Anonymous
6/27/2025, 11:15:11 AM No.33281836
I recently found that my friend (32) beats his wife (29). What the fuck do I do?
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What do I do? - /adv/ (#33281836) [Archived: 674 hours ago]
Anonymous
6/27/2025, 11:27:39 AM No.33281856
>>33281836 (OP)
I won't read retarded threads such as this:
1. Devoid of all context.
2. So open-ended as to be impossible to answer.
3. Expects the reader to do OP's thinking for him.
I won't read retarded threads such as this:
1. Devoid of all context.
2. So open-ended as to be impossible to answer.
3. Expects the reader to do OP's thinking for him.
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Anonymous
6/27/2025, 11:35:53 AM No.33281872
cuck him
Anonymous
6/27/2025, 12:17:16 PM No.33281959
Women sometimes deserve a little slap, only married men know
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Anonymous
6/27/2025, 12:21:02 PM No.33281974
>>33281836 (OP)
nothing. be there for listening and emotional support but don't do a fucking thing, you'll regret it.
>>33281959
true, but sometimes men overdo it. not a reason to intervene in another couple's life though.
nothing. be there for listening and emotional support but don't do a fucking thing, you'll regret it.
>>33281959
true, but sometimes men overdo it. not a reason to intervene in another couple's life though.
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Anonymous
6/27/2025, 2:25:37 PM No.33282203
>>33281856
>>33281974
OP here adding some additional info
Honestly, I would've preferred not knowing at all. But some people in our friend group found out and told me, so now the genie is out of the bottle.
Problem is, some of them have devised a plan of fully supporting the wife and cutting off all contact with the husband. I kinda agree that I couldn't be able to look at my friend the same again, but just cutting him off seems like the worst decision out of all bad fucking decision this situation has lead to. Shit's bad man, there are two kids involved. But at the same time, alienating a person like that will just lead to worsening their behaviour. I kinda want to nudge my friends into a more moderate sort of response, but for some fucking reason they've adopted the mentality that I'm either 100% behind their plan, or I'm some sort of abuse enabler/supporter. I feel like I have no useful move in this situation.
Again, I remind you that they've got two kids (very young) and its just a messy fucking situation.
>>33281974
OP here adding some additional info
Honestly, I would've preferred not knowing at all. But some people in our friend group found out and told me, so now the genie is out of the bottle.
Problem is, some of them have devised a plan of fully supporting the wife and cutting off all contact with the husband. I kinda agree that I couldn't be able to look at my friend the same again, but just cutting him off seems like the worst decision out of all bad fucking decision this situation has lead to. Shit's bad man, there are two kids involved. But at the same time, alienating a person like that will just lead to worsening their behaviour. I kinda want to nudge my friends into a more moderate sort of response, but for some fucking reason they've adopted the mentality that I'm either 100% behind their plan, or I'm some sort of abuse enabler/supporter. I feel like I have no useful move in this situation.
Again, I remind you that they've got two kids (very young) and its just a messy fucking situation.
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Anonymous
6/27/2025, 2:28:39 PM No.33282210
>>33281836 (OP)
Friends should encourage the wife to make up her mind - getting professional help in doing so if needed - and then support her in her decision
Friends should encourage the wife to make up her mind - getting professional help in doing so if needed - and then support her in her decision
Anonymous
6/27/2025, 2:57:31 PM No.33282280
>>33282203
>alienating a person like that will just lead to worsening their behaviour
You're not responsible for how someone else behaves, regardless if he's your friend. He's an adult, not a child. Actions have consequences and physical abuse is so toxic that it needs to be cut off like a cancer.
I'm in full agreement with your friends.
>alienating a person like that will just lead to worsening their behaviour
You're not responsible for how someone else behaves, regardless if he's your friend. He's an adult, not a child. Actions have consequences and physical abuse is so toxic that it needs to be cut off like a cancer.
I'm in full agreement with your friends.
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Anonymous
6/27/2025, 3:23:41 PM No.33282414
>>33282203
>I'm either 100% behind their plan, or I'm some sort of abuse enabler/supporter
that's bullshit and reddit-tier false dichotomy. real life is a lot more complicated and nuanced.
friends can forgive stuff. also some great persons can have big flaws.
>I'm either 100% behind their plan, or I'm some sort of abuse enabler/supporter
that's bullshit and reddit-tier false dichotomy. real life is a lot more complicated and nuanced.
friends can forgive stuff. also some great persons can have big flaws.
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Anonymous
6/27/2025, 3:30:52 PM No.33282448
>>33282203
>some of them have devised a plan of fully supporting the wife and cutting off all contact with the husband.
That's exactly what you should be doing. You shouldn't be trying to fix him; people like that are unfixable. You should be encouraging the wife to divorce him, and then either get a restraining order or (preferably) press charges, and have him sent to prison. That's the best possible thing for the children too: you think being brought up in a household where their father beats their mother is going to be good for them?
>its just a messy fucking situation
It's not. She needs to leave. End of.
>some of them have devised a plan of fully supporting the wife and cutting off all contact with the husband.
That's exactly what you should be doing. You shouldn't be trying to fix him; people like that are unfixable. You should be encouraging the wife to divorce him, and then either get a restraining order or (preferably) press charges, and have him sent to prison. That's the best possible thing for the children too: you think being brought up in a household where their father beats their mother is going to be good for them?
>its just a messy fucking situation
It's not. She needs to leave. End of.
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Anonymous
6/27/2025, 3:32:16 PM No.33282451
>>33281836 (OP)
Ask if you can join
Ask if you can join
Anonymous
6/27/2025, 3:57:14 PM No.33282566
>>33281836 (OP)
Congratulate him on being based
Congratulate him on being based
Anonymous
6/27/2025, 4:10:36 PM No.33282616
>>33282448
>>33282414
>>33282280
You seem to misunderstand me. I'm not saying that she shouldn't leave, or that his behaviour is normal, or even that this relationship isn't over (it most definitely is).
What I'm trying to say is that we shouldn't be taking on the role of saviours before she's left or taken measures. What happens if she returns to him 6 months later, and by then, she's demonized all of us for making her leave? No saving her then. What about his next girl, who we will have no contact with at all? We should try to do the correct thing, not to satisfy our holier than thou personalities
>>33282414
>>33282280
You seem to misunderstand me. I'm not saying that she shouldn't leave, or that his behaviour is normal, or even that this relationship isn't over (it most definitely is).
What I'm trying to say is that we shouldn't be taking on the role of saviours before she's left or taken measures. What happens if she returns to him 6 months later, and by then, she's demonized all of us for making her leave? No saving her then. What about his next girl, who we will have no contact with at all? We should try to do the correct thing, not to satisfy our holier than thou personalities
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Anonymous
6/27/2025, 4:52:58 PM No.33282751
>>33281836 (OP)
How bad is he hitting her, genuinely?
lol kidding
Nah, OP you’re gonna have to cut your losses. You’re worried about losing your friend. You think this is something he can be edged back from, like this is just the beginning of his behavior.
If he’s escalated to hitting her, he’s been abusive for a lot longer than that. It’s wired into his brain now. It’s like alcoholism, it’s an ingrained habit that only he can take steps to fix. Can’t save him.
As for her, she’ll make her own choices.
This will be nothing but a messy separation. You aren’t getting your friendship back to what it used to be, unless you want to turn a blind eye to the kind of man your friend is.
Funny that so many anons in the replies downplay this. How many of you have hit women?
How bad is he hitting her, genuinely?
lol kidding
Nah, OP you’re gonna have to cut your losses. You’re worried about losing your friend. You think this is something he can be edged back from, like this is just the beginning of his behavior.
If he’s escalated to hitting her, he’s been abusive for a lot longer than that. It’s wired into his brain now. It’s like alcoholism, it’s an ingrained habit that only he can take steps to fix. Can’t save him.
As for her, she’ll make her own choices.
This will be nothing but a messy separation. You aren’t getting your friendship back to what it used to be, unless you want to turn a blind eye to the kind of man your friend is.
Funny that so many anons in the replies downplay this. How many of you have hit women?
Anonymous
6/27/2025, 7:05:17 PM No.33283231
>>33282616
You do you, but he is his own problem. That's enough to deal with already.
You do you, but he is his own problem. That's enough to deal with already.
Anonymous
6/27/2025, 7:19:12 PM No.33283263
>>33281836 (OP)
I would not cut off contact at all, only help the wife move out and resume friendship providing he was still willing.
>>33282448
>people like that are unfixable
He is not a demon, just a wife beater. They definitely are fixable. OP should definitely help the wife move out, either temporarily or permanently, but the man is still just a man.
I would not cut off contact at all, only help the wife move out and resume friendship providing he was still willing.
>>33282448
>people like that are unfixable
He is not a demon, just a wife beater. They definitely are fixable. OP should definitely help the wife move out, either temporarily or permanently, but the man is still just a man.
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Anonymous
6/27/2025, 8:46:35 PM No.33283619
>>33281836 (OP)
ever consider she deserves it?
ever consider she deserves it?
Anonymous
6/27/2025, 10:47:19 PM No.33283968
>>33283263
>just a wife beater.
"Wife beater" is not a phrase you can put "just" in front of, any more than you can say someone is "just a rapist" or "just a paedophile". Men who beat women are beneath contempt and beyond saving. (And yeah, I'm a guy, before you ask).
>just a wife beater.
"Wife beater" is not a phrase you can put "just" in front of, any more than you can say someone is "just a rapist" or "just a paedophile". Men who beat women are beneath contempt and beyond saving. (And yeah, I'm a guy, before you ask).
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Anonymous
6/28/2025, 1:37:47 PM No.33286379
>>33281836 (OP)
help him lol
help him lol
Anonymous
6/28/2025, 6:20:17 PM No.33287120
>>33281836 (OP)
Ask him to teach you how.
Out of context this is stupid, more than half my son's no-kids taekwondo class is cutesy 20-something couples, I don't know wtf is up with that that inspires a young married couple to take TKD classes as "date night" but apparently more than 3 in 100K couples do that because here they are in my city. Maybe the intersection of exhibitionism and BDSM.
Ask him to teach you how.
Out of context this is stupid, more than half my son's no-kids taekwondo class is cutesy 20-something couples, I don't know wtf is up with that that inspires a young married couple to take TKD classes as "date night" but apparently more than 3 in 100K couples do that because here they are in my city. Maybe the intersection of exhibitionism and BDSM.
Anonymous
6/28/2025, 6:24:37 PM No.33287134
>>33281836 (OP)
Mind your own business
Mind your own business
Anonymous
6/28/2025, 9:53:33 PM No.33288051
>>33281836 (OP)
She's the one who married him. Don't be a bitch. If he was beating a gf or his kids that would be one thing, but disciplining your wife should be normalized.
She's the one who married him. Don't be a bitch. If he was beating a gf or his kids that would be one thing, but disciplining your wife should be normalized.
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Anonymous
6/28/2025, 10:04:27 PM No.33288103
Anonymous
6/28/2025, 10:06:02 PM No.33288108
>>33281836 (OP)
Rape him
Rape him
Anonymous
6/28/2025, 10:09:18 PM No.33288123
>>33288051
There is no good reason to beat your wife, nigger. If it's something that she can fix and/or can be forgiven, then simply communicating is infinitely better. If it's neither, like adultery, then a beating is too lenient and is just an excuse to act like a smoothbrain.
There is no good reason to beat your wife, nigger. If it's something that she can fix and/or can be forgiven, then simply communicating is infinitely better. If it's neither, like adultery, then a beating is too lenient and is just an excuse to act like a smoothbrain.
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Anonymous
6/29/2025, 12:36:06 AM No.33288435
Anonymous
6/29/2025, 12:37:08 AM No.33288441
>>33288144
You're less masculine than 90% of the faggots
You're less masculine than 90% of the faggots