>>33301943>You operate transactionally too idiot, you just don't realize it. You don't get to tell me what I am able or unable to realize of myself, fuck off with the gay gaslighting.
>The reason you act nice can be both conscious and instinctual, but it's still self-serving in the end.Then you have never sacrificed anything in your life then. That's what it means to truly give; when you give something that costs you without anything in return to cover the loss. Whether that's time or money or energy.
If you give $100 to a homeless man, that's nice. But if you had $10,000 in your pocket anyway, it's not much of a sacrifice at all.
If you give $10 to a homeless man, but it was the last $10 you had to your name, it's a true sacrifice and counts for more than the $100.
Same is true for things besides money. People who give out of true sacrifice give while full well knowing it costs them, there's no reward, and it might even feel bad doing it, but they do it anyway. That isn't a transaction. Transaction is you get something out of it. Kindness means you get nothing from it. You do it because it's hard but also it's the right thing to do.
Nice guys can't seem to fathom this basic concept. Because they always assume every action is done to generate adulation or a reaction from someone else. Especially if it's a 'reward' like praise or loyalty or whatever goody good thing they're after.
Which is fine btw. Some people you can have a transactional relationship with, others a free and pure reciprocal bond. But nice guys people please everyone into emotional transactional dynamics. Their girlfriends, their family, their friends, their bosses or coworkers, everyone. It's fucking insane.
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