I'm a 29-year-old Mediterranean man, unemployed since January 2024. I worked as a Spare Parts Coordinator at a car dealership, hired by a friend who was the Post Sales Manager. He often took advantage of our friendship, and the final straw was when he canceled my week-long Kaizen training to cover his vacation, postponing my training to the next year. Frustrated, I quit in December 2023 at age 27, ending an eight-year friendship and losing a mentor.

Since then, I’ve lived with my 69-year-old father, who’s retired and supportive, covering expenses so I can focus on myself. Initially, I helped with bills, but now I contribute nothing, which makes me feel guilty and uncomfortable. Over time, my habits deteriorated—I showered less and did little of value. My 29th birthday was a highlight; we had a BBQ at my sister’s place, and I played Mario Kart 8 with my niece. No one judged me, but I feel like a burden.

I’ve applied to jobs at other dealerships. Toyota and Mercedes-Benz ghosted me after interviews, but a Hyundai dealership’s General Manager was encouraging. However, when preparing for an in-person interview, I realized my formal clothes no longer fit due to weight gain from wearing only comfy clothes. I explained my situation to the manager, who suggested therapy and said he’d consider me for future openings once I’m ready.

I feel lost, realizing I’ve let two years slip by.

Not only 2 years but that opportunity at Hyundai it's gone.

I'm not a therapist or anything but it seems that you are depressed as fuck, that's why you gain some weight and overthinking bullshit even tho your family is supportive with your fat ass.

Take care of yourself and as soon as you feel good with yourself (body and your mind), then apply for a job. If I was in the same situation I would take the most advantage possible of my father trying to do something that fulfills me, like learn music theory, practice drawing, improve writing skills... something like that.

I don't think your father thinks that you are a parasite or something like that, I bet he knows you are depressed to but perhaps he is confident that you will find your way out, I mean, due the generational difference he may perceive your situation different than yourself.

Be grateful with your old man and focus on yourself, Anon. Don't be that harsh with yourself.

>>33274302 (OP)
>I explained my situation to the manager
Manager was a fucking asshole. Could've easily taken a gamble on a man that was honest enough to explain his situation, but of course sent you packing with the "we'll speak in the future" bullshit.

This is why I always fucking lie in job interviews. If it doesn't work out, they'll fire me anyway, but at least I always get the job.

You should do the same OP.

Try to get a bit better physically and mentally, but next time don't be so honest in job interviews. We need to take shortcuts and lie a little bit to get somewhere different in life. Honesty isn't always the answer, unfortunately.

>>33274394
>Don't be that harsh with yourself.
Thanks man.
>>33274472
>Try to get a bit better physically and mentally, but next time don't be so honest in job interviews. We need to take shortcuts and lie a little bit to get somewhere different in life. Honesty isn't always the answer, unfortunately.
You might be right.
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I do appreciate both of you. I will focus on my health and apply as soon as my clothes fits me as they used to.