My friend confessed her feelings for me recently, and despite how ridiculously well we get along and how incredible I think she is, I turned her down. Even just a few years ago I would have been ecstatic knowing she liked me, but I've noticed my standards for attraction getting higher as I started getting into fitness and getting into shape. Being single and mostly just using the apps to try to find a partner was always pretty low stakes -- it wasnt particularly an issue if my fucked perspective derailed a relationship with someone I barely knew. But now that I'm presented with this golden opportunity to be with someone I could not be more compatible with, I refuse. She's smarter than I'll ever be, she has the same interests as me, she's funny, she's thoughtful, and shes adorable... but her figure just maybe isn't what I'd imagine in a partner... and thats what my brain chooses to focus on. I've felt like complete shit since, and I can't help but wonder how the hell I got here. I don't want to be this shallow. I fucking hate how vanity could sow enough doubt in my mind to make me blow up something that could have been perfect for me.

Is a mindset like this even salvageable? People keep telling me attraction is out of our hands, but is it really? It was learned in the first place. I know it's recent so I'm still feeling bad for hurting her, but I can't help but wonder if I just made a massive mistake. I'm feeling very lost, and wondering if anyone else has found themselves in this hole.

>>33292489 (OP)
I hate those threads where people come asking for others to tell how they should live their lives.
It's like those people don't have the balls to decide for themselves and face the consequences of their actions, for better or for worse.
In short, anon is a massive faggot.

>>33292489 (OP)
Pussy is pussy. If there’s someone who will tolerate you forever and complement your strengths and weaknesses and is somehow beneficial to you, settle and make do. You don’t have forever.