Ever since my ex broke up with me I've been finding it hard to connect with myself again, even living normal life.
It's hard to explain, I guess I gave everything to a person that simply threw it all away and now I don't know how to be myself again.
I have great friends, my family is kind of a mess right now (I live with my parents) and I desperately need a job but it's been really hard to find.
Is this emptiness normal? Sometimes it really feels like I dead and forgot to lie down. What can I do to make my brain "normal" again? has anyone else been through this? Feels like I'll be consumed by it eventually, it's been like this for 8 months now.

That's normal and okay. You can't do anything about it other than experience this intense pain. Sorry to hear

>>33303210
Thanks for the response, sometimes it feels like there's only a void inside of me, I persevere, but it's becoming harder.

It will get better when you find someone new
An I'm not talking about GETTING someone new. No rebounds, that will make it worse. I'm just saying, WHEN it happens, naturally, you will start to feel better.
Until then, yeah you're just gonna have to let time wear it down. Stay busy even if it feels like you have to force it. Get a job that requires focus and makes you work with your hands a lot like construction or something. Helps put your brain on autopilot

>>33303272
I'm pouring myself to find a job right now, there's a test I need to take this weekend for one so I'm studying a lot for it. Still these waves of emptiness or like this extremely miserable feeling like I forgot who I was and I don't know where I need to be just consume me and they have been taking away from my sanity bit by bit. At this point I'm waiting for a miracle to change destiny because no matter how hard I try I don't if I"ll be able to make it.

Hell I don't even know if I want to try love again or if I have the energy or anything at all to give to another person, even if she starts it somehow. Thanks for the words though, I keep going a few more miles and hope something good happens, I really need a win, needed it about 5 months ago...

>>33303300
Studying when you're in this state is the worst, doing any sort of "above the shoulders" activity gets so fucked when you're in this state. I wish you luck my man.
I wen through this for about 14 months after one of my major breakups before I ended up connecting with a woman who made me remember I'm a man again. We didn't last but she pulled me out of that funk so I'm grateful and hope she's doing well.
I got my wins eventually and you will get yours too. Life is like this sometimes for men, we go through long periods of just taking Ls before making the greatest comeback ever, then more Ls and an even greater comeback, etc. Just keep walking dude, and take care of yourself.

>>33303321
>Studying when you're in this state is the worst
Yes, but I've got no other choice really, it feels like pulling at my very soul to put any effort forward, I gotta make it, getting this job would help me get at least some hope for the future.
I hope it's true and I'm about to make a big comeback, thanks friend, really.

Can you tell me what she did to you to make you remember? Maybe it could help me recognize it if I ever find it.

>>33303225
You'll get through it, I promise. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Just make sure you are practicing good mental hygiene.

>>33303999
>good mental hygiene.
Any tips?

>>33303126 (OP)
Only time does it
With every passing month, the weight lessens.
In my case, the girl's literal weight also increased at a similar rate
This also made it easier to come to terms with.

>>33305405
You're as fucked up as ever legit. People like you don't change

>>33305405
I think at this point in time, what makes me suffer most is how I'm a nobody.
I made a massive mistake in trusting her and expecting she would trust me back, then I got sick and depressed while trying to help her, lost money and time... Now I'm here left with nothing. I feel like those people that expend all their money and time at casinos, ruining their life.
But like I said above, I'm really trying to push through, there's other bullshit in my life as well, bit it's becoming harder by the day.

>>33305410
Fat hands typed this post. Actual calories were expended hefting arm from key-to-key.
>>33305417
I have to be honest, man, this is kind of a learning experience going forward.
>I got sick and depressed while trying to help her, lost money and time
And all you got from it was acute depression and that sense of emptiness. Next time do not devote your life to your partner, do not make your happiness conditional to theirs.
You'll probably never love another the same way, but that's for the best, man. Dependence and romance have to remain distinct from one another.

>>33305451
>Fat hands typed this post. Actual calories were expended hefting arm from key-to-key.
lmao
NTA but im underweight and i agree with that guy. you're weird for deriving pleasure/comfort from something like that. if you literally love your partner/ex less because they put on weight, you never truly loved them in the first place

>>33305451
>never love another the same way
I'm absolutely certain about that, right now I'm aware that really never experienced true love, for a period of time I'm trying to cure myself from the emptiness and depression and give myself the love I deserve. Thanks for the words. I need to leave my house as well living with my parents is mind draining, but that's just another problem from the pile...

>>33305476
>if you literally love your partner/ex less because they put on weight, you never truly loved them in the first place
I'm surrounded by literal children. Let's see if you still think that in 10 years once that little oneitis has shat out three of your mate's children, developed a coke habit and Jabbamaxxed.
You have to be 18 to post on this board.
>>33305478
>I need to leave my house as well living with my parents is mind draining, but that's just another problem from the pile...
That much is sure. You will look back on this in years to come with mirth.

>>33305506
>You will look back on this in years to come with mirth.
I hope so brother, I hope so.

>>33305506
>shat out three of your mate's children, developed a coke habit and Jabbamaxxed
...we're talking about weight. Why are you randomly inserting your cuck fetish here kek

>>33305548
>canned response no. 12
Same niggers, different board.
I hate this fucking place

>>33305562
I haven't posted here in a week. Nice topic change though. I'm serious - we're talking about weight. Where the fuck did cheating and addiction come from?

>>33305570
I was suggesting that the person I responded to was being idealistic to the point of naivety.
Drugs, kids, all that happened long after we broke up. Having the opportunity to observe all of this through mutual friends was the final nail in the coffin for any residual feelings that were left. 'She got fat' was a suitable summary of my lived experience, sums up her lack of personal responsibility and the way my view of her changed accordingly.
We were talking about OP, mind.

>>33305570
Whatever helps you move on from a shitty partner is helpful.
It's not rocket science.

>>33305570
OP here.
My probably had some sort of mental problem because she was completely unable to show empathy toward me. I don't with her any evil, but one can feel justified if karma gets them and it did get her. But it's beside the point, the worst part is the husk she left behind, me and since them I've been in a streak of Ls that is making me lose sight of myself and my onw emotions.

>>33305478
Even my writing is fucked up, jesus...