Why don’t girls like me

4chan, what else?

>>33314267 (OP)
No matter how handsome and charismatic you are, if you're poor you will never get a girl. 50yo Saudi princes get 14yo concubines and that's because they have money and they own the laws.

>>33314267 (OP)
Did you even made an approach, if so...care to elaborate?.

>>33314483
I use dating apps but I very rarely get matches, and I’ve only had real success like twice. I went out with this girl that I been talking to and she ghosted me after our first date. It really hurts cause I liked her alot. Idk what I did wrong, she was really into me until our first date and she ghosted me after. Idk if I’m ugly or what but it hurts

>>33314267 (OP)
Why do you care? Some girl out there will like you. You would know if you were incredibly ugly because people don't tend to let you go about it ignorantly when it's the case. You'll be fine. Stay on the apps if you like, but I recommend you branch out.

>>33314267 (OP)
Sub 5

>>33314521
I don’t know where else to meet girls, and I’m afraid I’m going to be alone forever because I struggle so much with girls. Even when I’m able to land a date and things go well I usually never get a second date. Out of all the dates I’ve been on using dating apps I’ve only had long term success with 3 of them. I do t know what’s wrong with me, if it’s my looks, personality, voice or all of the above but it makes me feel like shit. And it makes me feel even worse when I see so many people on Reddit and other places brag about their success stories and how the hookup with a new girl every other day and it makes me feel like I’m not good enough.

>>33314544
How old are you, anon? What do you do for a living?

>>33314559
I’m 26. I work as a server at the moment but I just finished school to get my EMT license. I’m planning on going to fire school when I get my certification to become a fire fighter but I have little to no motivation to move further with my career goals because I just feel so lonely and like such a failure with women. I’m scared that I’m never going to find a loyal, loving girlfriend and I don’t see the point in working towards a future that I’ll just be lonely in,

>>33314580
nta but before ya find ya soulmate, find ya soul, mate. do all the small things and the big things will fall into place, & have faith

>>33314580
>fireman
Bitches will be all over your dick.

>>33314580
Definitely dont hastily pursue becoming a firefighter dude. Women get the worst kind of ick for firefighters, you stupid fucking retard

>>33314599
>>33314694
>>33314756
Girls are only half the problem, I also struggle a lot with pretty severe OCD. I have constant intrusive thoughts that force me to preform compulsive rituals that absolutely mentally, physically and emotionally exhaust me. That paired with my struggles to find a girl have really diminished any motivation or hope I’ve had for my future. The way things look now, all I have to look forward to at the end of all my schooling is a decent career with a lonely one bedroom apartment as I struggle and lose my sanity more and more to this mental illness. I take medication for it that helps a little, but there’s no medicine that can’t stop you from thinking, you know? I’m just not sure I want to work towards a future I know I’ll be miserable in. I’m in a really fucked up spot in life right now and I’m not sure what to do. I’d be lying if I said suicide dosent cross my mind at least a few times a day. It’s just all so exhausting.

>>33314267 (OP)
You never bothered to learn what they like.
Read "Fifty Shades of Grey" and you'll understand what they like.
Rollo Tomassi is a scientist that studies women's attraction, read his books.

>>33314809
hobbies help with mental distress, find the right one, and ya might find the one
>gardening, playing a sport/instrument, etc.

girls like me but I'm so shy and autistic

>>33315159
I'm the same way; I often get the female gaze, but I freeze up and don't know how to handle the attention. Its funny because its not the lack of pussy that makes men depressed, its all women treaing them like sub-humans everywhere they go. women smiling at me and being nice/flirty with me makes my day. Men truly do crave female validation

>>33314756
a woman who gets turned off by firefighters is a walking red flag. who cares

>>33315169
>>33315159
Okays femcel

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/ugqI2bP-n8s

Women isn't attracted to who man is, she is attracted to what man does

>>33315198
so your saying its not over for me if I'm 5'4 bald, with no dating experience? just have to have money? and go to gym?

>>33315201
You just have to talk to them relentlessly, all the time. They'll hate it at first but the less you learn to care the more you'll learn to do what they like.
Just don't get fired or put in jail.

Learn to be fearless first, then you can learn to be nice and fearless at the same time

>>33315207
Just like go into gas stations and grab something that's for sale on the shelf and start blabbing on it, don't ever talk about yourself. Comment on her clothing, her hair, anything. Get her to talk about herself .
You'll make mistakes, fuck your mistakes, there are billions of girls for practice

>>33314267 (OP)
>Why don’t girls like me
Picrel. Return to shitistan and marry one of your cousins.

>>33314267 (OP)
>>33314809
Do you like you?

>>33316786
Not particularly, no. But that’s mainly due to the fact that I can’t get a girlfriend. If I had a loving and loyal girlfriend I would be extremely happy.

>inb4 no you wouldn’t, you’re putting relationships on a pedestal

Yes I would. When I was with my ex for three years I was extremely happy and confident. They were some of the best years of my life. Ever since she left my life has gone downhill. I’ve been trying to find a replacement for her but I keep failing. I must be ugly or autistic or something.

>>33315172
>Can't read sarcasm

>>33316786
NTA but I'm not convinced thats a prerequisite

>>33316804
Yeah, I don't get why people fucking everywhere keep spamming this bullshit of you need to love yourself/be happy alone before you get a relationship. My first gf was my best one too and I was improving myself by default because I was happy to do everything, not forcing myself.

>>33316804
Why did she leave you? There are always reasons.

And as others have said, if you don't like yourself, people can sense it and figure why should they like you then?

>>33318629
You just demonstrated exactly why you need to love yourself. You relied on someone else's validation to improve, now you don't have that validation so you don't enjoy life anymore. Validate yourself, anon. It's really important.

>>33318695
If people were happy by themselves nobody would get into relationships. Are you a 30yo KHHV wizard since you're all about being happy by yourself? Fucking retard. You sound like a female with your moronic points.

Don't be hard on yourself. The reality is that dating has systemic problems in the Western world for most men.

Unless you are a very attractive guy, most guys are struggling in having a decent dating experiences. And many are completely invisible.

The systemic problems ranges from demographics, increased preference in good looking people, the independence and economic power of women, globalized economy and traveling and the unbalanced reality of dating apps.

Women now can choose the best looking guys to hangout with the dating apps. It's like a catalog for them.

Nowadays, a woman question herself of "Why eat the same thing everyday, when I can taste a variety of things in the menu?"

>>33318700
A partner should enrich your life but you should be able to stay fixed on your path without her - it makes you more attractive to her as well. It's especially important as a man, because women want to come along for the ride with you. Think about you driving to go do something and the woman jumps in the car with you. You'd do it regardless, but her being there makes it more fun. Your defensiveness betrays insecurity which is unattractive. The reason I'm telling you what I'm telling you is because I've gone through it myself and it was a hard lesson to learn. I'm not trying to put you down, I'm trying to help you. Keeping a relationship without being secure in your own purpose is very difficult.

>>33318718

It is very very difficult for a man to be happy by himself. Men has testosterone which makes him prone to think about women all day long.

But it is not impossible for a man to be happy by himself. I know a few cases, in which they went to be very selfish about their lives or went to the religious/spiritual route.

>>33318732
Yes, it's difficult, but anything worth doing is difficult. You will never be perfect at it, or anything else you strive to do. It's a continuous process you'll strive for your entire life. All I'm saying is that this process is necessary. The stronger you are in your own purpose and in your own head, when you're all by yourself with just your thoughts, the better off you'll be, and the more attractive you'll be as well. It's so important to love yourself. Not in an egotistical/narcissistic way. But just understanding and accepting who you are.

The fact that so few people can achieve it is what makes it so attractive. Others seek a confident, self-assured man, because his emotional security is like a rock they can hold onto through their own instability. Women especially seek this out on an instinctual level. Because their hormonal fluctuations make it almost impossible for them to achieve this on their own. If a man is not secure in himself, it makes his woman lose confidence in him. It happened to me personally a few times before I finally learned.

>>33318767

But you realize that single manhood is a process of many years. You won't get at that level of "achievement_that_makes_so_attractive" in a matter of 1, 2 or 5 years.

The problem is the small window a young adult man has to have satisfactory relationships.

Some of these single men I know that got the "achievement_that_makes_so_attractive" level, are still very immature and awkward despite of being old themselves (40+).

Reminds me the Nexus 6 from Blade Runner movie. They were very capable to be proud of, but in relationship with others, they were still children.

This is the process of a man without constant relationships, he results in a man-child.

>>33318807
Yeah that’s basically me. I didn’t have my first and only relationship till I was 22, by then the autism had already done irreversible damage. I’m 26 and I still play video games, like legos, and come up with fantasy situations in my head. I’m far too gone to ever be able to get another relationship. I think at this point all I can really do is kill myself. I used to be decent looking but I’ve definitely become uglier as I’ve aged. All my dates lead nowhere (they can probably sense my autism), and I’m not really interested in spending an entire life in isolation and loneliness. I’m basically shit outta luck

>>33318819
fuck you. Bastard your innocence is your saving grace. Don't throw that away. Never ever ever again say that about yourself for enjoying small things during long isolation.

>>33314267 (OP)
They can tell you're a shitposting evil pervert incel freak just from being in your general presence. Try being a better person mmkay sweetie?

>>33318822
Nigga the fuck? All that shit I listed fucking sucks. I would trade it in for being a normal adjusted adult with a loyal girl by my side in a heartbeat.

>>33318840
nah man I'm writing this from a psych ward. You can still go back before the suicide shit. Fuck women don't let them drag you down so far as I let society drag me.

I want to kill myself. What is the point in living life if you’re doing it miserably lonely? I have no problem attracting women, it’s just as soon as they get to know me they lose interest. Just fucked up my second chance with a girl who’s not “normal” (like me) and although I have no idea what I did wrong I know I did do something wrong. A lot of thing seemed to indicate she was indeed into me and didn’t see me
as “just a friend”, like earlier in the date she implied that I’d be going back to hers. I’ll try not to let it stop me but it’s times like these where I think I might be unlovable

>>33314267 (OP)
well, what do they like?
If you want a 1 sentence answer, the answer is money.
We could give a lot longer answer, but 1 sentence gets you ~60% of the way there.

>>33319630
Your whole mentality is weird, anon. No shit she doesn't see you as "just a friend" if she went on a date with you. That's no longer a question, she's already opened herself up to your sexual advances.

I have no idea how you fucked it up either if she was talking about taking you back to her place. Literally all you'd have to do at that point is keep playing it cool. What the hell did you do/say to change her mind? Did you start talking about the jews or something?

>>33320002
I thought I was playing it cool, but obviously I fucked it up somewhere along the way. genuinely gut wrenching, I thought I’d finally found someone. I am so sick of being so horribly lonely

>>33321155
it's hard to tell, i'll tell you my guy. i really can't work out what it is without more context but i can tell you one girl left me because i made a comment that was too advanced for the vibe, that i hadn't suspected at all till i found out later. so in your case you might've said something to her that put her off, but it wasn't obvious because girls will let ppl down really really slowly even after they've made the decision to. i'd say ask one of her friends.

>>33319630
This is exactly what happened with me. Was talking to a “abnormal” girl I really liked for a month. We went on our first date and despite her flirting and breaking the touch barrier, she basically ghosted me until I told her it seemed she was distant, and she said she wasn’t feeling good but she thinks we’d be better as friends. I assume I fucked up somewhere because she touched my hand a couple of times and hinted that we should go to the beach for our next date, but after I texted her after the date she was super dry and took a literal day to respond. Is there anything I can do to get a second chance with her? I feel like if I had looked a little more presentable during the date and maybe took a shot beforehand it would’ve went better. What did you do to get a second chance?

>>33321171
>i made a comment that was too advanced for the vibe
I think it was potentially this along with a couple other hiccups. Didn’t make any major fuck-ups, think it was an accumulation of small things. I just don’t get it, we truly, genuinely connected last night. Time fucking flew by and her eyes looked so beautifully alive when talking to me.
As far as asking her friends goes, she doesn’t really have many so I’m shit out of luck there

>>33314369
Some of the poorest jobless mfkers I know have dated so I don't think that's the case. They do struggle to keep them of course.

>>33314369
Why live

>>33321314
Her reasoning was basically that she didn’t feel mentally stable enough to be in a relationship right now, which I don’t know how I feel about. Like I think that’s really fair, I’ve been there myself, but it also seems like there’s more to it than that. Broken people help each other heal all the time and I think a relationship like that would be truly beautiful. Maybe that’s just me though and women don’t want that
>What did you do to get a second chance?
Hard for me to say as to whether you have a second chance but here’s what happened with me.
She’s a coworker, and initially on the first 2 dates things were a little awkward and before the 3rd date she ended up saying the same thing she said last night about not being ready for a relationship. Afterwards I was understandably upset for a couple days and didn’t interact with her much, but pretty soon I decided “fuck it, I enjoy interacting with her” and started just talking to her again at work without being obviously butthurt or pushy. Reckon I definitely still showed that I had feelings for her, but I wasn’t completely overt or over the top about it.
Played it cool basically. Figured that I was willing to wait for her.
Then right around when I came to the conclusion that nothing was gonna happen between us the very next day we had a coworker ask her semi jokingly whether she’d go on a date with me, to which she said yes. Joked with her about it but then actually asked her out again, to which she obviously said yes. I am absolutely gutted that she has ended up rejecting me again, really thought it was going somewhere last night. First time I’ve really connected with a woman in a long long time

>>33321362
>reasoning was basically that she didn’t feel mentally stable enough to be in a relationship right now
This has happened to me too.

>>33321391
What are your thoughts on it bro?

>>33321399
I did some snooping and found out she got back with her ex. I think it's just bs when they say that

>>33321403
i think there are times when it’s legit, but otherwise yeah i agree

>>33321362
What happened during the date?

Do you think there’s any chance I can save things between me and this girl? I genuinely really liked her because she was really artsy like me and I thought things were going well. I genuinely think if I got another date I could do a better job. Is there anything I can say/do?

>>33321545
Again bro it’s hard to say whether you have a chance or not when there’s not much context. Basically you can’t be asking her for another date unless she makes it seem like she does want one. Just be your best yourself but try to do so without any expectations (as hard as that is)
>What happened during the date?
We talked more about our families, she seemed wary of overstepping and I since I’m a man I’m conditioned to not share much about my hardships so perhaps I fucked up and didn’t share enough but regardless we bonded over how family can be difficult. It seemed like she really opened up to me so I thought things were going fucking amazing desu until we left the venue and I tried to initiate physical contact. Fucken heartbroken if I’m being transparent, I thought we had a genuine connection there and perhaps we did but obviously not enough of one for her to go “fuck it lets see where this goes”

+56 9 4278 2256 She's a girl I met at a party and if anyone is interested, I could be her partner maybe. He's name is Carla true

Bump

>>33314369
as someone's who's a literal millionaire, but also a 135-pound ambiguously autistic manlet who's had a single gf in his life about a decade ago, I can tell you that money has played a very small role in my love life. I've been on tinder, okcupid, bumble, and even duolicious for years and it's practically impossible to find someone worthwhile. I met my ex on okcupid a decade ago and it was only after she got ran through by a couple guys who pumped and dumped her a few months before I got to her. None of that had anything to do with money. I was a broke college student in his early 20s then, and I'm a home owner in my 30s now. Don't listen to chuds who tell you you'll hit your prime in your 30s as a man on the dating market. It only gets harder.

>>33314267 (OP)
you are probably very boring just like me

>>33314267 (OP)

Once you learn about the true nature of women you'll stop giving a shit if women like you or not.

>>33314267 (OP)
You have nothing to offer.

LESBIAN FEMCELS OUT OF HERE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

>>33325426
You are only as atttactive as your looks + social skills, at least for women in their 20s.

No woman cares for your middle-class level money like having an apartment or a car more than you being handsome/presentable.

In fact flaunting your money will only get you exploited if you dont know how to protect yourself

>>33325426
Do you show off your money? It only works if you show off your money, by posing with expensive clothes, cars, houses, yachts, travel pictures, etc. Otherwise, how would anyone know you have money?

>>33327433
>Do you show off your money?
Seems pretty trashy

>>33327748
Trashy... or stylish.

>>33327748
>>33327825

>>33321334
Some women have a motherly savior mindset to their detriment. They want to tend to and care for the unemployed guy because they feel bad for them. Also they have all the time in the world to give them attention. Women usually phase out of this by their mid 20's once they start looking at traits that would make a guy a good father.