My guy friend is trying to seduce me, and while it is working I need to focus on other stuff in my life right now and I don't have time for a relationship.

I told him as much outright and he said he understood, but then he started flirting with me more every time he saw me since and it's been hard to not just give in and go along with it.

We both want it, I just don't have the time for it right now and he's been successfully trying to persuade me into it. This is really eating into our normal hangout time too, and it's starting to feel like every moment I'm with him I'm just trying to resist saying "why don't we try just this once".

And so the beginning of the end begins. You can go through with it if you want, and maybe even make it work for a while, but it won't be indefinite if you aren't trying to be serious.

People try this fwb shit all the time but I don't think it works. There's not really any realistic way in which you can "go back" once it starts, though. I mean I think degenerates who fuck around can do it and probably still hang and smoke and other degenerate, mind numbing shit because they don't have feelings to catch to begin with, but if this is someone you're already close to, introducing sex is either gonna move it to the next level or slowly dissolve the friendship over time.

the next three times he tries
>awww you're so... sweet
>you're so thoughtful like a brother
>cmon bro... you know I'm not gonna pity date you, right?

>>33285795
He's my brother's best friend too so I feel like we're still going to see each other a lot even if something happens to make it go poorly. Which feels like all the more reason to avoid it happening at all.
I'm honestly kind of falling for him with the stuff he's been doing, but I've got a promise ring type situation and I'm trying to finish college before I do sex.
>>33285796
Is that really going to do anything compared to how I outright said I couldn't go for it?

>>33285824
If you really aren't interested you have to just stop seeing him. Nip it at the bud. Don't get involved of you don't have plans with the guy.

I've been in the opposite position and this was with a girl I did hook up with several times, best friends, but she didn't know what she wanted months in, so she refused to see me in person. The long distance nature of what was left, what she wanted, was never gonna work, and left me with too much resentment and we went separate ways. I tried to make it work but at that point, when a guy gets attached and then left with nothing, it just fucks you up too hard to stay. It's best you don't start something you don't plan on staying around for.

Be firm and direct. Leave no hope in his mind as early as possible. I doubt you can really stay friends in the same way, especially if you entertain it. Men don't understand no until you make it obvious.

>>33285760 (OP)
He believes you are a captive (since he is a family friend) and you will ultimately fuck him and then he'll leave and all of it will be your fault. Your family, especially your brother, will not blame him but you.

>>33285760 (OP)
"I said no and he whined and bitched until I said yes"
Congratulations on immediately finding the the motto for the remainder of your unpleasant relationship. You've taught him that your 'no' means nothing, because he can just wheedle and prod until your resolve breaks. He clearly doesn't respect you.
And you clearly don't respect yourself if you're willing to let someone disrespect you like that, for a crumb of attention.

If you've got an orbiter, you're surely not so starved for attention that you'd put up with the orbiter's bullshit... right?

>>33285760 (OP)
>I need to focus on other stuff in my life right now
Which one ?

>>33286332
>Congratulations on immediately finding the the motto for the remainder of your unpleasant relationship. You've taught him that your 'no' means nothing, because he can just wheedle and prod until your resolve breaks. He clearly doesn't respect you.
>And you clearly don't respect yourself if you're willing to let someone disrespect you like that, for a crumb of attention.
I disagree because in this case, it's about him wanting to be with her. It's not disrespect but courting or trying to seduce. You're feministbuck-broken if you think courting or seducing is disrespect.

>>33286378
> I told him as much outright and he said he understood, but then he started flirting with me more every time he saw me since

She said 'no' and he started wheedling her down by ignoring her no and seeing how much more flirting he could get away with.
Are you fucking stupid?

You're not supposed to continue pursuing a woman after she says no, you stinky dalit.

>>33286426
In some cultures it's part of the process, italian, meditteranean, etc... it's very much depicted in movies and stuff. You're a buck broken modern bitch boy. In the reality some women want to get chased, and see if the men wants them in reality, and/or to get captivated in this relationship. Its not like the consent needed for sex, there is no consent needed for courtship. Of course at some point if she gets really upset you know it doesn't work, but everyone knws of false reluctant women, teasing women, not-confident women thinking they are not ready but in reality wish for it (like op).
OP might secretly just like that, and to whine about that. Oh no he is abducting me and I love that yet I can't do nothing against our mutual attraction ! So sweet and so wrong !

>>33286470
> moorish influence
> high crime rates
> low education rates
"women like it when we harrass them"
Imagine my shock!

>>33286490
>> moorish influence
Any culture knew rape and rapture. It's a stupid ignorant point you're making. Rapture is basically part of the roman history with the sabines (it's before the moors fyi). And I don't even advocate rapture, simply the simple possibility of courting someone that isn't sure yet wishes for it.
>"women like it when we harrass them"
If it's harassment, it means they don't like that. If they like that, it's not harassment.
You're just a bitch boy
>Oh no, it's rapture and harrassment if he courts and flirts with someone unsure (yet that she loves and feels atttraction to and is close to accept a relationship with) !
Absolutely buck broken

>>33286378
>him wanting to be with her
Thats how its worked for 100's of thousands of years. Man sees it and decides its his and unless some other man physically stops him (the woman cannot) he takes possession. This isn't courtship or seduction or flirting its a process of taking ownership.

>>33286470
>if she gets really upset you know it doesn't work
then you just take her and rape her and say she wanted it. Done. Millions of men rape first and force her to marry him since she's no longer a virgin she has no prospects. Happens frequently in Asia

>>33286547
yes, but I do not condone it.
>>33286541
Yes, but htere is a moral limit to it. If one cours someone, it's not immoral., he just have to put a limit to it if it obviously doesn't work and the woman just gets upset

>>33285760 (OP)
obvious bait thread but how hard is it to just hook up and let the fling live its course?