I met a Chad and became friends with him and we get along pretty well. One day, I was on a videocall with my girlfriend and Chad appeared asking ''can I say hi?'' so he did and everything was normal. At some point I told my girlfriend I felt insecure about my looks when I compared myself to him, as a response she asked me for his instagram because ''the cam was blurry''

I didn't do it. I would have let it slide but each time I brought him up she asked for his instagram. At some point I confronted her about it and she told me she wanted to make me jealous because it was ''cute'' and because she felt insecure I would lose interest in her (right now we are long distance, we met in person but we had plans to meet in september)

We had an argument, she told me she didn't believe her when she told me she loved me and I really don't, she is too pretty for me but I'm also mad at the fact that she knew I was insecure about my looks and used my friend to make me feel even worse

Have you considered rape?

>>33304243 (OP)
Don't regret it, she's emotionally manipulative. Also, good call on not giving her your homie's contact info. At the very least, you are not a willing cuck and that will take you far.

>>33304243 (OP)
Don't regret it. You were based, OP.

Never simp, don't become a cuck and end the relationship as soon as you sense even a hint of disrespect or manipulation.

You did the right thing.

>>33304243 (OP)
echoing what they said
you made the right call
nothing to regret

>>33304243 (OP)
Women will attempt to make you mad when they are horny so that you will go rough on them. That's why women nag and annoy men. Arguing with them is the wrong move, you gotta hand it to them. Since you have no real relationship you do not have this possibility and so your interest in this lady was doomed. Go out in the real world and get an actual girlfriend not some internet bs.

>>33304243 (OP)
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>>33304575
Such virgin retards with bad advice
OP will always look the same if he's ugly breaking up won't' change that
All you're doing is spurring on his insecurity, he will never have a successful relationship with his mindset

If a woman is going to cheat, it doesn't matter what you or she says, or what you try to prevent cheating will happen one way or another
You either trust or you don't

Or tell me OP, are you never going to get into a relationship ever again because you can't trust that women care for you or think you're attractive? Or even if you do, are you going to keep sabotaging by saying you don't trust them?

>>33304632
I don't mean this in a harsh way, but what am I supposed to do in this situation? I really don't understand why she did it. She said she was scared about losing me and tried to make me jealous so get my attention. But what if I'm just ugly and she just settled with me?

I don't understand her logic at all, did she ever love me?

>>33304632
>OP should stay with a woman who clearly has no respect for him because he has low self-esteem
You're a fucking moron with no life experience. KYS and save the world the trouble.

>>33304660
>She said she was scared about losing me and tried to make me jealous so get my attention
This has nothing to do with being ugly or not, playing childish games like this shows immaturity
Entirely separate issue and you were right to break up for that alone
>But what if I'm just ugly and she just settled with me?
Trust or don't, technically speaking no one ever truly knows if their partner loves them or settles, they make judgements based on actions and experiences, however those are all educated guesses, realistically no one ever objectively knows as anyone can lie or put up a front and the more emotionally involved then the easier it is to lie convincingly/manipulate
>But what if I'm just ugly and she just settled with me?
You sound young, so definitely be careful with throwing around the word love
If you love someone you trust them, if you can't believe what she says in such a serious situation, you don't love her
Sure maybe if you stayed together she would have cheated, but then you have reason not to
She also could have grown and matured and built a great life with you
Again trust or don't

>>33304680
>She also could have grown and matured and built a great life with you
That's my main regret. She did tell me she was willing to change but I needed to trust her but I couldn't bring myself to do that. This whole situation made me realize how broken I feel inside so in a way I'm thankful.

She was really nice in general but she did stupid stuff like this from time to time, or sometimes she liked to play these hypothetical games like ''would you rather sleep with my best friend or me sleeping with your best friend?'' she didn't say this one in particular but she liked those question games that in my opinion are toxic and create unnecessary drama

But I wonder if I made the right call, maybe I was too harsh and extreme when I chose to break up but I was pretty hurt because it triggered all my insecurities and all the walls that I had built collapsed on me

>>33304660
>I don't mean this in a harsh way, but what am I supposed to do in this situation?
(NTA) You need to be a bit more demonstrative about the fact that you love her. She's behaving like this because there's nothing that you do or say that even suggests that you like her; you being jealous of your Chad friend is the only indication she ever gets that you even find her even attractive; and so she deliberately triggers that jealousy because it's the only way she can reassure herself that you care about her. Make it clear in other ways that you love her and find her attractive and she won't feel the need to behave like this any more.

>>33304749
Hm, that's interesting, thank you Anon. It's weird because I did call her beautiful pretty much everyday, and that I loved her and all. It's true that I was a bit overwhelmed lately with general life problems but I did my best to tell her how beautiful she was. But I won't deny that I had other things on my mind (the general problems I was facing). Is it possible that she could have noticed that I wasn't really ''in the moment''?

>>33304774
>Is it possible that she could have noticed that I wasn't really ''in the moment''?
Oh, definitely. Women are very sensitive to that kind of thing. There may also be a "love language" thing going on: some people express love (and want it to be expressed) via words, but other people put much more emphasis on spending quality time together, "acts of service", gifts, or touch. If you are someone who values words, while she is someone who values actions, than simply reassuring her verbally won't cut it; you need to *do* something; and her making you jealous resulted in action rather than words, and in visible strength of emotion rather than you being casual and distracted about it.

In the interests of balance: it is not necessarily the case that you are to blame for this. Some people are too insecure and need more reassurance than it is reasonable to need, and she may be one of those. But it's certainly worth asking yourself if you have done (as opposed to merely said!) enough for her to know how you actually feel.

>>33304844
You might be right. She did say she was sad about the fact that she couldn't spend time with me, like physically hang out with me. We met in person and dated for a couple of months but we've known each other for like a year, then I had to move to another country for work. She did mention once that she felt jealous about the fact that she couldn't be here with me so I don't know, her attitude was a bit immature. I mean I'm perfectly aware of how insecure I am as a person but I internalize it although I did try to open up to her and backfired.

I genuinely thought she just settled with me, at some point, before we started dating; she told me she was really intimidated by really handsome guys, so when she tried to make me jealous with my Chad friend I thought she just settled with me and then I pretty much went on a spiral of negativity

>>33304243 (OP)
You did good. There's no use playing these mind games.

>>33304243 (OP)
>Long distance
Basically pointless

>Wanted to make you jealous
She's a cunt

Consider it a blessing

Also
>Told her you feel insecure
Never open to a woman you're not commited to. Even then, be very careful. Chances are it can and will be used against you in some bullshit argument when she's feeling emotional. And it'll hurt.