I have a friend that is constantly negative and trash talking me. Every time we play together or watch something he is throwing shit at me. I know he is insecure and that he does it to inflate his own ego and cope with his insecurities, he is constantly in an I'm better than everyone attitude but its obviously not true.
The thing is that he doesn't do it on purpose and when you point it out he tries to change it, but he forgets about it 2 days later and it's a start from 0 all over again, and it's all so tiresome.
I'm very sensitive and people calling me bad or trash affects me and I can't stand it.
I also almost don't have any friends so I can't afford to discard friends. Ive known him for many years and I'm tired of destroying years long friendships. I don't know what to do.
hey op, if he constantly forgets to change.. i dont think its a worthy friendship to keep
my advice is to weigh the pros & cons of keeping things as is, or cutting him off
if you were to keep giving him a chance, well.. it's self-explanatory
if you were to cut him off, you'll have to make a new friend, but at least that's one less bad person in your life, hey?
>>33294916 (OP)tl;dr gtfo and tell him to get a therapist
> "he doesn't do it on purpose"Sure but that's not a valid excuse. In the end, he makes you feel like garbage.
He can have his issues but at the end of the day he needs to take responsibility for his own words and actions.
> "can't afford to discard friends"Been there, done that. Don't think like that. You're unironically better off alone than with friends who treat you like trash.
I've destroyed my mental health because I insisted on trying to make it work with the wrong people.
lol i had pretty, pretty close and good friends, we had a 7 year old friendship.
they trash talked me once, one (1) single time, one instance and i ghosted and ignored them for ever.
dropped them like a hot potato
(they couldnt believe it, tried to reach out multiple times to me ectect. finally they gave up, went depressed, a little alcoholic even and tattooed themselves)
surely, it was a slip of tongue by their side, but i too am rather sensitive and they knew well
ultimatively i have no friends left now, because they either are a biological hazard, have no moral compass/lofty values or simply too profane, uninspired, uninteresting.
they want to work with me, but i do not.
>>33294916 (OP)you think their insecurity might resolve itself over time? sometimes people just need time to change things or adapt
>>33294916 (OP)Offer to take him to a therapist at his cost. Tell him he needs to be willing to work on this or he will lose you as a friend.
