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7/4/2025, 1:29:39 PM No.33314256
I recently graduated with a degree in Software Engineering. I finished top of my class (cum laude) and was active in extracurriculars and the Honours program.
Now that I am done with university, I am not really sure what I want to do next.
I did a traineeship about a year and a half ago at a bank. My manager from back then just reached out to me. She wrote a recommendation letter for me at the time and I guess I left a good impression. She is really kind and I remember the people at the company were great. When I left the traineeship I actually had tears in my eyes. It was a really positive experience in terms of people and culture.
She offered me a medior software engineering position as that bank. The salary would be 80000 euros gross, which is very generous. I have not even updated LinkedIn or made a graduation post yet so this caught me by surprise.
Here is the problem though. I just do not care about the kind of work they do. The product does not interest me at all. I am really passionate about programming and building things and I want to feel excited about what I do. Ideally I would work somewhere with a product or mission I actually care about. I also noticed that many of the devs at the bank are not as into coding as I am. One senior once asked me how I could actually enjoy it. That moment stuck with me.
So now... I'm kind of torn. On one hand this offer feels like a huge opportunity. It is stable, well paid, and with people I already like. On the other hand I do not see myself staying there long term. I am worried I will burn out of just feel stuck. But I also wonder if I am being too picky. What if I say no and do not get another offer like this?
I know this is kind of a privileged situation to be in but it still feels confusing.
Has anyone been in a similar spot? Did you go with the safe offer or hold out for something that felt more right? What would you do?
Thanks for reading. I really appreciate any honest thoughts.
Now that I am done with university, I am not really sure what I want to do next.
I did a traineeship about a year and a half ago at a bank. My manager from back then just reached out to me. She wrote a recommendation letter for me at the time and I guess I left a good impression. She is really kind and I remember the people at the company were great. When I left the traineeship I actually had tears in my eyes. It was a really positive experience in terms of people and culture.
She offered me a medior software engineering position as that bank. The salary would be 80000 euros gross, which is very generous. I have not even updated LinkedIn or made a graduation post yet so this caught me by surprise.
Here is the problem though. I just do not care about the kind of work they do. The product does not interest me at all. I am really passionate about programming and building things and I want to feel excited about what I do. Ideally I would work somewhere with a product or mission I actually care about. I also noticed that many of the devs at the bank are not as into coding as I am. One senior once asked me how I could actually enjoy it. That moment stuck with me.
So now... I'm kind of torn. On one hand this offer feels like a huge opportunity. It is stable, well paid, and with people I already like. On the other hand I do not see myself staying there long term. I am worried I will burn out of just feel stuck. But I also wonder if I am being too picky. What if I say no and do not get another offer like this?
I know this is kind of a privileged situation to be in but it still feels confusing.
Has anyone been in a similar spot? Did you go with the safe offer or hold out for something that felt more right? What would you do?
Thanks for reading. I really appreciate any honest thoughts.
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