>>33296072I believe you. I believe you know and saw that shit happen. But what you haven't clocked is the peripheral reasons why you saw that pattern. Familiarity breeds familiarity.
Look: Let's pretend I'm an incel, can't talk to women, can't fuck them. Also scared of other guys because dad was a scary man. One day I feel lonely. I try to find friends. I find like-minded people, unconsciously I just gravitate to them or they gravitate to me, because I identify with how they talk and how they think. To no surprise I ask about their life and whaddya know, they're kinda like me, they also struggle with girls and talking to them and being one of the guys and having a good connection to their dad.
Birds of a feather flock together and all that. So I ask them about experiences of women or struggling to be a strong or capable man and wow they also repeat back the same or similar stories.
Then my preconceived notions of life gets cemented, I start to call it 'fact'.
Same is true for your situation. Not saying you are an incel archetype. But you are a man who was born among some toxic women. And you can bet your ass the guys you know as friends are bleeding the same blood as you. They repeat back similar stories. And you cement it as fact.
Yes it's a fact it happened to people you know, but you need to try to understand that your perception isn't encompassing all reality. Reality is fucking massive, bigger than everyone's perception, even my own.
In the foggy unknowns outside of your perception, there exists scenarios you wouldn't even predict. Such as one where you find a woman who doesn't fuck you over. They exist. In fact they exist in plentiful abundance. But if you already swear they don't exist, you never see them.