We met as coworkers. We are really similar and became extremely close (hanging out outside of work, late night facetimes, going on trips together). She was having a rough patch with her long distance boyfriend and at some point I became deluded and thought something might happen between us, but he moved here and now they are together again and we no longer talk like we used to.

I'm aware that nothing will happen between us. My choices are to either end the friendship (which I don't want as she is the closest thing to a best friend I have had) or to continue like this (which I also don't want because it fucking eats away at my inner peace). If you have been in a similar situation please tell me what actually makes these feelings go the fuck away.

she's on the shelf for now
finding a new chick will not only keep you occupied, but also increase your value to other women

>>33314659
You mean being the desperate nice guy best friend for a chick that isn't sexually interested in him isn't attractive???????

>>33314659
I figure, but I think I'm too ugly right now. My current hinge matches are not the kind of women I find attractive. I think I need a couple months in the gym to get myself to a place where I can attract women who I'm actually attracted too

>>33314668
I know it sounds like I was a desperate nice guy and it was totally one-sided, but it is actually a very close mutual friendship. She would tell me that she missed me, she would call (and still does, just less frequently now) and send me little updates about her life. That's what makes it hard, if it was just one-sided I could understand and let go of her easier by telling myself she never really cared. But she did care about me, a lot. It's my own fault that I caught feelings and now need to either shove them in a box or end the friendship.

>>33314696
She was using you as an emotional support vessel in place of her boyfriend because he wasn't there physically. He's there now and hes fucking her. What exactly is your goal now? To be the fucking ghee whiz friend that she complains about her boyfriend to? Jesus man go find another bitch. She'll be attracted to you if you ignore her and fuck other women.

>>33314743
>She was using you as an emotional support vessel in place of her boyfriend because he wasn't there physically.
Yeah, I'm starting to realize that. Is that what friendship between men and women ultimately boils down to?

>What exactly is your goal now?
I guess I want to recapture that emotional connection because I enjoyed it as well, but I understand that it won't be with her, so I need to find someone else. Thanks for your advice

>>33314753
>friendship
>men and women
Not possible. You did nothing wrong. Just move on though. It's over. Gl amigo

>>33314753
>Yeah, I'm starting to realize that. Is that what friendship between men and women ultimately boils down to?

Yes.