Was with my fiancée since my first year of college. Got engaged after graduation. She died in a car crash a year later. Absolutely wrecked me.
Stayed close to her family for the past 3 years, birthdays, death anniversaries, all of it. They’re good people and I care about them.
The thing is, I’ve been seeing someone new for 6 months now. First time I’ve felt even remotely okay again.
But I feel like I’m betraying her family by moving on. Like telling them would just break their hearts all over again. No idea how to say it.
If they want you to remain single and in mourning for the rest of your life, then they don't really love you in my opinion. If they love you, they'd want you to continue with your life and be happy. It's not like you were even married or had kids together with her. And if your dead ex-fiance loved you, she'd want you to be happy, she'd want you to continue with your life as well.
You don't have to stop being friendly with them, maybe some of them will be offended but I think they'd get past that. Maybe you'd have to go your separate ways or maybe it'd be too awkward to stay friends. You're just gonna have to rip the bandage off at some point and tell them and let the chips fall where they may. You don't have to make some awkward announcement at a dinner table about it, just open up to those you're closer to and see how they react, I'm sure they'll tell each other fairly quickly. Maybe they'll be glad for you and hope your new relationship works out. Maybe they blow up and throw stuff at you until you leave and never show your face to them again.
>The thing is, I’ve been seeing someone new for 6 months now. First time I’ve felt even remotely okay again.
You should also make sure you're feeling okay on your own terms or from within rather than from without, rather than from someone else or a honeymoon period with someone new. If you're relying on someone else to be happy or fulfilled then you're likely to be disappointed in the end. I'd recommend getting saved by believing the gospel, that Jesus died for your sins and God raised him the third day if you really want to be okay in the way which matters most.
>>33304434 (OP)They might surprise you by being happy. All this time they could have been thinking "He's a nice boy. He deserves happiness. I hope he finds someone else."
>>33304434 (OP)If they care about you, they don't want you to be lonely and miserable for the rest of your life. I think they'll be much more comfortable with it than you think.
>>33304434 (OP)I ceased convo with my deceased GFs parents at her funeral. Stupid and hurting all parties, especially yourself, by not doing otherwise…
Stop. She would expect better.
