What is love supposed to feel like? How do you know when it has you? Do you believe in soulmates?

>>33275771 (OP)
frictionlessness. being able to be around someone every day for years without fighting or contempt

that's it, that's the main thing that matters

>>33275771 (OP)
shut up nigga

She feels like home.

>>33275781
All couples fight. The couples who love each other fight to grow, not fight to win. Love isn’t afraid of difficult conversations.

>>33275771 (OP)
Warm rush like adrenaline near the belly. Something akin to a feeling of safety and that everything is right and well when you look in their eyes. Wanting them to be happy, healthy, and able to thrive. If you're clingy, it sucks because of obvious reasons. Loving someone like that doesn't dismiss a desire for space.

huge erection whenever we touch literally always hard

>>33275812
no shit that's why i said

>>33275781
>or contempt

>>33275771 (OP)
Other than mother and child, it's a learned thing.

>>33275861
gross

>>33275771 (OP)
Nice pic, which AI model did you use?

>>33276151
rule34

>>33275771 (OP)
It felt like wanting to support him and protect him, but not in a way that undermines him. It felt like wanting to defend him and take care of him. It was unconditional. Nothing he did was enough to break that tie.

I genuinely would’ve done anything for him.

>>33275771 (OP)
The best way to describe love is for me is watching your partner owning you in Dance Dance Revolution and seeing how amazing she is, that she can just naturally move like that.

>>33275771 (OP)
>What is love supposed to feel like?
1. Intrinsically value your capacity/ability to be part of the other person's plans
2. Trust that the other person also values their ability/capacity to be a part of your plans

>How do you know when it has you?
Most people never do. But you can ask someone who you kind of trust and want to help, if they also feel similarly about you.

>Do you believe in soulmates?
No, that's loser propaganda. Relationships require work. There will always be someone more compatible with you than your partner, there will always be someone more compatible with your partner than you, and even for the people in the top 0.001% most compatible, choosing love and attraction together takes mutual work and responsibility.

Sorta believe in soulmates, yeah. The sound of their heartbeat makes me calm.

>>33276470
what a shame it didn't happen. Why ?
Also, preserve this nice soul of yours, do not get jaded. Keep loving people.

I don't believe in anything except biology.

>>33275771 (OP)
You love someone when you're able to prioritize their well-being above yours. Not all the time and for the most trivial stuff, but when it matters.

Safety. Intimacy. Care. Sex. Respect. Understanding me on an atomic level like no one else. I barely have to explain myself to them because they get it.

>>33275791
This.

>>33277861
He took my virginity and then told me to fuck other people, in what was essentially the same breath.

I had a crush on him for over a year before I asked him out. He escalated the conversation to sexting pretty much immediately. I was honestly overwhelmed by it — which I know you bastards would consider an excuse, which is honestly fair, because hey, I gave into it! And I just kept feeding into it because I was just. God, I genuinely thought maybe it would turn out okay. I really liked him and rushed into it because I wanted to experience what all of it was like, and I was excited that a guy I liked also liked me back.

I just realized too late what a mistake that was, and I can’t uncross that line. It’s genuinely over for me. I miss him all the time.

>>33280111
That’s not love.

>>33280111
Sounds like infatuation and you sound very young. It sucks that that happened to you but you'll get over it soon enough, worry not

>>33280244
>>33280326
I’ll agree to it being infatuation, especially at the start, but my initial description >>33276470
was genuinely what I began to feel after the sex. It didn’t feel heady or giddy the way it had at the start. I began to feel calmer, more relaxed and confident. It didn’t feel like a rush, I felt this responsibility for him - like he was mine. Like he belonged to me. I just felt patient. It did not feel similar to the crush I had towards him at the start, or any crush I had experienced before or since.

I know that without the framework of truly being in a committed relationship, it isn’t fair to call it love, because love is a choice, a consistently rewarded effort towards connection with your partner/family member/friend.

But I felt connected to, or attuned to him in a way that I had never experienced before. It was simultaneously awe inspiring and devastating.

Because the kicker is that I am not young. I’m in my 30s. Why did I wait so long? Through my experience, I realized how much I’d held myself back.

And yet. I freaked out. I had approached him initially very shyly, but I’d had a strong sense he wouldn’t want something serious. He’s young, handsome, had a good career. And I knew he was attracted, but that he was flirting with me in a very non serious way. I only approached him after months of being encouraged by a friend group. I was majorly insecure and despite my age, inexperienced enough to be stupid, old enough to be desperate.

Long cope post to try and convince anons about my personal experience, as if it makes a difference now.

I love her because she is constantly on my mind. She remembers things about me that I’ve forgotten. She changes how she speaks to me for my comfort. She shares in a way made for me to hear. I love her because I cannot imagine a world without her in it. Because I see her in every film I watch, in every book I read, in every thread on here. I may grow tired of her, or, when I am not happy, I am annoyed with her. But I love her. I want her happy. I want her safe. She is mine. I am hers. She is built from the same stardust as me.

i don't know how to describe love but my current relationship makes me believe in soulmates. i am afraid im just being delusional but he's like a character from a fan-fiction of my life or something. he is too perfect and i feel like i was looking for him my entire life

>>33280955
like he just gets you

>>33280989
>>33280955
It's not love. It's infatuation

I believe in soulmates but I will never find mine or don't have one. He doesn't exist

>>33281077
hopeless incel

>>33280955
How did you find him?

>>33281116
work

>>33281177
So you didn't look very hard at all

>>33281111
Nope. Seethe, mald and cope

>>33280927
Wow my bf felt this way about me to the t but the he cheated on me with a dude and said our relationship was meaningless from the beginning

>>33280955
A gift from god until he cheats on you

>>33275771 (OP)
Love is the act of treating someone like a person rather than an object, which is why it's so hard to find these days.

>>33281505
don’t sound like he wanted you safe

magnetic, always circling back to him

love is terrifying but stronger than the fear

>>33284144
But is it faster than fear?

>>33280111
>whores herself out to degenerate retard
>still pines after him

tell me about the person you love most

>>33275771 (OP)
>What is love supposed to feel like?
At first it's infatuation. You keep finding your thoughts returning to them. So long as it's not obsessive and/or idealised, promising first signs.
>How do you know when it has you?
When you find yourself dedicating your time and effort, actively getting to know them, nurturing your mutual wellbeing and fostering rapport though good memories.
>Do you believe in soulmates?
That's just the end stage of a promising relationship that stood the test of time. That being, you two have established not only mutual trust, but have gotten to know eachother well enough to be aware of eachother's issues. If you find yourself accepting them in spite of all that, rather than trying to change them into whatever idealised version you daydreamed them to be, congrats, you might've found a lifelong partner. Don't get me wrong, it's perfectly fine to try and help eachother grow and help with a trait or two that they also want to improve, say anxiety, discipline or resourcefulness, but forget about trying to mold them into your perfect idea of a gal.

>t. single

>>33285592
He’s quiet, clever, beautiful, and a complete ignorant buffoon about his emotions.

>>33284690
That is the jist of it, yeah. I’ve posted about it in different contexts/threads for months. The thing that I get stuck on is the guilt. It’s easier to pine for him than admit just how badly I fucked up and move on. Which is — stupid. I should just meet someone and try to be happy.

Sometimes loving someone means standing in the gap between their worst thoughts and the truth of who they are.

>>33275771 (OP)
For me, I knew I was in love when I thought I didn't have it anymore, and I began thinking of all the things I couldn't tell her, how much being around her made all my problems seem so small, how the world seemed so lonely, how difficult it was to do even simple things without knowing she supported me. Some of that is a bit codependent but when I realized she just generally made me happier, that's when I knew I was in love.

>>33276470
Dating Chad has its consequences
>It was unconditional.
The conditions were his height, jawline and arrogant, sexual behavior.
>Nothing he did was enough to break that tie.
What if he became a shy fat balding indian janitor?

>>33289609
I hope he thinks about me this way, i miss him

When something good happens, I want to tell her first. When something bad happens, I want to tell her first.

>>33275781
>years without fighting
Thats not how it works..

>>33275847
Do you need a refresher on the difference between "and" and "or"?

I should tell her?

>>33291303
tell her now!!!! Bitch

>>33275771 (OP)
At first it's the butterflies, being on top of the world with them and making stupid decisions just to make them happy

Then it slows down, this is where people think they're falling out of love but in truth it's where the real stuff starts. It turns into that familiarity we all really want. It's remembering they crave that certain chocolate bar on rainy days, seeing a little thing that reminds you of them and feeling the problems of the world melting away when you see them. This is the point where you don't give them your best version of yourself anymore, you give them the raw unfiltered you, they do the same, and if it's meant to be you love it even more.

There's also going to be the hard times, compromises and collaborations, staying up late to hold them when something bad happens, cleaning them up when they get waaay too drunk, deciding what you're both willing to sacrifice for the good of your future together.

And at the end of it all, there's a deep and unshakable trust with the person you know better than anyone and who knows you better than you know yourself. The person who you think looks amazing with drool on their cheek and pjs covered in dog fur. The person who does that thing you like in bed without byou asking, welcomes you home with a hot meal and tucks you in on the couch when you pass out from a hard day even when they're kinda mad about something you didn't realize you did.

True love is to be known and know deeply and still not be able to get enough of them, and it's incredible.

>>33292936
This made me cry I had this love and I miss it so fucking much I hate myself everyday and I don’t even know what im doing with my life anymore it was him drawing for me while he was at work and bringing it home as a gift or him taking me on walks and picking up flowers to put in my hair I HATE MY LIFE SO FUCKING MUCH I WILL NEVER HAVE SOMEONE WHO WILL DO THOSE THINGS OR TAKE CARE OF ME I miss him giving me baths when I had period cramps and rubbing my belly I miss snuggling up to him and listening to him talk about things I know nothing about

>>33292978
Miss I'm not sure what happened with your ex, but just because you've lost *that* love doesn't mean you won't find one just as if not more wonderful.
You owe it to yourself to be strong enough to move forward on your own, love yourself the way you need to be loved and live life with spark until you find someone to share that life with.
You have the advantage of knowing what you want out of a relationship, not many people these days do so you know what to look for and what to avoid, you'll find your happiness again I'm sure.

>>33293033
Quite right. Sunk cost fallacy, too. This might be love but it’s not the only love nor is it always the best version of love the world has to offer.

her laugh gets me hard

>>33289650
>height
he’s average height
>jawline
also average in fact no one else agreed that he was cute
>arrogant, sexual behavior
you kinda got me there except the moment that made me want him was when he told me he’d miss me when he was leaving. that happened before any sexting. his work schedule was changing substantially and he said “I’ll miss you.” and it felt genuine. and other people overheard, got involved and made it a mission to encourage me to ask him out.

you guys always reduce my experience to some Chad/virgin bullshit. He wasn’t and is not some archetype fantasy hatefuel. What happened was not some - some karmic revenge or proof of whatever beliefs you have about men and women.

He was just an insecure dude, and I was a lonely little idiot. We both got our egos twisted up, and honestly we were a match for shitty communication skills and bad emotional responses.

Annoying website.

>>33289650
Everyone gets fat and old eventually, God willing. I wish I’d be blessed to experience that with him.

Good, scary, sad

>>33293770
the best things and life start scary

>>33294128
Yeah, I don't mind it

>>33275771 (OP)
butterflies in stomach, but it's subjective. Hope you make it!