I've been seeing someone recently and I'm worried my mom may try to sabotage the relationship. She's always seemed a bit jealous of other women in my life and while she's never actually tried to sabotage me (that I know of), I wouldn't necessarily put it past her. She seems to try to involve herself in her children's relationships however she can, and somehow she always ends up being the go-between whenever there's an argument. She's very close to my sister in law and, to be honest, seems to badmouth my brother to her a lot.

I've avoided being too forthcoming about my dating life in the past because of this behavior but I'm starting to get tired of feeling like I have to protect myself all the time. I want to address it but I'm worried it will just make things worse.

I don't know what to do. I've been stressing about this a lot recently and I haven't talked to my mom much as a result. I think she knows something is wrong but hasn't asked. I don't want to stir the pot, or offend her by accusing her of something that turns out to not be true, but I'm having a hard time even talking to her lately and things are just very tense between us now. Should I just wait until it's actually time to introduce the girl to my family, and act normal with my mom in the meantime?

>>33280544 (OP)
My mom doesn't try to sabotage my relationships but she's a control freak and thinks everyone including my gfs need to do as she wants. She's kind of crazy that way. When it gets really bad I have to yell at my mom she doesn't understand any other way. She usually backs off for a while but they the cycle starts all over. And of course my gfs always think I take my mom's side. Women are fucking crazy good luck.

>>33280544 (OP)
If she loves you, she'd stick to you despite your mother. Love in some ways can be conditional. However, if after you introduced yourself to her. After you tols your girlfriend about your mother. Your girlfriend yet again rejects you, you need a new girlfriend. You need to be forgiven by your girlfriend for your mother like your pet making mistakes. There are certain things in life that are out of your control, and your mother is one of them. Make the most out of it.

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