I have been dating a girl for around 4 months, despite the fact that she wasn't a virgin, this time i didnt rush into sex because i actually tried to build something real this time.

I have never really had a serious relationship before, and I think it's because I always clung to superficial traits and it always ends in one night stands. This time, I chose to wait, and get to know her before getting in her pants.

Last night when we finally tried to get intimate, I noticed she had self inflicted cuts on her tights, scars and shit, It looked disturbing. I didn't say anything, but she could tell it made me uncomfortable. I felt guilty, because she knew it bothered me. Looks kind of gross.

Should I overlook this? I talked about this with my best friend and told me he has seen those types of girls before and she is damaged goods, but when i talked to this with my sister, she told i was being too judgemental and i should judge her based on how she has treated me rather than those scars.

What do you think Anons? Any advice?

if you actually wanted to build something real what does it matter? being real is not flinching even when your partner is gross. you're basically saying BUT SHE GAVE ME THE ICK

Your sisters job is twofold. To ruin your life and support this woman in blind sisterhood, and secondly to ensure family bloodline. She now doesnt have to have kids if you continue.
Also you need to listen to yourself. Look at what you wrote. You have your answer already, and like many lost young men just want us to tell you to take the step. Go on lad

What can you actually do for her? What does she do for you? When she cheats, how hard will you let her break you? Give this well intentioned energy to a girl who can handle it can hold it. Its not even current girls fault, there are people who Will Not and people who Cannot and there is a difference. Forgive who Cannot. But you dont have to love em

You want to not cling to superficial traits?
If she is damaged goods, what's your other unrelated reason to dump her?

>>33280521 (OP)
>, but when i talked to this with my sister, she told i was being too judgemental and i should judge her based on how she has treated me rather than those scars

You're listening to a woman's advice about a woman....? Do you see the problem here? Women don't even understand women, hence the high domestic violence and divorce rates for lesbian women.

And "judgemental"? That's a weasel word.

Don't apply any meaning in any direction based on what your sister said. And stop asking women for advice

>>33280521 (OP)
>I have been dating a girl for around 4 months, despite the fact that she wasn't a virgin,
You sound like you expect a medal.