>Got a emotional, sensitive shy insecure gf
>Feels like I spend more time regulating her emotions because anything can set her off
>she went on prozac 3ish years ago
>Since then she has been more fun, more relaxed and joked around more
>completely forgot how she used to be
>She gained weight since then however
>I personally don't mind but she does
>She attributed the weight gain to prozac
>you see where I'm going with this
>she went off prozac to lose the weight
>With the added insecurity of her weight and the return of her sensitivity she's become difficult to deal with
>She has 2 moods, normal and shut off retreat.
>When she shuts down she goes quiet for an hour or more and refuses to talk
>This is triggered by me talking too loud, saying something wrong, or being anything other than a perfect caretaker
>She has zero emotional regulation now
>We were looking at old photos together and her just seeing how skinny she used to look was enough to make her start sobbing on the spot
>We don't have conversations that flow nicely together anymore, we talk until she gets upset - so anywhere between 20 min to an hour
>I don't want her to go back on prozac if it fucks with her weight but she lets her emotions control her too much and I thought coddling her was what I was supposed to do. Now she gives me silent treatment for shit we used to be able to say freely.
>When she goes quiet she starts responding in this murmur and it pisses me off because she's acting like a child
>We used to joke and laugh and feel like best friends and now I feel like her handler anticipating her triggers.

If she's on pills, run to the hills.

>>33281052
We've been together for more than 6 years.

>>33281043 (OP)
Talk about this problem with her, make a list of specific instances beforehand to provide examples of the behavior you want to discuss. Also, she probably needs to go to therapy

>>33281043 (OP)
If the genders were reversed, the girl would just ditch the guy and the guy would be expected to just tough it out and actually lose weight effectively, all while being socially expected consider that. Everything you do to help is a bonus, beucause you'd be alone if you were in her situation, so take a more hard/direct approach.

>>33281043 (OP)
ma dude, when you got together you evaluated one another and both decided that you were a fit.
If one stayed the same and upholded their end and the other didn't then the contract has been breached (in this case by her getting fat and emotionally unstable).
That being said, you've been together for 6 years and you should try to work it out, but at the same time you'd be justified in leaving.

>>33281061
Sunk cost fallacy

>>33281043 (OP)
>gets fat
>blames pills
>stays fat
>now also insane

>really goes off pills to sabotage relationship

Just stop eating bitch.
I lost 50lbs by just changing diet, I ate MORE by volume and mass, it just wasn't highly processed garbage.

>>33282073
She gained weight in all the right places, frankly I like her equally as much. Her tits and ass are amazing. I think she looks at too many 90lbs asian dolls and wants to copy them.

>>33282940
Whenever she is looking at those skinny girls, call them ugly. Compliment your girlfriend on her looks more often.

>>33281043 (OP)
>she went on prozac
This helldrug can seriously fuck you up. I'm not gonna go full anti-SSRI but she should at least speak to her doctor about switching to a different medication. Also, look into ACT therapy techniques, it has helped me a ton. Be well, I hope you two can work through this

>>33283024
Thanks a bunch, I already told her to talk to her doctor, I'll remember that acronym too.

>>33283002
I'll start doing that lol

>>33281043 (OP)
Misery and a hair-trigger are not things you can control, but being a sulky child about it is absolutely a choice you make. When she mistreats you, that is a CHOICE she is making. Speaking from unfortunate personal experience, there is no fucking excuse for the way she is acting - mental illness or no.
There's only so much you can be expected to put up with, mate.

The best you can do is have a blunt conversation with your girlfriend about this shit.
Tell her that that her behaviour is negatively affecting you, and spoiling the relationship. Tell her that you want things to improve.
Tell her that you aren't gonna put up with her sulky bullshit anymore, because there is no excuse for it. Make it clear that you understand that she's gonna get upset sometimes, and you don't mind, but you need her to stop mistreating you when she gets upset. Tell her to find another method of calming the fuck down (eg: Go read a book for 20 minutes. Go for a walk).
Also, encourage her to try new medication. It can take a while to find the right stuff.
If you guys get desperate for something that works, try prozac again, and talk to her doctor about mitigating weight gain (maybe with a secondary pill). Try new recipes and a workout routine with her. Prozac doesn't magically make you fat. She's just eating more.

>>33281043 (OP)
ask her if she took the jab
it's probably over

>>33281996
Plenty of PTSD ridden veterans with supportive wives bud

>>33281043 (OP)
There are other antidepressants that are much less likely to cause weight gain. She should be considering them.

>>33281043 (OP)
>prozac
that's literal poison

>>33281043 (OP)
Sounds tiresome, tedious, and draining. You are a low t emotional cuck tampon, so you will manage. I know a few guys with mentally exhausted gf's. There are many such cases