It feels like I was never really independent on my own, since I went straight from living with my parents to living with my bf.

I'm kind of frustrated with that. Like I'm envious how guys just go out whenever and do whatever without any worry. I want to be the person who gets called over to walk somebody to the store after dark. I want to feel like I'm helping in an important way instead of just doing what I can.

I asked my bf if he would love me if I was FTM bc I was thinking about how if I was a guy this might be different and he was like "why are you asking this". I told him, and he called my reasons "retarded". It hurt how he didn't take me seriously and just blew my worries off like that.

How well would I be able to back out of transitioning if it doesn't end up being the way to get what I want?

>>33278205 (OP)
Your boyfriend was right, you are retarded

No way this is real

>>33278226
I know it would be retarded to actually transition, I'm just asking as a hypothetical. I just want to hear why he thinks it's so terrible so I'm pushing at it until I get a response.

>>33278249
If you can’t figure it out you’re retarded. If you keep pushing at it until you get a response you’re retarded.

Just do him a favor and break up with him and get your precious independence rather than causing fights over nothing until you get it anyway, or cheating on him when your greener grass syndrome boils over.

>>33278205 (OP)
>Boohoo I'm not independent because I moved in with my partner
Switch places with the 30 year old incels living in their mother's basement

>>33278276
1. I don't want to break up with him bc I love him even though we don't always agree.
2. I can't break up with him bc I can't afford the bills by myself and we're stuck in a lease for 7 more months.

>>33278249
Because you are a biological woman

Doesn’t matter how much you try to change that, you won’t, that’s your life, accept it and deal with the parameters accordingly.

If you want safety, learn to carry and use pepper spray / tasers / small firearms effectively without panicking like a retard when someone actually pulls up on you. For some reason 99% of women can’t do this or don’t even think of doing it to begin with.

Literally idk what else to say. Why on earth would you transition? What do you think that would achieve? You will be able to beat up other women, but still no where near as capable of fighting as a competent male.

>>33278521
It just doesn't feel fair that guys can do stuff without worrying about tasers and sprays and so on. Like please tell me you get how annoying needing to worry about that crap is.

I just don't want to feel so bothered. I want to drive that point home to my bf too so he respects my feelings better and doesn't act like it's such a chore to walk with me when I need to go out somewhere late.

>>33278589
Faires are for tourists, you're stuck here (as a woman).

>>33278205 (OP)
I’m going with the assumption this is real and not bait.

Anon, I’m a woman and I had an FTM phase. I did not take hormones, which thank god. I won’t go into my reasons/story too deeply — but to answer your question, there is no “soft” transition option. Even if you don’t take hormones, you’ll potentially need to socially transition and it will alter how people treat you, even if you back out. And it will stick out in your mind like a vicious torment — “if only I wasn’t a woman, then I could just do x/y/z.”

You’re putting the blame for your feeling of weakness/insecurity on being a woman. Which, eh, fair enough. But it’s an excuse nonetheless. I’ve walked home in the dark. Never been raped, assaulted or molested. Have had bad experiences, but it was due to lacking assertiveness/not listening to my instincts/wanting to be liked/thinking that someone else could determine my worth.

There is no life but the one you have now. Change how you view yourself and how you perceive being a woman to be. Stop making excuses.

Also if you truly and sincerely want your boyfriend to walk you home? Ask. If he doesn’t, then maybe he isn’t the guy to stay with. I think it’s bullshit you’re this timid, but he should care more and coddle that instinct, since it puts him in a position to protect you.

Don’t transition unless you’re completely unwilling to live as a woman, and willing to accept that you will never be a man, you’ll just barely be allowed in the social role failed woman/tranny.

>>33278589
>guys can do stuff without worrying about tasers and sprays and so on
fact of the matter is that even a healthy young man, if unarmed and up against an armed foe, is probably fucked
what you've got here is pointless jealousy
men are stronger than women. but women can have kids on their own (essentially)
men have better spatial awareness than women. but women are generally trusted much more off the bat, get better treatment in the courts, etc etc
men and women are two sides of the same coin and obsessing over what your sex, on average, does worse/has worse than men is a waste of brainpower.
improve YOURSELF, as an individual, before worrying about your sex.