23 M, KHV and I'm alone again.
I took a day course, and socialized, improved, and built repoor among my peers.
Now it's over and I don't know what to do with myself.
My old friends are long gone.
My only new friend has cancelled plans last minute for the last two months. I'm starting to think he's avoiding me.
I walked around my house looking for someone to talk to reflexively.
Wanted to tell my mom about my day.
Messages keep getting ignored.
I wonder why.
Turns out the guy she likes at work decided to drive her to the mechanic to get her car back.
Basically tells me not to wait up for her to go back.
I think they're eating food somewhere.
MFW my mom has a more existent sex than me, has people just tripping over themselves to do nice things for her.
While I have to claw myself out of a pit every few months for a crumb of human warmth in the form of another's voice that actually wants to hear mine back.
>inb4 "you're not trying enough"
>inb4 "your mom's just nice"
I'm tired.
Tired of being treated like a villain for wanting the dignified human experience like the average normie does.
And when I realized my mom decided to hang out with some dude than talk with me about my day.
I realized all over again that men with nothing to offer are truly alone in this world.

>>33279580 (OP)
>repoor
?
did you mean "rapport"?

anyways cool blogpost but it seems to me the problem is that you have no hobbies and no lifestyle habits.

If you were out at the gym or learning boxing or taking part in trading card tournaments or doing whatever you'd have an interest in doing you wouldn't be sitting around all day waiting for something to happen.

Also it sounds like you're just a bummer, like a huge drag, someone who exists only to spread their misery about

>Wanted to tell my mom about my day.
>And when I realized my mom decided to hang out with some dude than talk with me about my day.

bro what even was your day? You sat around being sad that a girl got her car back and wandered around the house by yourself, who wants to hear about that?

Like I said, if you're doing nothing with your days that's not anyone else's problem but your own.

Fuckin hell, I don't have any friends and I think it's great. I go out to the gym by myself, I go out shopping for old music records and comic books and whatever else by myself, I go out hiking in the woods or cycling by the water front by myself, I play the piano and write stories by myself, and nights I just stay in watching movies and anime by myself - and it's great because those are things that I enjoy.

I have "work friends" who I will never hang out with outside of work hours, and also gym friends who again I will only ever talk with while we're at the gym, and that's good enough for me.

I don't need to talk to someone on the phone for 4 hours like some woman at her kitchen phone back in 1995 all like " blah blah blah and then THIS happened can you believe it?"

>>33279580 (OP)
>alone again
>naturally...
>[sob! waaaahh!]
I won't read such threads.

>>33279580 (OP)
You’re 23. You have nothing to fear even if it feels like it. I’d recommend praying to Jesus and going to a church. They’re one of the only social spaces left in our shit modern world and you make friends for life there and meet women.

>>33279675
I’d also like to add that churches always have free events and shit going on.

>>33279675
I was totally on board with you until you told OP to go sit in silence with a bunch of 80 year olds and like a handful of married 40 year olds with little kids.

>>33279686
Passive socialization is still healthier than being alone.

Protestant churches are more socially active than Catholic ones. My church is all ages, and has events every night of the week for different age groups. You meet good people there who will be lifelong friends and good influences there.

>>33279686
Not him but the types of people who go to church largely varies depending on the denomination of said church. It's on OP to try different ones and see if it's his thing or not

>>33279693
>You meet good people there who will be lifelong friends
>>33279675
>you make friends for life there

Don't be saying that unless you're an 80 year old with the same friends since the 1960s.

what are you, 25 years old with the same friends since 2023?

>>33279709
you’re a fucking fool dude.

>>33279686
>>33279709
2 replies and you haven't added nothing of value at all, only contrarianism. I'll side with the christcuck this time

>>33279722
I wrote a whole blogpost here telling OP to get some real hobbies that take him outside the house >>33279638

>>33279698
>just join whatever church even if you don't believe in it it's fine don't worry about it
isn't that how people go to hell?

>>33279740
why wouldn’t you believe in it in 2025? Study politics for 10 minutes. and you have no concept of why people are sent to hell so don’t act like you do becshse you heard it in some movie. You think OP’s secular belief system is helping in ANY way? Why do you think sports stars thank Jesus on the big stage? Atheism kills.

>>33279740
>isn't that how people go to hell?
Most christians, if not all of them, only follow the parts of the scripture that they find more convenient while ignoring the rest. I'm agnostic, so it's not like that I care.

>>33279756
>i’m smarter than billions of people and can make sweeping generations about them

yeah i’m sure you know more about the bible and christianity than people who studied it their whole lives. retarded arrogant piece of shit

>>33279752
>>33279772
this the kinda friend you can make for life :)

>>33279870
>convenient lack of rebuttal

owned

>>33279638
>did you mean "rapport"?
yes brain fart
>the problem is that you have no hobbies and no lifestyle habits.
I live in the middle of nowhere and everyone around me is old.
>bro what even was your day?
I finished my course and my professor is recommending me directly to a union aligned employer. Something he offered to no one else.
I achieve things but come home to nothing.
I'm not good at cold approaching people, so I try to make connections through occupation, or education, but they never get past acquaintances.
I go to the gym but it's uncomfortable. No one wants to even look at each other let alone talk.
>>33279675
not the worst idea but all the churches where I live are hippie jesus ones and wave a huge rainbow flags over the doors.
according to my mother who goes to one they've been praising butt stuff all month. I could try to find a catholic one tho.

>>33279900
Nah dude that’s rare. You don’t just have to go to one either. You can go to multiple. My church has stuff going on every week and not just old people.

>>33279900
Anon your day sounds like it was decent. Proud of you for your success in your career! Keep it moving forward and stick with it. It’ll give you opportunities for more than what you presently have.

I relate to the struggle to cold approach, and some areas are isolated and hard to find growth in. I hope you’ll have future opportunities, and you’ll hold on until you get there. Again, proud of you. Glad you said something.

>>33279886
+1 internet argument

but for real bro you're telling him to treat whatever churches as basically slutty girls.

Just find the nearest one, don't even worry about her personality and what she's into, just try it out for a couple of week and if it's not your vibe leave it in the dust and find another one.

I'm not even religious and that seems totally disrespectful to the religion, of course disingenuous towards everyone at the church or temple or mosque or synagogue or shrine or sweat lodge, and for OP it'll force himself to be someone he's not and pretend to care about something he's no interested in just because someone was nice to him.

If you're gonna push a religious angle, go all in. Tell him he can only find friends at the mormons or something, not to sleep around with different religions

>>33279935
thanks. even if it's just through text, some sort of acknowledgment is appreciated.
Sometimes, it feels like I don't exist until someone needs something from me.

>>33279997
>but for real bro you're telling him to treat whatever churches as basically slutty girls.

How? Churches are a positive social environment and you CAN meet women there. I’m not telling him to practice pickup at church. I’m telling him to get involved in something and he will make friends and meet a girl naturally. How in any way is this wrong?

>>33279900
>I go to the gym but it's uncomfortable. No one wants to even look at each other let alone talk.
Is it the kind of gym that has like boxing class wednesdays or something?

I don't know much about joining adult team sports as an amateur, but I know it's a thing that people organize and take part in all over the world and in all sorts of sports.
Combat sports are more my vibe, not just because I get to punch or strangle someone instead of chasing a ball but because it's a much more casual atmosphere where every victory or defeat belongs to you and you alone, no one's gonna get mad or tease you for losing the team kickboxing game since it's not a team sport.

There's also stuff like group hiking, group kayaking, group cycling, etc.

Maybe sign up for a powerlifting competition 6 months from now.

Like I said even if you don't immediately make your bffs on the first day, it's still just a weeklly/monthly place and thing for you to hang out with other dudes and a few ladies even if it's just making casual small talk once a month with someone whose name you forgot and are too cringed to ask again. It's better than spinning in circles alone in your room.

>>33280041
>How in any way is this wrong?
specifically this:

>>33279698
>depending on the denomination of said church. It's on OP to try different ones and see if it's his thing or not
that's just being deceitful/disingenuous, trying different denominations and churches like pairs of pants

Unless OP really loves Jesus or Joseph Smith or Allah or whoever else depending on the place of worship, he shouldn't go to a church just to socialize.

Not anymore than he should try to socialize at a local sports game even if he doesn't give a shit about basketball or football etc.

>>33280069
You’re a fucking idiot. So you have to stay at a church you don’t like because reasons? You can go to any church you want you fucking retard.

>>33280101
I mean methodists don't go to protestant churches and russian orthodoxes don't go to presbyterians etc

but the advice here is to disregard and bypass all that, be a catholic one week and the next be a mormon if the shoe don't fit

>>33280118
because it really doesn’t matter, the majority of the teachings are the same

>>33280182
>>33280118
>>33280101
>>33280069
No one under 68 goes to church anymore, just drop that shit.

>>33283466
Okay, sit at home snd do nothing then or go make friends with alchies at the bar

Church is the best place to meet quality people in 2025

>>33283474
People at a bar might, just might, be younger. The problem with church is that the average age of those who attend is between 70-75.

>>33283538
You aren’t meeting quality people at a bar shit for brains, the women there are just looking for sex not a relationship

>>33284054
>the women there are just looking for sex
Oh no!!!! Yuck!

>>33283474
It doesn't have to be the false choice of only church or a bar.

OP can go to a fuckin renaissance fair or anime convention or whatever else.

>>33280182
>because it really doesn’t matter, the majority of the teachings are the same
lol

lmao

yeah good one, tell that to your priest/preacher/reverend next time you're church hopping.

>>33284085
>just waste your time and your life going to bars for meaningless sex

>>33284111
yeah man, 20something year olds should instead uh be doing homework and be mad on the internet alone in their rooms

going to bars and having more than zero sex is objectively better than going insane by yourself in complete isolation minus the internet strangers you shitpost at as a substitute for a social life.

>>33284119
you’re a fool dude

i cannot honestly believe you are advocating for people to go to bars instead of church, it literally blows my mind how stupid you are

>>33284141
>i cannot honestly believe you are advocating for people to go to bars instead of church
I'm sorry I forgot this was a Christian website founded by a priest.

you've been nothing but rude, angry, and confrontational this whole thread, if you're the kind of guy lurking in churches I absolutely double down on telling anyone to stay away from them.

>>33284164
i really don’t care what you do, i’m tired of the double standard that people can shit on christianity and we’re just supposed to take it, i’m going to fight for what i believe in even if it means hurting feelings

>>33284172
>people can shit on christianity
Virtually no one here has shitted on Christianity. Certainly not me, if anything I've been saying you should treat it and other religions & places of worship with respect and not going to them if you don't actually believe and have faith in them.

You're the one shitting on us for thinking that a 23 year old should be partying with friends watching the big sports game or singing nu-metal karaoke or shooting pool or dancing and everything else that goes on at bars/pubs/clubs.

Like you don't even have to drink alcohol, no one's gonna point and laugh at you for not drinking. Designated drivers in a group of friends who have work early in the morning or are fitness freaks etc are extremely common at bars.