I’m 24 and I was never really interested in women except when I was horny and jacking off. Always been kinda overweight, never had the drive or confidence to even bother trying with girls. Then like 7 months ago something just... flipped. No idea why. I started hitting the gym, dropped a lot of weight, and for the first time I actually want to talk to women and maybe even date. It’s like my brain switched on overnight. Anyone else had this happen? Why does it feel like I’m suddenly a completely different person?

>>33313609 (OP)
You grew up. Many people don't, so grats!

>>33313671
Really? Just that? It feels like my world changed without me knowing, like I just woke up

>>33313671
this and the fact you said you said you hit the gym a lot and lost a lot of weight meaning your testosterone must've gone up causing you to want to seek out female attention more

>>33313752
Probably right, it just feels kinda weird but in a good way

>>33313609 (OP)
In some people exercise is an effective treatment for depression.

>>33313902
Yeah this sounds more like dude was depressed and exercise got him out of that mindset

>>33313671
MY ENTIRE WORLD REVOLVES AROUND GETTING PUSSY BECAUSE I'M MUNDANE AND BORING AND A SLAVE TO MY BIOLOGY

kill yourself

I was on a 4 year dry spell from 20-24 after having a chad-like experience in High school. All of a sudden my job a female started showing interest in me for the first time in years. after that i started taking care of myself and dating casually.

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/ugqI2bP-n8s

>>33315261
when did 4chan get filled with fucking normalfags holy shit this place used to be full of degenerates like me

>>33313609 (OP)
I spent all my childhood and teens jerking off, staring at walls and playing videogames. In my early 20s I started going to the gym, doing sports, learning skills like musical instruments, working for my career...
Before then, I didn't know any emotion other than melancholy. After, I started feeling envy, anger happiness, and love. These emotions were new to me and they pushed me to work hard to get what I now wanted. I also started being attracted to girls and having sexual desires too.
I have no idea what the fuck was wrong with me in my youth, no other person IRL can relate or understand. Some idiots even strive to ascend to a state like the one I was in because they think that having needs and wants is a bad thing, but I would never want to go back.
My only regret are all the wasted years. If I started playing piano at 10 like normal kids, I would be good at it now. I don't have enough time to pursue all my interests now. And no interest in girls means that I have no experience with dating and socializing and now that I want to I don't know what to do and so I'm an incel.
But to me it didn't happen overnight, it was a slow awakening. It was the worst in the first year because even though I had desires and emotions, I didn't have the mindset and the skills to deal with them and work to pursue them.

>>33315333
Man, I feel this so much. It’s like I only just started feeling emotions I didn’t even know I was capable of. I picked up cooking and now I try to make something new every time I have the chance. I even got into sewing just because I thought it was neat. I stopped playing video games completely and actually started wanting to do stuff and be social.

But like you, I have no clue how to actually start making friends or how to get into dating. I had some online friends but when I told them how I felt, how I actually wanted to live and try things, they basically thought I was crazy or weak. It’s wild how waking up to life like this can make you feel like a stranger in your own skin.

It wasn’t overnight for me either but now that I’m here, I just wish I hadn’t wasted so many years being numb to everything

Take this experience and keep moving forward. Don’t get stuck on the hamster wheel of this retarded website.

>>33313609 (OP)
men's brains continue developing until their early 30's, so it could be that. I had something similar happen, I was chubby and one day I decided enough was enough and later that week I went to the gym for the first time, and 2 years later I've stuck with it. I look really different now and women treat me differently too.

>>33313752
Also this. I track my test levels periodically (if you live in America you can go to Quest Diagnostics and get your own bloodwork done) and my test went from 325 ng/dl before lifting, to 650 ng/dl a year in. Haven't measured it since but I'm pretty sure it's even higher now. One big thing is I have more energy and I'm just happier and in a better mood overall.

>>33315306
it was even more normcore in 2008 because Reddit and other social media sites weren't big back then. It's more niche now desu

>>33313609 (OP)
Actually, yes: Six weeks ago. I've been calling it my "midlife crisis", despite being in my early thirties.
I'm still reeling from the plethora of deaths of important people in my life this year — their deaths putting my own short lifespan front and centre in my mind's eye;
and I got far too enthusiastic when hugging my crush of 18 years, with whom I still meet on occasion to this day, around the same time.
I'm still grappling with how far I want push talking about my feelings for her. I admitted to them to her last time we met. I fucking regret I kept it under wraps this long.
She's now been long-term with someone else. I was fine with just watching her get on with her own life until six weeks ago; now it just hurts.

But yeah, I want to go date, find a special woman in my life and have kids with her. No idea, how to get step one done.
Six weeks prior, I was content with filling my life otherwise. Now I'm not.
Fucking wish this switch happened ten years ago, though.

>>33313609 (OP)
Are you me?

>>33315097
>fat bastard thinks he’s not a slave to his biology
lmao

>>33315802
Honestly im surprised how many people have gone through the same thing

>>33316158
I'd say it feels like I've been an unwitting participant of the MK Ultra program.

>>33316220
Being MK Ultra for the better, I can't complain if that is what happened

Welcome to growing up. The whole "18 means you're an adult" idea is poison and makes growing up far too confusing.

>>33313609 (OP)

>>33315503
How much does it cost to get your test tested in Murica?

>>33313671
>growing up is becoming a slave to pussy

>>33316639
Can't be THAT bad, horror stories are quite wide-spread though

>>33318694
shitty men that give up on trying are quite wide spread

>>33318773
How are they shitty for giving up?