My son decided he was part of a culture that he had no connection with, moved and doesn't talk to us much anymore. And it's not like he moved somewhere to make a better living, instead he moved to a country that isn't traditionally thought of as a nice place to live. He changed his name (made a new FB account with an ethnic name resembling his original at least). It's all a little offputting. I don't recognize my son anymore.
I complained about it on reddit but for some reason my post wasn't approved. They might have thought it was so absurd that it must be trolling.
He makes up excuses not to talk with us like international long distance charges and won't even add us on his Facebook.
I don't know what kind of advice I'm expecting, really.

>>33275021 (OP)
I think you need to understand where your son is coming from, what motivated him to move to that other country, and then attempt to visit him with your wife/his mother for a pretext, like Christmas or something.
If you establish interest in why he has decided to adopt this culture that is not of his birth to the point he moved countries and changed names you will better understand him, he will feel better understood by you, and he will consult you for help and contact you more.

>>33275084
I think he did it on a whim and/or was hiding that interest from us. When I've asked why, he gave basically non-answers or wishy-washy "I feel like I belong here"
I guess the trip could be a good idea, since he said he won't come visit, but it is overseas.

Your son is gone. Brainwashing can't be undone.

>>33275021 (OP)
Go read the parable of the Prodigal Son.

If your son was wrong and not too dumb, he’ll be back. But maybe your son really is having a happy life abroad. In that case, it would be rude to insist that he return home.

You can keep trying to reach out to your son. There’s nothing wrong with that. Just be polite about it and respect his wishes if he doesn’t want to talk to you. There’s nothing you can do about it anyway.

>>33275194
That's the thing - how can he be brainwashed? No one was saying to go live there of all places and assimilate into the native culture. No one else is doing that. It's completely idiosyncratic to him.

Did he become Muslim? Where did he go to? He chose that place over others for some reason.

>>33275468
No. He moved to Poland.

>>33275021 (OP)
>I don't know what kind of advice I'm expecting, really.
from reading estranged parent content over the years, i can basically guarantee you were told repeatedly what the problem was and just weren't concerned by it and made your child hate you or otherwise see getting far away from you as the only way they could stay sane. no parent ever complaining about how "it totally came out of nowhere" is ever the sane one

he may reconcile after many years and you should take his concerns seriously at that point if you care

>>33275725
Poland? He probably wants to “save evropa” etc etc. Skim some white nationalist stuff and lament the fall of tartaria or something to him lol. If anything he’ll be curious why you’re bringing that stuff up and you can engage further.

>>33275751
I swear that he never told us anything. He never complained about anything. He never even talked about moving abroad until he already left and his mother called him.

>>33275905
Considering that we're black and he's LGBT-identified, that's definitely not it.

>>33275914
Zesty ass nigga

>>33275914
ok this has to be bait

>>33277082
It isn't. Don't know what to tell you.

>>33275021 (OP)
I know three couples that have a child that cut them off and know the children well. Assuming you are being honest then assume your son is mentally ill.
Why?
Here are the three examples I know from real life.
one
>Daughter raised by her parents in a warm, loving home. She had a lot of anxiety issues and was heavily focused on fringe music. Her parents weren't ricj but took good care of her including getting her all the music lessons she asked for until she became a decent musician.
>At age 18 she sudenly has a best friend who is an artist and the daughter decides she is going to school as an art major focused on painting, which she has been doing for 90 days.
>Her parents point out that an MFA in music is a smarter, safer bet and that a career in music will support her as she explores visual arts
>She cuts off her parents for "betraying" her and goes to uni for painting.
>She crashes and bruns in 2 semesters, swithes to music, graduates, has a job teaching music making good money, paints for fun.
>Tells everyone her parents are manipulative monsters that abandoned her when she needed them most
>On her 5th abusive lesbian relationship on the 6 years since graduating
Two
>He mother died when she was 2, father remarried when she was five to ensure she has a mother. Loving home, very devoted to her. She got on well with her half-brothers. Wants to go to prestigious school 2,000 miles away, parents agree., proud she got in
>She is very focused on her studies, tells her parents she isn't dating, grades are excellent, she only visits for Christmas, works local in the summers, but emails a lot
>Last semester her dad has a business trip nearby, surprises her. She isn't in the apartment she claimed to live in. Looks for her. No one will tell him where she is, everyone is very hostile to him. he was very confused, so he asked around more.
[more]

>>33277504
>Finds out she has been living with a gut 5 years older since her sophomore year, he finaly meets her and she's all sweet, says she thought he wouldn't understand. tell him she is pregnant and she is marrying the guy the week after graduation
>Dad tells his wife, his wife can't wait to meet the guy, excited for the baby
>a few months later they fly to where the boyfriend is from, meet his family. Everyone treats her mom and dad really weird. The wedding goes off, the newlyweds leave. The new mother-in-law of the daughter pulls her dad to the side.
>Tells him his daughter has spent 4 years telling everyone he is a violent felon who is a drunk , a drug-addict, and liar who spent 5 years in prison for beating her real mother to death 9it was cancer), and that he beats her step-mother. Also, said her dad was a drug dealer (he is in IT sales) and that her stepmother was badly scarred from how her father beat her all the time (she's gorgeous)
>After the honeymoon her dad calls her to ask why she did that. She tells him 'I can't believe you are doing this to me' and has refused all contct with him since
>Divorced her husband and lost all custody of her daughter because of her erratic behavior. Now tells everyone the same lies about her parents but adds that her daughter died of cancer when she was two and her first husband became an alcoholic because of it and she had to divorce him
more

>>33277516
Three
>Son that was the average guy his whole life, parents loved him
>Spent times as a weeb, then as an emo, then a retro goth, then a skater. Just new culture/look/music.etc every year or two from 14 - 18. Picking up new hobbies and dropping them all the time. Has plans to teach english in japan, then be a pro skater, then be an influencer, then write novels, just all new career plans every year, too
>Parents insist he's just growing up and exploring, very supportive
>Goes to uni, falls into the incel/blackpill orbit, starts spewing the 'alpha/beta', 'cock carousel' etc. nonsense. Then suddenly he's a 'male feminist' and oh-so-sorry about his past deeds. Finally ends up a n 'activist' and changes his major to peace and Justice
>Tells his parents they are part of the tools of oppression and complicit in colonialism. hasn't spoken to them in the 3 years since graduation
Mental illness

>>33277504
I live near rural indiana and work with a lot of amish and have never once seen anything even remotely like this shit among them. Worst that happens is one out of every 10 kids runs off with an englischer, but thats it. Holy moly has modern society lost the way

>>33277835
Yeah.
At the same time I know a lot of very loyal, close-knit families.
All devout Catholics or Mormons

>>33275021 (OP)
That’s what all the Ashkenazi politicians do in Israel. Many of them originating from Poland and shit like that. Maybe your son knows from the best.

>>33275914
Are you conservative at all? Voted for Trump?

>>33279038
Lol, no, we're Canadian.

>>33275021 (OP)
After reading all your posts, drug induced psychosis. I wanted to move to a Favela and join a faction not too long ago.
He either will recover or it's over.