Just started a new job at a world famous finance company with a grad team of around 8, in an M&A adjacent team (a relatively impressive role)
All the grads are older than me (around 25ish, I just turned 21 this year). They’re all from rich private schools so know all the CEOs and their kids, all the footy players were in their class, they travel interstate for the weekend etc - I just went to a public school and live in a normal suburb, not a super wealthy one where they’re all neighbours.

I have a feeling they look down on me - they told me that they would never be caught wearing an Apple Watch (I saved up for one with my own money) and they go shopping and will drop $20k on a new watch at lunchtime.

They ask me what I got for my 21st and I said a medium sized LEGO Star Wars set. ‘oh I got a Range Rover for my birthday’ ‘I got a lifetime golf club memberhip’ I genuinely feel so left out and depressed every time.
It’s gotten to the point they stopped asking me to go to lunch with them and even if I end up at their table - what can I even contribute to their rich person convos?
How do I not be antisocial here? Like I really want to do well and get to the top at partner level - but I feel like being actively excluded is going to take that away from me since I’m not part of the in-group.

Would this even be considered classist discrimination?

>>33277321 (OP)
They're just whipping out their dicks and playing "Whose is biggest?" You've joined a profession of nerds who think of themselves as super-macho. Unable to show off their muscles, they show off their money. It's the same thing.

It might be worth learning the game. The kind of constant competativeness this represents is highly valued in your particular workplace. You may have to have this kind of ego to be able to pull off a multimillion dollar deal.