>I am very addicted to my primal urges.
>I binge eat, masturbate excessively, have to very often fight the urge to go see a prostitute (I have spent more money than I would like to admit) and have fallen into depression due to my longing for a companion/partner not being met.
>I have a lack of motivation to the point where I need a reason to get out of bed (like an appointment, or work) and I am a chronic procrastinator (the type that does all the work in the final 2% of time and crashes out).
>probably have ADHD and Autism
How do I gain that unwavering passion for my craft that some people seem to have? I am constantly putting things off, the moment I have free time I binge watch Youtube.
Meanwhile my idols are the type of guys that will spend 2 weeks straight on a project nobody told them to do.
How do I fix myself? Remove my need for love/friends/attention?

>>33307408 (OP)
Same here, I'm interested on this thread because you basically described me in it.
To be honest, I think we are on the spectrum but undiagnosed and never been taught discipline by our parents + frying our brains with modern internet, porn and games.

Same here, bumpin dat sheeet

fuck, that's me
bumping that shit up

>>33307408 (OP)
Are you me?? Holy shit.

>>33307469
>>33308236
>>33308882
I am >>33308888
Glad to see I'm not the only one with this issue

i think we need to just start doing shit, i remember times where i'd quit porn for like 3-4 days and get a ton of stuff done that'd be putting off indefinetly otherwise, gotta get in a loop of being to busy to jack off or think about stuff

I have noticed quite a few people are interested in what can be boiled down to 'how do I beat hedonism'.
Where do we go from here? Make an international friend group? What platform do you guys prefer, Discord?

>>33309947
forgot the image

>>33309947
better than just sitting around

>>33307408 (OP)
I have been dealing with the exact same shit except I know that I don't have ADHD, only autism. It's a struggle to get out of bed every day because it's just so much easier to jerk off and scroll on my phone. It's not like I don't have hobbies either since I've been writing the first draft of a book, I can't stop feeling mentally exhausted no matter what I do.

>>33307408 (OP)
Some ideas I have are:
>Psyop yourself into thinking your projects are a life or death situation must be done immediately with no exceptions. Do it to the point where you feel utter shame and the need to kill yourself the second you start procrastinating.
>Read whatever self help book that people will shill on here.
>Make it easy as hell to begin your projects and really hard to work on anything else (forgot which self help book mentioned this).

>>33307408 (OP)
yeah this described me perfectly

ive been on a week long vacation from work and im really disappointed with the amount of things i did. it's almost over now and i dont have anything to show for it, not even a clean room. it really seems like all i want to do is jerk off, drink, play video games, eat junk food and sleep. it's so shameful.

>>33307408 (OP)
>I am very addicted to my primal urges.
No that's just called poor impulse control

>>33311423
... your point being?
So you would look at a heroin addict, and say they have poor impulse control? Despite the fact there is a very good reason why it is so addictive, and it makes perfect sense for them to fall into it.
Like what exactly are you trying to say here? Seriously aside from literally just kicking a man when he's down what does this post accomplish?
Do you think before you post?

>>33311485
>think about other thing!

>>33307408 (OP)
Go to a psychiatrist/psychologist and ask for CBT and methylphenidate. This will definitely help with ADHD. CBT might also work for the 'tsim as well but I'm not sure. But getting diagnosed is an amazing first step and will help you understand your own behavior. I know form experience that even taking the first step to get an appointment is incredibly difficult but it literally is the only thing that is going to help you
>t. Recently got diagnosed for ADHD-PI

>>33307408 (OP)
I worked the hardest on my hobbies when I had friends with the same interest. It's a good way to motivate yourself to "keep up," and it can go both ways.

This used to be me. To an extent still is. Maybe it's lingering effects, or maybe it's part of the normal human struggle.
Is whatever work you do (when you get to it) rewarding, fulfilling? If no, then you have one answer behind your misery. Find interesting work to do (but don't ask me how, I don't know exactly either as it's largely luck I think. A good starting point would be to start trying your best at whatever you are up to, only after putting effort in you can know well how you feel about something).
Is there any trauma that you have not recovered from, something that made you shelter like this? If yes, then that's an another answer. You need to tear this down in order to leave the shelter permanently. Being sheltered for too long makes it automatically more difficult to leave the shelter as you forget how to live without it, where to seek pleasure outside of it for instance.
Probably a bunch of porn addicts here. A hack that worked for me to beat the compulsion of jerking off to porn was to force myself to watch it with my hands nowhere near the pleasure point. Then learn to release the tension without entertaining yourself with any exciting materials. This un-Pavlov-dogs you from porn. Still you need to then convince yourself firmly that you are better off not Pavlov-dogged by it to make a lasting change. The convincing comes easy if you notice that it distorts your view of women that you encounter, making them less appealing, but at the same time you know that a real connection and love is far better than a connection to a screen or the like.
Hedonism is not a reasonable way really. It's like jerking off for too long without a sip of water. You'd feel better if you took a break from the pleasure and poured yourself a cup of water at some earlier point. Why is reason better than no reason? It's our only weapon against the random odds, really. Though if those are truly random I can't prove that you'll end up better using it. But it's damn likely.

>>33311485
Except you're not on heroin retard, you're a chronic masturbator that eats too much. A much more mundane, controllable issue.
Anyways, a simple fix is when you're horny just do situps or pushups until you're too tired to be horny anymore. This will help with the is a fat fuck problem too. Ultimately you need to realize you're jacking it so much not because you're some helpless addict. It's because you're fucking bored and have too much pent up energy that you either don't know how to or simply refuse to direct toward something more constructive.

>>33312216
Oh look who actually thought before their post for once, you couldn't have said this in the first post?
You're an asshole dude, nobody likes you.

>>33312216
It is literally the same thing to our brains you omega retard. You pretend to be smart but you are the biggest retard in the room.

>>33312029
>Is what work you do rewarding?
Common ADHD symptom is feeling relieved instead of rewarded when doing tasks, the reward system for these people is fucked

>>33312216
Alright I'm gonna man up don't even care if you're trolling.
I'm sorry I lashed out at you dude, it was because I was expecting understanding advice and not someone yelling at me for my faults which I put out publicly while clenching my cheeks.
But you have to not minimize people's problems, if you had read the same stuff as I did you would know that the world we live in is really manipulative and things which seem like character flaws are often not the person's fault. You only have to be in a set of bad circumstances to be an alcoholic or an addict, and then your brain perpetuates the cycle. That's why I brought up heroin addicts as an analogy, because it is similar in THAT way.
Dw, I'm not ngry at you anymore I know you were just trying to be rough to motivate me.

>>33311485
>it makes perfect sense for them to fall into it
nigga... log off lmfao

>>33312419
>Shanigga has never done opiates, has no idea how fucked heroin is as a drug
>Claims it's not understandable why people that try it get addicted
Bait used to be believable, kys if not bait you subhuman