Probably going to meet my bully at my place of work (I work retail in a big equipment place). Have seen him a couple of times years ago, there was still a tint of mockery in his voice, he once yelled at me across the street. Seems like he still hates my guts after +10 years of not seeing him (middle school). He's not a jock but the lanky type, word goes he was harassed by his older brothers including sexually and was called a faggot before turning on a quiet kid (me).

I've long dreamed of punching his face but even if he's not a fighter, he's tall and could wreck me. I'd lose my job (don't care) but I would not want to get a crime record, which can happen if he presses charges.

Should I feign not recognizing him? Didn't work last time. Or stay neutral? He may ask questions like "recognize me" etc, it's already happened. Each time I've met him I came back feeling like I should have said something, but what? How do you deal with those individuals? I've already met people I was mean to in middle school, and others who were mean to me, and everything went fine. Water went under the bridge but not for him it seems.

>>33291397 (OP)
If it's true that he was diddled by his brothers that means all he wants to do is lash out on somebody who he thinks is weaker than him.
If you're friendly towards the diddled he'd take it for weakness, and he'll get the reaction he wants because that's all he wants a reaction from you, most likely he wants you to feel the same humiliation he felt when he got gaped and raped by his siblings.
Act like you never met the gaped victim before, there's people you just can't reason with let it be clear this is not 10 years ago anymore and you're not friends with this guy he should not take any liberties with you.
Don't really think this goes down as a fist fight, he's just a scared lanky bitch.

The weird bullies at work are calling me a serial killer because I don't engage in gossip and telling them about me and my free time.
I don't because they don't care, it will be used as gossip if I do.

if anything happens then report him to HR there and log your history with him there. Not much you can do except hit the gym and take self-defence classses. One more thing is that real fights are actually a lot more messy than people think, and everyone is scared of getting into an ACTUAL fight. If he is picking on you then learn one move (kneeing/kicking/stomping balls is probably most reliable) and practice it. If he comes to pick on you after all of that, then at least you have a record of it with HR and you can be the one to report it again after it happens. If it continues then go get a new job.

>>33291397 (OP)
Calmly and in the presence of lots of others "Tell me, John, to what deep feling of inadequacy as a man do you attribute your compulsive need to bully others?"

former bully here, all I remember is the good times with the bullied KEK

>>33294395
get help asshole

>>33291397 (OP)
if hes a customer then just be professional with him and ignore him. if he presses you just shut him down and pretend you dont know him. or just explain to someone you trust that you dont want to deal with him and let someone else deal with him.

if hes your coworker, then just be blunt with him. tell him you dont want to talk to him for any reason besides being professional. if he doesnt respect that then you file a complaint with HR and let them deal with it.

the last thing you want to give them is attention. just remember that youre busy and move on with your day