>Work at some building
>we have this "earthquake drill"
>see cute girl from another office
>not sure where she's working
>new year's dinner party
>see her there again, and identified her area by the coworkers she was with
>ask a coworker I kind of know from that area about her
>he tells me about her
>seems she's pretty "quiet", and never leaves the office unless she need to go to the restroom or after the wage ends
>got some work in that area, so decide to introduce myself
>got her name
>do small talk whenever I see her (mostly when she comes to the building to work)
>3 months later, she has a cold
>go and give her some tisues
>next day I ask her how she's doing, she still seems to be sick
>I give her some
cough syrup
>she tells me we need to talk
>asks me what are my intentions by giving her stuff
>not sure what to respond so I just say I wanted to know more about her
>she tells me she's just trying to work, and she's not interested in anything else, also gives back the unopened tissues box and syrup
>feel like shit, I just say sorry and leave
>decide to not bother her again, and whenever she sees me, she seems to hide

I talked to some friends about what happened, I know you won't be liked by everyone (I'm not handsome or charismatic, so it's not surprise), it has been like 3 months since that and I still feel like shit. I continue with my life, a friend told me to just continue improving myself (I practice muay thai, and cooking as pastime), and then when I don't expect it, some nice girl may come, but I don't know... what can I do to forget her? I still feel attracted and I'm the kind who only likes "a girl at a time", but yeah... never been on a relationship before either.

Try killing yourself before writing all that.

>>33308254 (OP)
>green wall of text
I won't read it.

>>33308254 (OP)
Yes. Go find another woman.

>>33308254 (OP)
She was an NPC in your life, her reaction and this exact interaction was always going to happen

>>33308254 (OP)
This is hell, anon. We all died a long time ago. She’s a succubus tasked to torture you.

>>33308254 (OP)
>did I do the right thing?
in what part? pursuing what you wanted or failing at an attempt to do so? what a dumb question. how about "what should I have learned from this bad experience" or "how could I have done this differently"?

>also gives me back the unopened tissue box and syrup
this perplexes me. if she didn't need them then she could've not accepted them straight away. why keep these items up to the point where you both met again? scummy from her to give it back to you.

>says she's not interested in anything else
well shit. just move on, drop the chivalrous persona of giving women what you think they need unprompted and most important of all, move on faster next time you're rejected.

> I know I won't be liked by everyone (I'm not handsome or charismatic)
holy fuck is this something in your head or something people say about you? you got bigger problems than rejection to solve if so. is there anything you can apply motivation to solve or do you think you'll attract women by magic or chance?

>>33308254 (OP)
DO
NOT
SHIT
WHERE
YOU
EAT

>>33308526
well...
how could I have done this differently?

> is this something in your head or something people say about you?
Some friends even "joke" to me telling me I have a "rapist face", I know I have a kind of intimidating aspect, I see people usually run to the other side of the street just to avoid getting near to me whenever I walk. I tried doing exercise and learning some martial arts so I got a better body, but that didn't help either. Even using "formal clothing" doesn't help (also it's uncomfortable). The mask during covid kinda helped but I won't go using that all the time.

>>33308254 (OP)
>when I don't expect it, some nice girl may come
that's the worst dating advice for a regular guy.
you'll have to push yourself again and again to get a partner.
the good news is it will fell really good when it eventually works.

anyway, you tried, she's not interested, life goes on... everything's fine, provided you manage to move on.
>what can I do to forget her?
the cure to oneitis is always the same, you fuck a couple other women.

my /adv/ would be, lower your standards, fuck a fattie/older woman, or several, as a way to learn the game, then work your way up. I know it works because that's the way I did it.

>>33308254 (OP)
>do small talk whenever I see her (mostly when she comes to the building to work)
Small talk doesn't mean friends
>3 months later, she has a cold
>go and give her some tisues
>next day I ask her how she's doing, she still seems to be sick
>I give her some cough syrup
Overstepping way too hard for just a coworker
You can do this if you're friends and/or have hung out outside of work
>it has been like 3 months since that and I still feel like shit
>I still feel attracted
You misread the situation so hard, that in your head all that small talk was actually meaningful to you, so when she told you to fuck off you took it more personal than it was

The reality of the situation from an outside observer is you gathered info about some woman from other people, found out she's relatively focused on work and initiated small talk, thought that meant more than what it did, and then imposed on her in a workplace environment

Are you autistic or antisocial?
I feel like this type of social interaction is extremely easy to navigate

>>33309417
>Are you autistic or antisocial?
I guess I'm antisocial
Also, thanks for your point of view

>>33308254 (OP)
There is nothing wrong in what you did and there is nothing wrong in how she responded. You just had the bad luck of picking someone who doesn't want any kind of relationship complicating her life right now. She told you so politely and you accepted it politely. You now both get on with your lives, mildly regretting that the stars weren't aligned that time.