>>33279322 (OP)When it comes to grief or bad shit or mental or emotional booboos, there's a few steps you need to take in order to move on OP
1) acceptance. Accept it happened, and moreover, accept you can't do shit about it now. It's gone/done/finished, nothing can change it. You use your internal thoughts to reach this part.
2) talking/venting/journalling, 'external processing'. That's the stage you are at. You use external ways to process it, and by speaking about it, you speak the fact it's over into existence.
But there's one last step your mind needs to see. It needs to witness your own body get up and move.
3) find a new thing. Whether that's a new girl, a new hobby, a new job, a new skill, a new friend group, whatever. You go and chase something new, something that challenges you and promotes growth or at least reveals to you something to appreciate in yourself.
Then your mind witnesses the fact that you ain't as broken down as you feel, and that even in the face of adversity, you dared to go make something new happen in your life.
The last step is the trickiest one to take. Because you will assume it needs positivity or optimism or renewed energy to go and achieve. And you'll remain stuck in a loop of step 1 and 2 and wallow in misery waiting for a second wind that never arrives.
Don't make that rookie mistake. You are meant take step 3 while feeling like absolute shit. In fact, it's the only way it works. You are supposed to feel shit while doing something new to move on. It's supposed to feel bad. Let it feel bad. Just let yourself feel bad & do the thing. There's no rule in the universe that says you cannot. You can. And it will suck. But AFTER you do it a few times, then you get the results. Then you start to shake off sour shit and reclaim your old enthusiasms.
So go and get to it, son. Do it when you feel the shittiest.
