This shit is annoying. I lost my virginity to my girlfriend 6 or so months ago and she doesn't like missionary and many other positions because I keep bumping her cervix too hard and sometimes she bleeds after if I was too rough. If I grind it slow and gently by the fornix shelf I can sometimes make her cum(contract) but that's not always, but I usually don't do that because I often hurt her in the process. She usually just makes me do prone bone with her legs together but that makes me cum really fast and feels one dimensional ultimately. Also we barely have sex because of religious reasons and when we do she regrets it and gets in a mood so the original horny and eager dynamic/chemistry we had is long gone too. As far as learning and exploring this problem I don't really have much opportunity or choice in the matter. We've fucked maybe three dozen times total in that span of time and most of that towards the beginning and the later half of those I had to paw at her for it and therefore it wasn't any good.

So obviously I was a porn addled virgin before and thought my dick would be average or small but in most angles it's too big to really fully thrust all the way. I am 7 1/4th bone pressed and 5'11 and she is 5'7 so she isn't exactly small or anything.

Anyways, I know porn is fake but nothing I've seen suggested that it should be hard for these big dick actors to pound away without severely hurting the girl the entire time. I know everyone is acting/pretending but it seems like some confusing mental hurdle I can't comprehend. Is default sex just slow and gentle? Is my girlfriend's pussy just not that deep and hurts easily? Is there some way to thrust fully without hurting them in positions like missionary?

Can someone help an inexperienced semi-virgin out here?

>>33275707 (OP)
Also
>inb4 you have deeper relationship issues etc etc etc
Yes I know that gets enough of my attention already.

those women in porn are drugged out or else so aroused just by getting to have sex with anyone (maladaptive upbringing) that their vagina gets turned on

your gf isn't attracted enough to you for her vagina to relax and accommodate enough

you can try to make it work and go on suffering but the reality is you're not sexually compatible

>>33275707 (OP)
Shallow anon here, and 7 and whatever is too big. She's also probably not getting aroused enough. You're going to have to get some of those things that go on the base of your dick that control depth. If you get into the fornix, it might help with the arousal at least. Sorry man. Take it as a frustrating compliment or something.

>>33275707 (OP)
This is larp

>>33275736
>she's not turned on enough
Yeah I've let myself go alittle bit since we began, and I'm willing to accept that reality either way. If that's the hidden mechanism thats broken is turning her on then that's fair game.

Why wouldn't we be sexually compatible? She says we are very much so. I make her cum really fast all the time. She just cares more about Jesus than me and my dick. If that's busted than that's a relationship thing, not a sex thing.

>>33275747
Noted

>>33275755
What makes you think that?

>>33275817
>make her cum really fast all the time.
if her vagina isn't accommodating you even after orgasm then it really just a physical "slot a doesn't go with tab b" issue

no shame in that

>>33275843
Well I mean it fits all the way in, it just hurts her cervix when I do that. At any normal speed or if I don't aim past it.

So is it actually a matter of not fitting or her not liking getting her cervix slammed.

Another question I forgot to ask is do girls actually like when you hit the cervix or is that misrepresenting when the fornix is hit?

>>33275863
Uhh, sometimes it's great but usually because it's moving around along the fornix after hitting it. Other times, it's almost vomit inducing. The creator entity out there truly is cruel for making the line between drooling tears good to drooling tears vomit that fine.

>>33275885
Are you a female?

>>33275707 (OP)
You are one to something with the porn, watch the actors and how they fuck. They're often not sticking it all the way in on thrusts, they're thrusting shallow.
So the dude's dick is ridiculously long but he can't fit it all the way in, and he's not trying to.

But you have other problems too with the relationship and sex, so the physical penetration isn't the biggest problem it seems.

>>33275863
impossible to say, your cock or her pussy could just have a curve at the wrong place or too much thickness that just causes a contraction that other partners equipment would never have

no two genitals are the same and tons of them just don't work well together

>>33275891
Yeah. Same as a few posts up. Anal doesn't fix this btw. You hit the cervix there too, so arousal is paramount and so is position changes sometimes

how much do you weight? i had something similar

>>33275892
Okay I see you're onto something with the thrust depth, but aside from that I am still puzzled with the speed and force they seem to use, you'd expect it to be hitting deep quite often, I'm sure some of it's acting but that's what I instinctively wanna do.
>>33275896
That would suck because I love my gf and am not at all unsatisfied by her lady parts, I just want to not hurt her during sex or in general.

>>33275900
Neither of us are interested in anal.

>>33275973
Like 190 shouldn't matter much though.

you don't know how to take advice you mong

>>33275707 (OP)
(assuming proper lubrication, you should always put a finger in there first to make sure she's wet enough anyway)
>Is my girlfriend's pussy just not that deep and hurts easily
possible
you'll see they come in all shapes and sizes
the very same pounding by the same dick will be unbearable for some women and a source of pleasure for others.
you should start slow and gentle, then increase the intensity little by little and gauge her reaction

>>33275707 (OP)
Get a real woman, not one of those twig/twink/petite bodies. Those are a dime a dozen, I couldn't even get hard for those anymore. This is how a real woman looks like.

>>33277621
>This is how a real fat woman looks like.
Fixed that for you.
I like me some chubbiness but the bitches in your example are ill.

>>33275707 (OP)
Drilling for oil is not the point of the game. 90% of the pleasure possibilities - for you as well as her - are at the shallow end

Can someone here be my wingman so i could have the same "problems"

>>33275707 (OP)
So, for the first thing, here are a couple positions to try:

missionary with her legs together, and yours slightly spread on the outside. feels really nice and isn't too deep
missionary where you are offset to the side, i.e. straddling one of her legs. similar effect, a bit more friction.

>when we do she regrets it
to be honest, this sounds like your bigger problem here, really. I don't really know how to broach this bc i've never been with a religious girl but fundamentally her religion isn't true and this shit about it making her feel bad about a normal body function is retarded.

>>33275707 (OP)
It won't change

I was with my ex 6yrs, certain positions just hurt her and were off the cards

Is what it is. Try as many positions as you can and see what works, then rotate through those

And do more foreplay

>Anyways, I know porn is fake but nothing I've seen suggested that it should be hard for these big dick actors to pound away without severely hurting the girl the entire time.
You are right, but those women were selected in part for their ability to take a hard pounding from a long dick. Hell some women enjoy having their cervix hit.

You're right, your girlfriend and you are just not physically compatible in that way as you both hit her cervix easily and she's not into that.

Men often like to pretend vaginas are black holes just because they get wider and deeper with arousal. That is as retarded as assuming that because a penis gets longer and thicker when it gets hard, it must be able to grow indefinitely. No, you can just expand up to your personal maximum. Vaginas, like all other bodyparts, come in individual sizes, both for width and depth.

There's a toy you can buy called ohnut (oughnut?), basically a donut-shaped ring that you can put on your dick and only serves so you can both thrust away with full force and not give her more penis than she can handle. Look into that.

>>33275707 (OP)
I just found a perfect solution for you
https://www.amazon.com/Calexotics-Stopper-Comfort-Penetration-Accessory/dp/B07G26J9ZR
>Or this series of rings that you can put together or take apart to adjust penetration depth
https://thepelvicpeople.com/products/ohnut-depth-limiting-rings

>>33275707 (OP)
She needs to be relaxed. It's going to be hard for her to relax if she has any doubt that she should be having sex with you or if there is anything nagging at her mind. Assuming your religious reasons are "wait until marriage to have sex", then you should just marry her, anon. You will do best if you wait for your wife. It's really quite demeaning and shameful to beg for sex. Don't do it. If she really doesn't want to have sex, then don't push it. You want to have sex with someone who wants to have sex with you without any inhibitions. Men and women were created to want to have sex with each other. She is hard wired to complement you, so if you have a strong sex drive and you back that up by leading her and truly loving her, then you will do just fine with literally any woman. Do note that strong leaders will lead by example and service is a very important part of any leadership role, yet I digress. Either respect her wishes (stop trying to have sex) or break up with her and go find a loose girl without any inhibitions on the matter if you absolutely insist you must have sex no matter what. I will say that the latter will cost significantly more than it's worth. To answer your question, you need to warm a woman up if you want to pound her hole deeply. For me personally, that means a massage. You can find a magnesium spray and that will damn near put her to sleep if you rub it into her skin (read the directions, don't use too much, perhaps keep a damp rag on hand to wipe it up if it gets itchy), but just rubbing her up and down her body from head to toe is like pressing the "turned on" switch to "on". Find pressure points that feel good to you and do that to her. Try and finish on her glutes. Seriously it will get you both horny as fuck; you both will be wet and ready. Don't underestimate your precum, brother. Use that shit to help you lubricate. Once she's turned on, gently ease into deep penetration and you'll be able to slam in no time.

>>33279158
Anon. Any woman can be made to take a pounding from a big, hard dick, but it's usually a mental block, not a physical one, that prevents the woman from enjoying it.

>>33275707 (OP)
>? Is my girlfriend's pussy just not that deep and hurts easily?
Yes.
>Is there some way to thrust fully without hurting them in positions like missionary?
No.

You should probably give up on missionary entirely and switch to cowgirl - let her decide how deep and how hard she wants.

>>33279305
I know I'm probably not going to convince you but in my experience this just flat out isn't true. I have been with my own partner for years and I don't think it would be possible for me to feel more comfortable with someone, but there's still positions I do not enjoy physically because it hits my cervix and it is simply a terrible sensation, like having your eyeball poked hard, it just feels incredibly wrong and really puts me out of a sexual mindset.

Also as I said the very fact that vaginas differ in their longest length (to put it that way) and in how they feel about cervix bumping, would make it incredibly surprising if there were no difference in how much they like long dicks and/or cervix touching.

>>33279325
>I know I'm probably not going to convince you
That's because you knew I would know you're not a woman. You're a male (a faggot, at that) masquerading as a woman on a Mongolian basket weaving forum. Whatever "advice" you have is invalid. Now go find Jesus and let him fix you.

>>33277805
Kek , sure, work on your personality, smile, be friendly, learn conversation skills. Learn when to keep your mouth shut, because most of the shit you want to say will turn off a woman, you gotta sugar coat it. Bachelor bad habits can disgust a woman so wise up, no wiping boogers on your wall. Might I suggest the gentleman's guide to untimely manners.

>>33280328
>no wiping boogers on your wall.
ah, so you mean le reddit advice for 15 year olds so you don't actually have to process you are talking to a functional, bathed adult with a job and fitting clothes and grooming who still doesn't get acknowledged by half of humanity

well thanks for trying i guess... go on believing only emotionally leaky incels are being rejected, you've earned your sense of smarmy superiority, jackass

>>33279290
>It's really quite demeaning to beg for sex
Real

>>33275707 (OP)
>Also we barely have sex because of religious reasons
Muslims?