to the Celts, the world always had a name for a seductive woman who conceals mental torture behind her hauntingly sweet allure.

>>33273611
Its not even bpd.
Its modern life + social media effect on normal women.
Everything is so panicked and rushed and non communicative and dramatic when they want things without communication, understanding, or contextual patience for given environment.

>>33288533
>That didn't happen
Yes, you ignorant piece of shit, it did.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12562573/
and also
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30599336/

>>33273596 (OP)
>we talk superficially about video games and anime shit but she never wants to have a relationship discussion

There is nothing wrong with this. Maybe you are also a little BPD