I got into a relationship recently. Should I delete my fap folder? I have gigabytes of stuff saved, on one hand I don't want to lose that on the other hand it could be seen as disrespectful to my girlfriend.
Or can I keep it without going back to it while being in a relationship?

Delete

I personally keep it and revisit it only when single

you should delete it, but it has nothing to do with disrespect. it's just the right thing to do to grow as a man. from now on just focus your energy on real women, whether this girl works out or not

>>33278063 (OP)
Delete it

You don't need a fap folder when you have a gf

And even chronically single, a fap folder is just sad. Watching porn is sad enough, but saving a little collection for yourself on your computer is a whole new level of sad. Gigs and gigs of women you'll never meet and guys fucking the girls you want.

Get rid of it.

Save it on usbs and hide them. If she ends up with you show them to her and say you wanted to end up earlier.

>>33278063 (OP)
Well, first of all, you shouldn't have a fap folder to begin with. It's bad for your mental health as well as a waste of time and energy.

Secondly, no, you should not be looking at it while you have a gf. She will be very upset with you if she finds out about it. Women hate that stuff.

But trust me, I get it. I have been an addict and OCD porn compiler my entire life and relapse from time to time. What I would suggest is just storing it all on an external hard drive and keeping it in a box somewhere. That way, you won't feel the loss/regret of deleting it, even if you never look at it again, which you shouldn't. After so many problems and cycles of going through your dilemma, this is the solution I've settled on.

>>33278063 (OP)
don't delete it. even if you're in a relationship what you fap to is your business.

>>33278063 (OP)
Porn is degeneracy, delete it and never look back

>>33278740
That's not the way your gf will see it. Women see this very differently than men do.

Don't believe me? Start looking at porn or thirst traps on your phone in front of your gf, see how she reacts.

This is because men are very visual and knowing you're looking lustfully at another woman triggers something primal in them that makes them freak out. Even if it's just a bitch on your screen. The instinct is still there. She views porn viewing as equivalent to actual infidelity. Yes it's kinda dumb from our POV, but that's how women see and feel it.

So if you want to make your gf happy and respect her feelings, stop looking at porn. It's bad for your mental health anyway.

>>33278777
Not all women are like this. my gf doesn't care.

>>33278063 (OP)

As someone whos deleted fap folders and material; if youre not gonna have a conniption about losing it, delete it. You dont want her stumbling that and it probably isnt actually that important to you. Youre just hoarding. You dont care about the shit in there as much as they just care about the concept of losing a collection which isnt that big of a deal.

>>33278812
She does. Or she's kind of a whore and does the same. Or she's trying to appeal to you and act like she's secure. Or it's hentai.

>>33278822
1. most of it is hentai, but she knows that I also fap to 3d
2. she faps to yaoi a lot. I don't think this makes her a 'whore'.

>>33278063 (OP)
Yeah you shouldn't have a fap folder

>>33278831
How is getting off to another 3d person not some kind of infidelity, if you think about it? You're looking at that person, thinking of fucking them while you cum instead of cumming in your partner or jerking it to her or illustrated tiddies. Modern psychiatry tells us it's healthy, but does it really benefit you in any way or just make you bitter about what your gf isn't doing in bed or doesn’t have the qualities of?

>>33278857
*thinking* about having sex with someone is very different than actually doing it. Having thoughts and fantasies be your standard is insane.

>>33278886
So you're busting it to another woman while releasing bonding neurochemicals, and that doesn't affect you?

>>33278886
>>33278889
I'll put it this way. Those older women that resent their balding, beer gutted husbands while secretly gooning to erotica. Slight difference, but ultimately the same. You want to fuck or be fucked by someone else with fap escapism

>>33278063 (OP)
Show it to her, maybe she would enjoy fapping to your "stuff" too. Don't be a faggot.

>>33278734
>But trust me, I get it. I have been an addict and OCD porn compiler my entire life and relapse from time to time. What I would suggest is just storing it all on an external hard drive and keeping it in a box somewhere. That way, you won't feel the loss/regret of deleting it, even if you never look at it again, which you shouldn't. After so many problems and cycles of going through your dilemma, this is the solution I've settled on.
>not OP
Thanks anon. Makes sense. Will do this
Actually got a chance to get a gf (got my 1st ever date next week) and I have stopped fapping, but still looking at porn. I'm an addict I know.
Not deleting it, but still "removing" it from my life is good I guess.
Now if only I could stop looking at the shit online, especially /gif/ lol

>>33278831
It makes both of you animals and you are perfect for each other. Dumb slaves unquestionably obedient to their lower instincts. You are the last man and I rejoice at your miserable piggy life. Enjoy your life of servitude and mediocrity. You don't deserve to have advice for quitting porn or anything. Nasty oinkers probably have some weight on the both of you like since you obey your fleshly appetites so much you accept them as part and parcel to you. Rotten on the inside and out. Worthless, thoughtless, pathetic individuals. In a word, scum.

>>33278889
no, it doesn't actually.

>>33278908
ah, yes, *we're* the badly adjusted ones, not the fags posting shit like this who internalized bullshit narratives without understanding them.

>>33278908
Lol

>>33278063 (OP)
Delete regardless of the gf.