I don't know what to do with toxic friend - /adv/ (#33288355) [Archived: 1285 hours ago]

Anonymous
6/29/2025, 12:08:00 AM No.33288355
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I have a friend that is constantly negative and trash talking me. Every time we play together or watch something he is throwing shit at me. I know he is insecure and that he does it to inflate his own ego and cope with his insecurities, he is constantly in an I'm better than everyone attitude but its obviously not true.

The thing is that he doesn't do it on purpose and when you point it out he tries to change it, but he forgets about it 2 days later and it's a start from 0 all over again.
This affects me because I'm very sensitive and people calling me bad or trash affects me and I can't stand it.

I also almost don't have any friends so I can't afford to discard friends. I don't know what to do.
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Anonymous
6/29/2025, 12:11:55 AM No.33288362
>>33288355 (OP)
>I also almost don't have any friends so I can't afford to discard friends. I don't know what to do.
This guy is not your friend. Discard him.
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Anonymous
6/29/2025, 12:34:14 AM No.33288428
>>33288362
The thing is that this has happened many times and I'm just tired. I just want friends that see me as an equal. Not superior or inferior. I'm tired of dick measuring contests and everything being a social tug of war.

And the more I try to be nice or genuine with people, the more they see it as a free pass to behave like jackasses. You can't earn respect but the only way of getting respect is by me becoming and asshole and behaving in a way I'm not me and I simply can't.
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Anonymous
6/29/2025, 1:17:17 AM No.33288556
discard him
Anonymous
6/29/2025, 1:25:06 AM No.33288576
>>33288355 (OP)
I won't read glutton-for-punishment threads.
Anonymous
6/29/2025, 5:49:41 AM No.33289203
>>33288428
Try to get him into professional help. If he is willing to change but forgets it shows he at least wants to change but something is blocking progress.
Anonymous
6/29/2025, 9:58:27 AM No.33289683
>>33288428
>social tug of war
I know what you mean

If interacting with this person makes you feel bad, stop interacting with them

If you have no friends, go and find some. In real life. Go to places and do things you wanna do with whoever happens to be there e.g. CrossFit, run club, climbing gym, volunteer medic, art class, basketball, whatever it doesn't matter.
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Anonymous
6/29/2025, 12:06:00 PM No.33289903
>>33289683
I'm just tired of starting from 0 all over again. I lost my best friend of 15 years because he didn't want to compromise and now I have to discard this friend of 5 years too. And at the gym and places like that I only find normies and people that you see clearly they don't want a relationship beyond our interactions at the gym.
Anonymous
6/29/2025, 1:56:52 PM No.33290241
Bump