I'm lazy af, and I know that's not great. I've been depressed and out of work for a year now and my bf has been supporting me. I try to keep his place clean and cook him something nice to show him I care, but the rest of the time I'm just in bed feeling like there's no reason to get up.

I found out two days ago I'm pregnant and I've just been anxious about it the whole time. I don't know how he's going to take it when I tell him, and I feel like I messed up even though I was on birth control and everything.

I know I need to tell him, but would it be wrong to take a few weeks just to pull myself together before I tell him? I feel like I'm overwhelmed, which never took much in the first place so something like this is crushing.

What's the difference between telling him now vs later? If you're lazy and you've been staying in bed what makes you think that's going to change in a few weeks. Might even get worse.

I would probably just tell immediately, don't see any reason not to. Whatever happens shouldn't be delayed

>>33292388 (OP)
>I'm lazy af
I won't read this.

>>33292483
>>33292490
I'm just scared of how he'll take it, and of what the future's going to be if we keep the baby when I don't think I'll be good at being a mom.
A little time would just let me catch my breath before dealing with whatever emotional bombshell comes from telling him.

>>33292621
If you're scared of the future if you keep the baby would it not then be best to have an extra "few weeks" of planning. If you tell later then you're going to be planning later. I say this as a man though, so I don't really have as much emotional toll when I make choices

>>33292621
I feel like you could just say it without waiting literal weeks, it surely can't take that long to recover

>>33292388 (OP)
How long have you been together and have you spoken about having children before? Are you against abortion? You have to really ask yourself, can you two raise a child if you're struggling so bad? A depressed parent can really fuck a child up, and chances are they will inherit it from you. Please try to answer some of these things prior to talking to him, though who knows how he'll react.

>>33292388 (OP)
>I'm lazy af
Same
>And I know that's not great
Nah, it's great.

>>33292726
>>33292744
I told him, and he was supportive. He's talking about getting married and stuff before the baby's born, since he knows my dad'll expect that. He already asked his boss for extra shifts and he's asked me to talk to doctors to make sure everything's good. It did scare me a little how quickly and well he took it, like he'd wanted this the whole time. It makes me worry I should be as certain as he is and like maybe I'm not cut out for this like he is?
>>33292902
We've talked about kids before, he brought them up when we were looking at houses like "we'll want a big yard for the kids" which felt like a thing he meant for the far off future so I never took it too seriously. I'm kinda not sure on abortion, like I feel selfish for saying but as scared as I am I do want my baby? But I don't feel like I'll be good for her as a mom.